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Part 2 - Natural Consequences to Divorce: The Rest of the Story with Clare de Graaf

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Part 2 - Natural Consequences to Divorce: The Rest of the Story with Clare de Graaf

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This powerful conversation between two seasoned voices in marriage ministry exposes the hidden misunderstandings driving men to consider leaving their wives—fantasies of "something better," misread silences as rejection, and the exhausting Crazy Cycle—while revealing stunning research that unhappy couples often become happy simply by staying. It's a hopeful, eye-opening wake-up call especially for husbands feeling stuck, disrespected, or ready to walk away, showing how just a little more "light" on each other's intentions can turn inches into connection instead of miles of distance.

Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.

Author, Speaker, Pastor

Clare de Graaf

Questions to Consider

What part of the current conflict or distance in your marriage might actually be a sincere (but misunderstood) attempt at honor or care rather than hostility or contempt?
If you stayed committed without major changes for the next five years, how might today's pain points look different based on the research shared?
When you feel the urge to withdraw or go silent, what would change if you instead communicated a clear plan to reconnect and talk later?
How seriously do you take the vows you've made—to God, your spouse, and the potential long-term impact on your children's faith—if leaving feels like the only option right now?

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