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The Crazy Cycle
In this first episode we talk about who we are, the genesis of the show, some current happenings with Love and Respect, and focus on the Crazy Cycle, the first part of the Love and Respect book.
The Energizing Cycle Part I
A discussion begins about how to motivate your spouse, which includes Part I of exploring the Energizing Cycle. This episode focuses on how a husband can motivate his wife.
The Energizing Cycle Part II
In this week’s episode the conversation continues on how an individual motivates their spouse. We review the Energizing Cycle: his love motivates her respect and her respect motivates his love, focusing on how a wife can motivate her husband.
The Rewarded Cycle
Emerson and Jonathan discuss the Rewarded Cycle, the last cycle from the Love & Respect book. The "why" or incentive of doing marriage a certain way is given, whether a marriage is perceived as good or bad. This is a challenging episode, but hope-filled.
The Three Cycles - Your Questions and Comments
This week Emerson and Jonathan review the Crazy Cycle, the Energizing Cycle, and the Rewarded Cycle. Positive examples from listeners are discussed in addition to Emerson responding to common questions about the Love and Respect message as well as specific questions and comments from listeners over the past few weeks.
The Family Crazy Cycle
Emerson and Jonathan transition from the Love and Respect marriage book to Love and Respect In The Family, a book on parenting that came out in the fall of 2013. This episode focuses on the Family Crazy Cycle: without love children react with disrespect and without respect parents react without love. Emerson also unpacks the definition of love and respect from a biblical perspective as it pertains to parenting.
The Family Energizing Cycle
In Episode 007 Emerson and Jonathan discuss the Family Energizing Cycle: A parent's love motivates a child's respect and a child's respect motivates a parent's love. Six principles that parents can apply are explored: Giving, Understanding, Instruction, Discipline, Encouragement, and Supplication.
The Family Rewarded Cycle
Emerson and Jonathan discuss the Family Rewarded Cycle, the final cycle from Love and Respect In The Family. When parenting, what ultimately matters is an individual's relationship with God. Emerson explains how to see and relate to one's children apart from their response or performance, all in the context of an eternal view.
Your Questions And Comments On The Family Cycles
Emerson and Jonathan review the three cycles of the Love and Respect In The Family Book, discussing conflict, motivation, and some of the incentives for parenting the Love and Respect way. Additionally, Emerson and Jonathan respond to listener questions and comments about parenting.
Learning To Love Again
Emerson and Jonathan deal with a very difficult issue in this week’s podcast. How can a person learn to love again after they have reached the point where they do not believe they are "in love"? And what does the Bible say about exiting a marriage? The discussion centers around a recent blog that Emerson wrote that in a three month period had over 20,000 views.
The Jesus Way Of Talking
A recent social media post had a simple quote from The Language Of Love & Respect, which hundreds of people commented on and shared. The quote was about the Jesus way of talking within marriage and relationships. Emerson and Jonathan discuss this during today's episode, including how to speak words that are Truthful, Uplifting, Forgiving, Thankful, and Scriptural (T.U.F.T.S.).
Five Ways To Provoke Your Kids Without Really Trying
In today’s episode, Jonathan and Emerson talk about how easily parents can provoke their children, sometimes intentionally, but often unintentionally through sheer exhaustion and frustration. Together, they discuss five ways that parents provoke or exasperate their children and some things they can do to prevent that.
Three Steps To Forgiveness Part 1
Emerson and Jonathan discuss three things to do when seeking to forgive someone, following the example of Jesus. In Part 1, excuses that we all have considered or used to not have a forgiving spirit are looked at, as well as the concept of sympathizing with another person to understand why something may have occurred.
Three Steps To Forgiveness Part 2
In Part 2 of Three Steps To Forgiveness, Emerson and Jonathan conclude the topic of forgiveness, looking to Jesus as the example. Following last week’s topic of sympathizing with the offender, today they discuss the need to relinquish the offense, but to then anticipate that God will do something in your life and marriage.
Six Statements That Inflame a Wife When She’s Already Upset
This week Emerson and Jonathan discuss six ways that a husband can really hurt his wife and the marital relationship with the things he says during conflict. This can occur when he attacks her feelings, her thinking, her beliefs, her relationships, her self-image, and her willpower.
How To Respect Your Husband When You Don't
In this episode Emerson and Jonathan discuss the topic of a wife respecting her husband when she doesn't feel respect, or even when he has done things that aren't respectable. They discuss this in the context of one woman's testimony of how she went from not being respectful to respectful. It is a powerful story!
Why Should You Stop Talking To Your Husband?
Wives, would you like to learn a way to motivate your husband and know that he feels close to you in a meaningful way? Husbands, would you like to understand yourself better and why you may not do relationships the same way as your wife? Listen in this week as Emerson and Jonathan discuss how a wife can move towards her husband with less talking, even no talking, through spending shoulder to shoulder time with him.
Oh The Joy, God Sees Your Every Sacrifice In Your Marriage!
Do you ever feel like what you are doing in your marriage isn't worth it? Through the story of the widow's mite, Emerson and Jonathan discuss why everything one does in their marriage matters, immensely so. Join them this week as they explain why nothing is wasted before God, even when it feels like nothing you are doing is effective.
Why Do Good People Suffer?
Emerson and Jonathan discuss why bad things happen to good people and take a look at testimonies and examples from individuals who have walked this road. Together, they talk through four conclusions someone might draw about God when they have experienced suffering—God does not exist; God is all-powerful, but not all-loving; God is all loving, but not all-powerful; or God is all-loving and all-powerful.
If a Husband Is Unrespectable Should a Wife Show Him Contempt and Disrespect?
Emerson recently received the following question: How do you respect a man who has a habit of lying and going against everything the Word says - Emerson and Jonathan discuss how this wife can respond, but also more generally how wives can respond to behavior that isn't respectable.
Why Does A Husband Misunderstand His Wife?
Saying husbands and wives can misunderstand each other at times is an understatement. In this episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss how husbands often misunderstand their wives. They’ll take a look at a powerful testimony from a husband who concluded after 17 years of marriage that his wife was NOT intentionally nagging and nitpicking, but was trying to connect. Their marriage changed when he realized this.
The Spiritual Leadership of a Husband
Today's godly woman yearns for her husband to be a spiritual leader. The number one complaint among godly wives IS NOT, "My husband isn't treating me equally." The broader complaint is, "My husband isn't the spiritual leader." Emerson and Jonathan discuss the topic of men being spiritual leaders within the home in this week's episode.
Who Does He Think He Is?
Jesus makes an extraordinary statement in the gospel of John. He says in John 14:9, “He who has seen me has seen the father.” Emerson remembers reading that and thinking, “Who does He think He is? God?” Emerson and Jonathan discuss the implications of this statement for our lives this Christmas season.
How To Learn Love and Respect: Illumination Beyond Marriage
“As I look back on my marriage to Jackie—56 years, 3 months and 13 days before she went home—I think not so much of light bulb moments, but more of dawning realizations (I seem to be a slow learner)." Emerson and Jonathan discuss a marriage and faith testimony from acclaimed Christian author, Fritz Ridenour, in this week’s episode. **NOTE** We apologize for the audio quality of this episode due to technical difficulties. --Emerson and Jonathan
Why Does My Husband Hate Me?
This week Emerson and Jonathan discuss reasons a wife may believe her husband hates her. From he truly hates her, to they’ve said it to each other without meaning it, to he doesn’t apologize to her, five reasons this may be going on are discussed.
A Husband Wakes Up Before It Is Too Late
Some individuals take years to wake up to the fact that their behavior needs to change. In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss one husband's decision to acknowledge many years of doing things incorrectly, the choice to be different and the patience required to win his spouse back.
The Dynamic Woman
In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan read and discuss a series of recent emails from a wife who is a dynamic leader outside the home. She feels she and her husband may be mismatched and asks if, and how, they should remain together.
What is the #1 Paradox When Parenting God’s Way?
Parenting is for adults only because it's difficult. A sense of self-worth as a parent is often based on a child's performance or how they turn out, but this is not healthy. This week, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the #1 paradox in parenting and give hope to many parents.
What is the Difference Between Healthy Self-Love and Carnal Self-Love?
In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss the love of self from a societal and biblical perspective. There are unhealthy and healthy ways to experience self-love, and how we view God's love of us is immensely important. Finally, in marriage, our view of God's love and our love of self can positively and negatively impact the way we treat our spouse.
How Do You Seek to Empathically Understand Your Kids?
In this week’s episode, Emerson and Jonathan discuss ways of seeking to empathically understand your child without compromising your calling as a parent. They will take a glimpse at the parenting style of Mary and Joseph and share six principles of understanding as described in the book Love & Respect in the Family.