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What Should I Do with My Disappointments in Marriage?

Struggling with disappointment in your marriage—whether from serious unmet expectations, your spouse's sin, or just natural differences in personality and preferences?

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What Should I Do with My Disappointments in Marriage?

Struggling with disappointment in your marriage—whether from serious unmet expectations, your spouse's sin, or just natural differences in personality and preferences?

What Should I Do with My Disappointments in Marriage?

The Power and Poison of Labels: How Name‑Calling Destroys Intimacy in Marriage

In a culture where name-calling and toxic labels fuel contempt and division, this powerful message warns how the same poisonous words—like “narcissist,” “crazy,” or “toxic”—are creeping into Christian marriages, destroying intimacy, hardening hearts, and predicting divorce.

The Power and Poison of Labels: How Name‑Calling Destroys Intimacy in Marriage

The Real Deal: A Father's Silent Sacrifice, And The Daughter Who Saw It All

Husbands and fathers: Discover the profound story of an Indian man's decades-long quiet faithfulness—loving his wife through severe mental illness without retaliation, modeling Christ, and leaving a legacy that helped his daughter trust God's love.

The Real Deal: A Father's Silent Sacrifice, And The Daughter Who Saw It All

No Monks, No Nuns: She Didn't Take A Vow Of Silence And He Didn't Take A Vow of Celibacy

Tired of feeling like roommates in your own marriage? This powerful message unpacks the simple but life-changing truth “No monks, no nuns” – he didn’t sign up for celibacy, she didn’t sign up for silence.

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No Monks, No Nuns: She Didn't Take A Vow Of Silence And He Didn't Take A Vow of Celibacy

Her Request For Love Can Sound Disrespectful, and His Request For Respect Can Sound Unloving

Ever wonder why your cry for love comes out sounding like disrespect… and his plea for respect feels completely unloving?

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Her Request For Love Can Sound Disrespectful, and His Request For Respect Can Sound Unloving

The A.R.T. of Fighting Fair in Marriage

Turn heated marriage fights into fair, faith-filled wins with A-R-T.

The A.R.T. of Fighting Fair in Marriage

“I Don’t Want to Be Right… I Just Know That I Am” (A Psychological and Biblical Perspective)

Discover why "I don't want to be right—I just know I am" quietly poisons marriages through hidden biases and pride.

“I Don’t Want to Be Right… I Just Know That I Am” (A Psychological and Biblical Perspective)

Understanding the Marital Misfire: When Intent Is Misread

Discover why marital fights often stem from misread intentions rather than malice—learn to decode the "Crazy Cycle" of unloved feelings and disrespect, and gain practical steps to clarify, repair, and reconnect.

Understanding the Marital Misfire: When Intent Is Misread

He Doesn’t Think “I’m Sorry” Is A Big Deal, But I Do, So Now What?

Unlock simple, respectful scripts to heal everyday marriage hurts when your husband skips "I'm sorry"—transforming frustration into profound connection using proven wisdom from 52 years of real-life love and respect.

He Doesn’t Think “I’m Sorry” Is A Big Deal, But I Do, So Now What?

How We Undermine Our Marriage Without Knowing It

Discover how well-meaning actions can unintentionally harm your marriage in this insightful podcast.

How We Undermine Our Marriage Without Knowing It

Women Are More Integrated, Men Are More Compartmentalized

This podcast explores the distinct ways men and women process emotions in marriage, highlighting women’s integrated and men’s compartmentalized natures.

Women Are More Integrated, Men Are More Compartmentalized

Small Conflicts Prepare Us for Big Ones

Discover how small conflicts in marriage can strengthen your relationship for life's bigger challenges.

Small Conflicts Prepare Us for Big Ones

All Feelings, No Facts: A Biblical Call for Truth in Claims of Abuse and Divorce

Drawing from personal trauma of witnessing severe physical and verbal abuse, this compelling podcast urges Christian women and friends to demand facts over feelings in abuse claims.

All Feelings, No Facts: A Biblical Call for Truth in Claims of Abuse and Divorce

Stepping on Air Hoses - How Honest Misunderstandings Trigger The Crazy Cycle

Emerson breaks down the core misunderstandings between men and women that fuel conflict in marriage.

Stepping on Air Hoses - How Honest Misunderstandings Trigger The Crazy Cycle

“My Version Only?” - When One Side Speaks for Two… and Tells the Whole World Online

Dive into "My Version Only” with Emerson, a compelling podcast that exposes the dangers of one-sided storytelling in relationships, especially when aired publicly online.

“My Version Only?” - When One Side Speaks for Two… and Tells the Whole World Online

The Five-Step Word Picture: How Conversations Get Off Track, And How to Get Them Back On Track - Part 2

In part 2 Emerson continues to explore how conversations can spiral into emotional conflicts, but how couples can learn practical steps to keep on track.

The Five-Step Word Picture: How Conversations Get Off Track, And How to Get Them Back On Track - Part 2

The Five-Step Word Picture: How Conversations Get Off Track, And How to Get Them Back On Track - Part 1

Emerson begins the discussion in this two part podcast on the common pitfalls in marital communication, emphasizing how discussions can quickly derail from factual issues to emotional conflicts.

The Five-Step Word Picture: How Conversations Get Off Track, And How to Get Them Back On Track - Part 1

10 Questions Every Spouse Must Ask In The Gray Zone Of Conflict?

In this episode Emerson looks at the complexities of conflict in marriage, emphasizing the importance of understanding personal preferences, avoiding contempt, and maintaining respect for differing beliefs.

10 Questions Every Spouse Must Ask In The Gray Zone Of Conflict?

Understanding Adultery: A Biblical Perspective

In this week’s episode, discover a powerful exploration of adultery's spiritual and emotional impact, rooted in biblical truth.

Understanding Adultery: A Biblical Perspective

Same Goal, Different Method - Part 2

In Part 2, Emerson continues talking about the importance of shared vision in relationships, providing a four-step framework for navigating differences and emphasizing the significance of faith, formation, and fruitfulness in marriage.

Same Goal, Different Method - Part 2

Same Goal, Different Method - Part 1

Emerson emphasizes that while couples often share common goals, they may have different strategies for achieving them in part one of this two part podcast.

Same Goal, Different Method - Part 1

Appreciating The Other's Know-How

In this week’s episode Emerson looks at the essential contributions that both husbands and wives bring to a marriage, emphasizing the importance of appreciation and understanding each other's unique strengths.

Appreciating The Other's Know-How

The Respect Effect of Wives and The Love From Above From Husbands

Emerson discusses the transformative power of unconditional love and respect in marriage with this inspiring podcast for wives and husbands seeking a deeper connection. Based on Ephesians 5:33, explore how a wife’s respect can unlock her husband’s heart and a husband’s Christ-like love can soften his wife’s spirit, featuring real testimonies and practical prayers to align your relationship with God’s design.

The Respect Effect of Wives and The Love From Above From Husbands

A Wife’s Call to Guard Against Emotional Generalizations

Hear Emerson’s pastor’s heart and call to wives to guard against emotional generalizations in marriage in this week’s episode.

A Wife’s Call to Guard Against Emotional Generalizations

Is Communication The Key To Marriage? No, It's Mutual Understanding - Part 2

In part 2, Emerson continues to discuss the key to a successful marriage is not merely communication, but mutual understanding.

Is Communication The Key To Marriage? No, It's Mutual Understanding - Part 2

Is Communication The Key To Marriage? No, It's Mutual Understanding - Part 1

Emerson discusses the complexities of communication in marriage in this two part podcast series, emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding over mere exchange of words.

Is Communication The Key To Marriage? No, It's Mutual Understanding - Part 1

Seeing Jesus Over The Shoulder of My Spouse

This episode explores the biblical principles of love and respect in marriage, emphasizing the importance of obedience to Christ over personal feelings.

Seeing Jesus Over The Shoulder of My Spouse

Our Value – God-Given, Not Spouse-Driven

In this week’s episode Emerson talks about the critical theme of self-worth in the context of relationships, particularly marriage.

Our Value – God-Given, Not Spouse-Driven

In The Heat Of The Moment: Six Quick And Easy Ways To Prevent The Crazy Cycle

Discover six quick and easy strategies to break the cycle of negative interactions in your relationship in this podcast episode.

In The Heat Of The Moment: Six Quick And Easy Ways To Prevent The Crazy Cycle

Grace Under Fire: A Wife's Journey Through Her Husband's Anger

Emerson addresses the complexities of anger in marriage, particularly focusing on how wives can navigate their husbands' anger while fostering respect and understanding.

Grace Under Fire: A Wife's Journey Through Her Husband's Anger

The Challenges of Elevating Personal Feelings and Experiences Over Scripture

In this week’s episode, Emerson discusses the importance of prioritizing Scripture over personal feelings and experiences, especially in the context of marriage.

The Challenges of Elevating Personal Feelings and Experiences Over Scripture

4 Christ-Centered Commitments Sarah and I Aim To Honor In Our Marriage

In this conversation, Emerson shares four Christ-centered commitments that he and his wife, Sarah, strive to uphold in their marriage.

4 Christ-Centered Commitments Sarah and I Aim To Honor In Our Marriage

The Husband’s Key Within; How Self-awareness Unlocks The Door To Marital Success

In this episode, Emerson Eggerichs discusses the importance of self-awareness in marriage, particularly for husbands.

The Husband’s Key Within; How Self-awareness Unlocks The Door To Marital Success

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 4

In the final episode of this podcast series Emerson continues to look at the common struggle of hardening our hearts in marriage when hurt or misunderstood, encouraging viewers to look beyond their pain and find hope for reconciliation.

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 4

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 3

In marriage, recurring conflicts often lead to emotional shutdowns and hardened hearts, resulting in a “crazy cycle” of unloving and disrespectful reactions. Emerson continues the discussion in part 3, revealing how, despite our natural defensive tendencies, adopting a heart of love and respect—as Jesus taught—can heal these rifts and restore connection.

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 3

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 2

In episode 2 Emerson continues to explore the painful reality of “hardness of heart” in marriage, a concept rooted in unmet needs, unintentional hurt, and self-protective behaviors that build emotional walls between spouses.

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 2

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 1

Emerson examines the often unspoken struggles that can erode even the most cherished marriages. Addressing the profound pain and disappointment felt by many spouses, he unpacks the concept of “hardness of heart” as it pertains to marriage, exploring how unresolved conflicts and self-protective walls can replace the intimacy God designed for couples.

I Thought I'd Never Close Off My Spirit To My Spouse - Part 1

Solomon and the Shulammite – His Unheeded Counsel, Transfer of Affection, and Lust

Emerson discusses the life of Solomon, exploring the themes of temptation, wisdom, and the importance of faithfulness in marriage. He highlights how even the wisest individuals can fall prey to their desires and the consequences of unheeded counsel.

Solomon and the Shulammite – His Unheeded Counsel, Transfer of Affection, and Lust

Rachel and Jacob: Her Desires and Unmet Expectations and His Discernment and Honesty - Part 2

In Part 2 Emerson shares how Jacob’s defensive reaction to Rachel’s demand for children reveals the destructive impact of unmet expectations and emotional outbursts in a marriage.

Rachel and Jacob: Her Desires and Unmet Expectations and His Discernment and Honesty - Part 2

Rachel and Jacob: Her Desires and Unmet Expectations and His Discernment and Honesty - Part 1

Explore the timeless story of Rachel and Jacob, a narrative rich with emotional struggles, unmet expectations, and communication missteps in this 2 part podcast.

Rachel and Jacob: Her Desires and Unmet Expectations and His Discernment and Honesty - Part 1

Therapy First, Theology Second?

In this episode, Emerson discusses the importance of prioritizing theology over therapy in understanding marriage and relationships. He shares his journey of studying male and female differences, emphasizing the need for a biblical foundation in counseling.

Therapy First, Theology Second?

Understanding and Sharing Needs: 8 Areas In Marriage - Real Testimonies - Part 2

Join Emerson for Part 2 as he wraps up the discussion of eight key areas of understanding and sharing needs in marriage.

Understanding and Sharing Needs: 8 Areas In Marriage - Real Testimonies - Part 2

Respectful Communication: The Key to Sharing Hard Truths

Emerson discusses the transformative power of respectful communication in sharing hard truths.

Respectful Communication: The Key to Sharing Hard Truths

Dealing with Defensiveness in Marriage: Exploring the 5 Stages of Reactive Behavior

Discover with Emerson how to navigate the challenges of defensiveness in relationships by exploring the delicate balance between overlooking offenses and addressing them with love and respect.

Dealing with Defensiveness in Marriage: Exploring the 5 Stages of Reactive Behavior

Asking God to Help You in The Marriage

In this episode, Emerson emphasizes the importance of asking God for help in marriage. He reminds listeners of the promises in Scripture that God intends to help us and encourages couples to come before the Lord and ask for help in a serious and ongoing way.

Asking God to Help You in The Marriage

Allies, Not Enemies: Refrain From Nuking Each Other

In this episode, Emerson discusses the importance of viewing your spouse as an ally rather than an enemy in marriage.

Allies, Not Enemies: Refrain From Nuking Each Other

Marriage Unto Christ: Inspiring Stories of Visualizing Jesus Beyond Your Spouse's Shoulder

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the concept of marriage unto Christ, where husbands and wives love and respect each other regardless of their spouse's response.

Marriage Unto Christ: Inspiring Stories of Visualizing Jesus Beyond Your Spouse's Shoulder

8 Hurdles To Love And Respect: Part 2

In Part 2, four more hurdles to love and respect in relationships: acting inconsistently, feeling neglected sexually or affectionately, possessing unrealistic expectations, and allowing for unpremeditated but damaging reactions.

8 Hurdles To Love And Respect: Part 2

8 Hurdles To Love And Respect: Part 1

Emerson and Jonathan Eggerichs address common obstacles couples face even after engaging with the Love and Respect framework. They highlight several key hurdles: blame, poor communication, stress, and resisting unconditional love and respect in part 1 by examining the testimonies of those who have written Emerson over the years.

8 Hurdles To Love And Respect: Part 1

A “Miracle” Can Happen In Your Marriage! - Part 2

In Part 2 Emerson and Jonathan continue to discuss the transformative power of the Love and Respect message in marriages. It features testimonies from couples who experienced miracles and reconciliation through applying these principles and seeking God's guidance.

A “Miracle” Can Happen In Your Marriage! - Part 2

A “Miracle” Can Happen In Your Marriage! - Part 1

In "A 'Miracle' Can Happen In Your Marriage! Part 1," Emerson and Jonathan share compelling testimonies from couples who have experienced profound transformations in their marriages through the Love and Respect message.

A “Miracle” Can Happen In Your Marriage! - Part 1

Love and Respect: God’s Blueprint for Resolving Marital Issues - Part 2

In Part 2, Jonathan and Emerson discuss the remedies for a happy marriage based on God's blueprint for love and respect. They emphasize the importance of embracing the biblical blueprint for marriage, understanding the command to love and respect, managing defensive reactions.

Love and Respect: God’s Blueprint for Resolving Marital Issues - Part 2

Love and Respect: God’s Blueprint for Resolving Marital Issues - Part 1

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the reasons for marital issues such as ignorance of God's command, overlooking each other's needs, offensive reactions, Expecting the other to change first, loss of hope and closing off, and fear of forgiveness.

Love and Respect: God’s Blueprint for Resolving Marital Issues - Part 1

Make Communication Easier for Your Spouse

The episode explores the importance of making communication easier for your spouse. Starting with a testimony from a wife, Emerson and Jonathan then provide two case studies to illustrate practical ways to improve communication.

Make Communication Easier for Your Spouse

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 3 - Celebrate The Wife's Gender Strengths

Understanding and celebrating the unique qualities of a wife's femininity is crucial. Wives often possess intuitive empathy, relational orientation, nurturing caregiving, a family focus, and the role of cooperative peacemakers.

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 3 - Celebrate The Wife's Gender Strengths

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 2 - Celebrate The Husband’s Gender Strengths

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the gender-specific strengths of husbands. They highlight five main themes: solution-oriented, self-reliant provider, protective guardian, functional communicator, and how they can be work-related in identity.

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 2 - Celebrate The Husband’s Gender Strengths

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 1

In Part 1 Emerson and Jonathan consider God's design of gender differences in marriage and how misunderstandings about these differences can lead to marital strife.

Partners By Design: Five Gender-Specific Strengths to Celebrate in Your Spouse - Part 1

His Blue, Her Pink: Navigating the Multicolored Aspects of Marriage (The Sexual and Emotional)

Too often, we feel that because we are equal in God's eyes, we must therefore be the same. Yet, Jesus asked the question in Matthew 19:4, “Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE...?" Join Emerson and Jonathan as they consider four stories about husbands and wives.

His Blue, Her Pink: Navigating the Multicolored Aspects of Marriage (The Sexual and Emotional)

C.H.A.I.R.S. - The Masculine Mindset

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan explore the masculine mindset through the acronym CHAIRS, detailing the six key desires men have in relationships: Conquest, Hierarchy, Authority, Insight, Relationship, and Sexuality. They contrast these with the six needs a wife has...

C.H.A.I.R.S. - The Masculine Mindset

Could You Be Overreacting to an Issue That Isn’t Moral?

Emerson and Jonathan discuss how misinterpretations can lead to overreactions in marriage. They explore various examples where spouses misinterpret each other's actions and intentions, causing unnecessary conflict.

Could You Be Overreacting to an Issue That Isn’t Moral?

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 2

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan continue their exploration of effective problem-solving strategies, focusing on acknowledging personal contributions to issues.

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 2

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 1

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the art of rising above ineffective problem-solving strategies.

Rising Above Ineffective Problem-Solving Strategies - Part 1

The Win-Win Couple Discusses These Six Things When in Disagreement

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss how couples can find win-win solutions when they are in disagreement. They emphasize the importance of discussing the facts, feelings, negatives, positives, proposals, and plans.

The Win-Win Couple Discusses These Six Things When in Disagreement

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 2

In Part 2, Jonathan and Emerson continue to discuss the reasons why some husbands and wives resist the idea of a win-win marriage. They cover topics such as selfish control, better than thou attitude, arrogance and lack of humility, lack of positive role models, limited negotiation skills, and disbelief in win-win.

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 2

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 1

The conversation first briefly covers six steps to achieving a win-win that Emerson has discussed elsewhere and will unpack with more depth in future courses, but primarily looks at reasons why some resist this approach, and how to overcome common fears and obstacles such as pessimism, the unknown, vulnerability, hurt, manipulation, and stubbornness.

Why Do Some Husbands And Wives Resist Learning About A Win-Win Marriage? - Part 1

Finding Agreement- The Deeper Secret Behind a Sleep Apnea Mask

In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the importance of finding agreement in a marriage, particularly when it comes to sexual intimacy. They share a story of a couple who went through Emerson's win-win marriage course and how they found agreement on the issue of sleep apnea.

Finding Agreement- The Deeper Secret Behind a Sleep Apnea Mask

Intimacy in Marriage: I Need You and You Need Me... I Have Your Back and You Have My Back

In this episode the importance of expressing and responding to needs and vulnerabilities in marriage is discussed by Emerson and Jonathan. They emphasize the biblical basis for saying "I need you" and "I have your back" to your spouse.

Intimacy in Marriage: I Need You and You Need Me... I Have Your Back and You Have My Back

Guard Against Thinking You Are the Only One Trying to Get Off the Crazy Cycle

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the concept of the 'crazy cycle' in relationships, where a wife's feeling of being unloved leads to disrespectful reactions toward her husband, and vice versa.

Guard Against Thinking You Are the Only One Trying to Get Off the Crazy Cycle

Husbands Love Marriage, But It's Not Always Obvious

Emerson and Jonathan discuss the importance of understanding that husband’s love marriage too but recognizing how this might come across differently and some of the reasons husbands might be perceived as not loving the marriage.

Husbands Love Marriage, But It's Not Always Obvious

How to Propose to Your Spouse to Make Small Adjustments in The Marriage

Jonathan and Emerson discuss the importance of resolving small problems in a marriage. They emphasize that the accumulation of little issues can lead to bigger problems over time.

How to Propose to Your Spouse to Make Small Adjustments in The Marriage

Love and Respect Improves Communication

Emerson and Jonathan explore the importance of love and respect in improving communication within marriage. The analogy of love and respect as food and water is used to emphasize their essential role in a healthy relationship.

Love and Respect Improves Communication

Does One Spouse Have the Power to Positively Affect the Marriage?

Emerson and Jonathan challenge couples to reconsider their perspectives on marital issues, looking beyond negative aspects and exploring the front-side strengths of each spouse.

Does One Spouse Have the Power to Positively Affect the Marriage?

Pink and Blue Differences Related to Six Challenges Every Couple Experiences

Join Emerson and Jonathan this episode as they discuss the aspects of marriage outlined in First Corinthians 7, six challenges faced by every married couple. These challenges encompass differing needs, vulnerabilities, disagreements, disappointments, insecurities, and hardships, symbolized as "his and her" in the realms of pink and blue.

Pink and Blue Differences Related to Six Challenges Every Couple Experiences

An Aphrodisiac for Your Wife: C.O.U.P.L.E.

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss the essential elements of an aphrodisiac for wives. Drawing on insights from the Love & Respect Book and Workbook, they emphasize the crucial role of emotional closeness in fostering a satisfying sexual relationship.

An Aphrodisiac for Your Wife: C.O.U.P.L.E.

The Rules of Engagement for a Well-Utilized Time-Out

Emerson and Jonathan explore the concept of "time-outs" in marriage during conflict. Emerson emphasizes the importance of recognizing when a break is needed during a heated argument, just as in sports, a well-timed time-out can change the game's outcome.

The Rules of Engagement for a Well-Utilized Time-Out

8 Ways To Jump Off The Crazy Cycle

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss 8 ways to prevent and get off the Crazy Cycle (see Episode 1 for a deeper explanation of the Crazy Cycle. Examples include what to do when you see the spirit of your spouse deflate, accepting some trouble as normal, and trusting in each other's goodwill.

8 Ways To Jump Off The Crazy Cycle

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part III

Join Emerson and Jonathan for Part III of this three part series. Why is marital paradise lost? Why do couples feel they have left Eden and live in a jungle of sorts? Since Scripture indicates couples will have trouble in this life why are husbands and wives unprepared? The answer is simple: they do not anticipate and accept the four seasons. In one way or another all couples will go through the four seasons. Those who go through them without defeat do so because they anticipate and accept the process.

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part III

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part II

Join Emerson and Jonathan for Part II of this three part series. Why is marital paradise lost? Why do couples feel they have left Eden and live in a jungle of sorts? Since Scripture indicates couples will have trouble in this life why are husbands and wives unprepared? The answer is simple: they do not anticipate and accept the four seasons. In one way or another all couples will go through the four seasons. Those who go through them without defeat do so because they anticipate and accept the process.

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part II

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part I

Why is marital paradise lost? Why do couples feel they have left Eden and live in a jungle of sorts? Since Scripture indicates couples will have trouble in this life why are husbands and wives unprepared? The answer is simple: they do not anticipate and accept the four seasons. In one way or another all couples will go through the four seasons. Those who go through them without defeat do so because they anticipate and accept the process. Join Emerson and Jonathan for Part I of this three part series.

The Four Seasons of Marriage - Part I

Submission and Mutual Submission - Yikes!

Submission, mutual submission, headship, authority, responsibility, equality, and decision making. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss these very lite topics which stir up very few strong emotions in people :) **Jonathan's audio sounds poor and the issue was a bad cable. Our apologies.

Submission and Mutual Submission - Yikes!

Have You Seen These Crazy Cycles Between Managers and Employees?

Men and women need love and respect as human beings in the workplace. Though there are daily demands to fulfill the mission of the organization apart from these emotional attitudes toward each other, that company will perform well when the men and women get off what I call the Crazy Cycle. Without love (care) a woman reacts without respect and without respect a man reacts without love (care). But added to this craziness is the tension between managers and employees. When employees feel unloved (uncared for) they react in ways that feel disrespectful to managers and when managers feel disrespected they react in ways that feel unloving (uncaring) to employees. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this new topic.

Have You Seen These Crazy Cycles Between Managers and Employees?

Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part II

In Part II this week Emerson and Jonathan continue the discussion about some husbands habitually looking at other women and having a double standard. Knowing this double standard exists, what should a husband and wife now do about his looking at other women? Emerson and Jonathan attempt to answer this question.

Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part II

Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part I

Do husbands have a double standard? Emerson and Jonathan invite you to join them this week and consider one that they have observed. Some wives hear from their husbands, “I can look at women because God designed me to look at the female figure, but you must not look at men.” While the subject of pornography is an important issue this episode is not about that. Instead, this episode looks at husbands who habitually look at women around them.

Do Some Husbands Live By A Double Standard And Is That Ok Because They Can't Help It? - Part I

Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part II

In part 2 Emerson answers the question, "Where do we go from here?" continuing the discussion of the double standard that confuses some husbands and will definitely confuse young sons who will see men and women as equal but women getting a pass for having attitudes that when manifested in men are condemned as self-centered arrogance. Look at the next couple of episodes for this topic as it relates to men.

Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part II

Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part I

In this week's episode Emerson and Jonathan highlight a double standard that confuses some husbands and will definitely confuse our young sons who will see men and women as equal but women getting a pass for having attitudes that when manifested in men are condemned as self-centered arrogance. Stay tuned for Part II of this topic and then the same topic as it applies to men in the coming weeks.

Do Some Wives Live by A Double Standard, And Is That Ok Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part I

What Are The Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? - Part II - Rick Warren Invites Emerson to Speak

Part II - Rick Warren invited Emerson to speak at Saddleback Church on the topic of relationships. Presented to more than 20,000 people, listen in as Emerson focuses on these three areas: 1. What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? 2. What Happens When We Innocently Overlook These Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? 3. How Do We Ensure Applying These Two Key Ingredients In Order to Succeed in Relationships?

What Are The Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? - Part II - Rick Warren Invites Emerson to Speak

What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? Part I - Rick Warren Invites Emerson To Speak

Rick Warren invited Emerson to speak at Saddleback Church on the topic of relationships. Presented to more than 20,000 people, listen in as Emerson focuses on these three areas (this is Part I of II): 1. What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? 2. What Happens When We Innocently Overlook These Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? 3. How Do We Ensure Applying These Two Key Ingredients In Order to Succeed in Relationships?

What Are the Two Key Ingredients For Successful Relationships? Part I - Rick Warren Invites Emerson To Speak

Does God Want Me To Divorce To Be Happy?

“God wants you to be happy.” Have you heard this platitude before? Has it perhaps been spoken to you? Maybe you’ve even heard it said in the context of someone being encouraged to divorce their spouse, because “God wants you to be happy.” However, some platitudes, though quite memorable, are not based on biblical truth. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important topic.

Does God Want Me To Divorce To Be Happy?

Can We Manipulate Each Other With The Love And Respect Teaching?

Though God commands the husband to love and a wife to respect, a strange twist might take place. A wife puts on respect for one reason: to get her husband to be loving. A husband puts on love solely to get his wife to respect him. One pastor wrote Emerson and shared his concerns fearing this very thing: that husbands and wives will manipulate each other when applying love and respect based on Ephesians 5:33. Join Emerson and Jonathan this weeks as they discuss this topic.

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Can We Manipulate Each Other With The Love And Respect Teaching?

Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

We can feel stupid and wrong in our marriage. When we feel stupid and wrong in the marriage, we can draw conclusions about ourselves that are untrue in the eyes of God and react in ways that won’t remedy the pain, such as believing the lie (s) about ourselves or considering divorce. Our spouse will affect us emotionally but negative words cannot determine who God made us to be. We can begin to realize inner wisdom and the rightness about how we are living, even if a spouse refuses to acknowledge it. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

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Do You Feel Judged as Stupid or Wrong, Which Leaves You Feeling Unloved and Disrespected?

What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Are you in or have you come through a marital crisis? You could be the innocent victim with a wounded heart who experienced shock or the remorseful offender with a contrite heart who experienced shame. There could have been any number of reasons for the crisis. Typically, though, a crisis falls under one or more of what Emerson refers to as the six A’s: adultery, abandonment, abuse, addiction, adversity, and apathy. Your situation may involve something outside of those, but join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic.

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What Did You Do To Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

What if Love and Respect Do Not Work With My Spouse?

Some people live in fear that as they seek to apply the Love and Respect message their spouse will not respond in like manner, and then when that happens it confirms their fears. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important topic.

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35:37

What if Love and Respect Do Not Work With My Spouse?

Why Do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated?

This week Emerson and Jonathan look at the behavior of a husband who bullies. There are many things that hurt and frustrate wives but there is a type of female who emails Emerson with this complaint: "I must stuff my feelings, keep my mouth shut, and do as he says." While some wives who write this type of email may be overreacting or misrepresenting the facts, despotic husbands exist who roar commands at their good willed wives. Their excessive and unloving decrees leave their wives feeling hurt, frustrated, confused, and worthless. Join Emerson and Jonathan as they discuss this topic.

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34:14

Why Do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated?

Why Do Goodwilled Husbands Feel Frustrated?

In this week's episode Emerson and Jonathan look at a specific example of a husband and wife disagreeing on how they should approach their son, where the husband is reporting significant frustration. Taking the position that mothers and wives are never mean-spirited in such situations but that they truly care, Emerson discusses how her fears and care have unintended consequences toward the good willed husband.

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35:07

Why Do Goodwilled Husbands Feel Frustrated?

19 Love and Respect Truisms and Principles to Live By

Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss 19 simple, yet sometimes difficult to do, principles from the Love and Respect message. From monitoring your thoughts and feelings in interactions with your spouse, to what to say and do, practicing a few of these can improve your marriage.

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34:08

19 Love and Respect Truisms and Principles to Live By

Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly-Sensitive to Disrespect?

Some husbands are hyper-sensitive to anything that strikes them as disrespectful. They overreact to their good willed wives who do not intend any such disrespect. Sadly, these men read disrespect into her every question, concern, or disagreement. Some husbands are just sensitive to undeserving disrespect. Though they humbly appeal to their wives to halt the rudeness toward them as men, husbands and fathers, these women claim the husbands are overly sensitive. Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this important issue. See episode 088 to hear this topic as it pertains to wives.

Marriage

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41:20

Are Husbands Hyper-Sensitive or Just Highly-Sensitive to Disrespect?

Are Wives HyperSensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to A Husband’s Unclear Comments?

Typically speaking, most husbands are assured of their wives love. Women are virtuous and excellent caregivers. Because of a wife’s loving and nurturing nature few men have an undercurrent of curiosity and insecurity about a wife’s love. Women love to love, and men know this. However, with many wives there is an undercurrent of curiosity and insecurity that they possess in their souls that their husbands do not possess: “Does he really love me as much as I love him?” Join Emerson and Jonathan this week as they discuss this topic. Husbands: If you use this information against your wife, claiming she is hyper-sensitive, and you say it in an unloving way, then you are in the fact the insensitive one.

Marriage

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38:11

Are Wives HyperSensitive or Just Highly Sensitive to A Husband’s Unclear Comments?

3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 3

In Part 3 of this series on dating Emerson looks back briefly at becoming a mature person and looking for a mature person but that for Christians a third component is needed, Doing God's Will As a Couple. When we do not have a purpose beyond ourselves, we end up focusing only on ourselves. When we do not think of something bigger than ourselves, we will only think of ourselves. When nothing is more important than ourselves, than we alone are important. However, when we fight for something bigger than ourselves, we fight with each other less! That may not be the most noble of reasons to follow Christ but it certainly leads to marital satisfaction!

Marriage

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32:43

3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 3

3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 2

Emerson and Jonathan continue this three part series on what leads to a successful marriage. In Part 1 they looked at being a mature person. In Part 2 they look at finding a mature person. This three part series is perfect for anyone who is dating or unmarried, but also for anyone who knows someone that is. Additionally, do you have children or plan on having children? This can help you in your conversations with them about marriage.

Marriage

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38:09

3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 2

3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 1

This three part series is perfect for anyone who is dating or unmarried, but also for anyone who knows someone that is. Additionally, do you have children or plan on having children? This can help you in your conversations with them about marriage. In thinking about his own daughter's upcoming marriage Emerson composed his thoughts on preparing for marriage, which includes being a mature person, looking for a mature person, and being motivated by Christ's mission as a couple.

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3 Goals in Dating That Lead to a Successful Marriage - Part 1

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