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When She Wants More Sexual Intimacy
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What happens when she is the one who wants more sexual intimacy, and every time she brings it up, she hears rejection and he hears a demand? Emerson walks through how one couple married seven years used his six LAUGHS steps to move from hurt and pressure to a real win-win, and why copying their process, not their calendar, is the point. For any wife who feels unwanted, and any husband who feels pressured, who still want closeness with each other.
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Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.
Author, Speaker, Pastor
Questions to Consider
- When the topic of sexual intimacy comes up in your marriage, what does each of you tend to hear: desire, demand, rejection, or failure? How might naming that out loud change the conversation?
- Emerson says the first step is not to solve the disagreement but to understand it. What would you need your spouse to understand about your experience before any solution is discussed?
- What is the good self-interest underneath what you want, and underneath what your spouse wants? Is there something you have been suppressing because it felt selfish or risky to say?
- This couple’s win-win included things beyond the bedroom, like affectionate touch, bedtime, humor, and conversation. What might a “suggest win-win till found” experiment look like for the two of you over the next few weeks?
