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What Should I Do with My Disappointments in Marriage?

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Struggling with disappointment in your marriage—whether from serious unmet expectations, your spouse's sin, or just natural differences in personality and preferences? This teaching explores how to handle disappointment biblically, distinguishing between righteous disappointment over sin (requiring forgiveness and boundaries) and grace-filled adjustment for gender and personality differences—perfect for couples facing real tensions who want to move toward deeper intimacy and trust in Christ.

Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.

Author, Speaker, Pastor

Questions to Consider

What if the disappointment you're feeling in your marriage right now is actually a holy echo of God's heart, inviting you to deeper dependence on Christ rather than resentment toward your spouse?
When disappointment stems from your spouse's sin rather than just personality differences, how might choosing a forgiving spirit while setting healthy boundaries change the path toward reconciliation?
If opposites attract and then opposites attack, what unrealistic expectation of your spouse being more like you might God be asking you to release today?
How would viewing your disappointment as God's appointment—rather than an enemy—shift the way you respond to your spouse's shortcomings and deepen your own faith?

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