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Her Request For Love Can Sound Disrespectful, and His Request For Respect Can Sound Unloving

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Her Request For Love Can Sound Disrespectful, and His Request For Respect Can Sound Unloving

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Ever wonder why your cry for love comes out sounding like disrespect… and his plea for respect feels completely unloving? This powerful teaching reveals the hidden “crazy cycle” in marriage and hands you the exact words (healthy vs. unhealthy) that actually unlock the love and respect you both desperately want—straight from the Love & Respect principles and Scripture.

Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.

Author, Speaker, Pastor

Questions to Consider

When I feel unloved, what tone or words do I reach for first—and how does my husband actually hear them?
When I feel disrespected, do I react with stonewalling or harshness, believing it will “teach” my wife to respect me?
Which of the COUPLE or CHAIRS areas do I most often express in the unhealthy way—and what would happen if I stayed on the healthy message for just 30 days?
Am I willing to be the mature one who goes first, speaking love or respect without demanding it back, trusting that God sees and will reward?

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