Unconditional Love and Respect In Marriage
Unconditional love is embraced, yet we need to embrace unconditional respect. Scripture and science teach both, but many believe respect must be earned. However, as conditional love is toxic when a spouse says, "I will love you if..." conditional respect also damages when it says, "I can show you disrespect and contempt because you don't deserve it." Many fear unconditional respect, thinking it enables bad behavior. But I invite you to explore revolutionary insights on this Collection Page and be amazed, exclaiming, "Why didn't I know this before?"
Eleven Ways a Husband and Wife Can Show Love and Respect to Each Other
In summing up the New Testament’s greatest treatise on marriage (Ephesians 5:21-33), Paul makes clear to the husband that in all things, no matter the conflict or situation, he is to be intentional about loving his wife unconditionally. Love is the way to her heart, and what she most needs to feel from him.
Do Intellectuals, Wardens, Social Workers, and Doctors Understand Unconditional Respect?
In Stanford’s educational series, we read, “In the literature of moral and political philosophy, the notion of respect for persons commonly means a kind of respect that all people are owed morally just because they are persons, regardless of social position, individual characteristics or achievements, or moral merit.” Respect regardless! Wait. What? No!
Love and Respect Can’t Be Treated Like New Year’s Resolutions
It’s that time of year again—when millions all over the world make New Year’s resolutions. Many will want to lose weight and become healthier in general; many will take up a new hobby or skill; and others will seek to become more organized in different aspects of their lives. But no matter what a person’s goodwilled intention for the New Year is, studies show time after time that roughly 80 percent of people fail in their New Year’s resolutions.
Is Your Focus on Your Marriage Rating Where It Needs to Be—On You?
There’s a fancy theological word the Bible uses when talking about our continued spiritual growth while on earth—sanctification. For example, 2 Thessalonians 2:13 says, “God has chosen you from the beginning for salvation through sanctification by the Spirit and faith in the truth.” And the apostle Peter wrote about “the sanctifying work of the Spirit, to obey Jesus Christ” (1 Peter 1:2). Basically, what this means is that God, through His Holy Spirit, is always at work in our lives, growing and maturing us as Christians. And as long as we are breathing on this earth, our sanctification is not complete. There is still room to grow, for both the infant believer at the beginning of his journey and the lifelong disciple in her last days.
Are Sinful Humans Even Capable of Unconditional Love and Respect?
In John 13, Jesus told His disciples, “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another” (vv. 34). Later, in Ephesian 5:25, the apostle Paul wrote, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.”
Can a Couple Show Unconditional Love and Respect Despite Differing Faith Convictions?
John and Charles Wesley, who founded the Methodist Church, almost weren’t born! Their parents, Samuel and Susanna, had differing convictions that divided them. Due to their faith, a disagreement arose about who should be their king in England. Both were of the same political party, the Tories, but Samuel favored King William III, whereas Susanna favored James II who had been exiled to France.
Husband says: “I Finally Get It!” - Conflict In Marriage
My parents divorced when I was one. They later remarried each other, but then separated again when I was five. A few years later they reunited for good, but even then it was far from a fairy-tale marriage. My childhood years were filled with memories of yelling and unsettling tension. I saw and heard things that are permanently etched in my soul, and I would cry myself to sleep at times.
What Flows Naturally from You Does Not from Your Spouse (And That’s Okay!)
I believe a husband is to act lovingly whether or not he feels it. God’s command in Ephesians 5:33 for a husband to love his wife is to be followed as an act of obedience, not as a conditional response toward her respect for him.
If a Husband Is Unrespectable Should a Wife Show Him Contempt and Disrespect?
Emerson recently received the following question: How do you respect a man who has a habit of lying and going against everything the Word says - Emerson and Jonathan discuss how this wife can respond, but also more generally how wives can respond to behavior that isn't respectable.
How To Respect Your Husband When You Don't
In this episode Emerson and Jonathan discuss the topic of a wife respecting her husband when she doesn't feel respect, or even when he has done things that aren't respectable. They discuss this in the context of one woman's testimony of how she went from not being respectful to respectful. It is a powerful story!