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Stepping on Air Hoses - How Honest Misunderstandings Trigger The Crazy Cycle

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Stepping on Air Hoses - How Honest Misunderstandings Trigger The Crazy Cycle

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Emerson breaks down the core misunderstandings between men and women that fuel conflict in marriage. Using the CHAIRS and COUPLE acronyms, it reveals how husbands and wives often misinterpret each other’s words and actions, leading to feelings of disrespect and lack of love. It’s a must-watch for couples who want to better understand each other, stop the Crazy Cycle, and build a stronger, more connected relationship.

Emerson Eggerichs, Ph.D.

Author, Speaker, Pastor

Questions to Consider

What misunderstandings in your relationship might be triggering your version of the Crazy Cycle?
How do you respond when your spouse reacts in a way that confuses or hurts you—do you decode or defend?
In what ways might fear or insecurity be disguising itself as control or criticism in your communication?
How can understanding your spouse’s unique needs for love or respect change the way you approach conflict?

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