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Misunderstanding 'Your Truth': The Consequences of Hasty Reactions [Video]

When 'What About My Needs?' Leads to a Broken Marriage

Misunderstanding 'Your Truth': The Consequences of Hasty Reactions [Video]

The phrase “your truth or my truth” is a popular phrase right now. However, the essence of this phrase is quite timeless. When I was in college in the seventies, I had hair that resembled the shape of a motorcycle helmet. I had too many outfits that included fringe. That era was about “finding truth, baby,” or “being real, man.”

“Help! I Don’t Know What I’m Doing!” - Three Types of Rules to Help All Parents

Have you as a parent ever heard someone without children say, “I’m not ready to be a parent”? If you have, I predict that outwardly you may have smiled and nodded at them, perhaps saying something like, “Yeah, parenting can be crazy tough”; but inside you were thinking, No one is ever ready to be a parent. You think I know what I’m doing? . . . Wait, where’s my son?

“Help! I Don’t Know What I’m Doing!” - Three Types of Rules to Help All Parents

When 'What About My Needs?' Leads to a Broken Marriage

A wife wrote to me: "When I began reading Love & Respect, I could not get past the ‘What about my needs?’ question and never even made it to the chapter where this is addressed. "Years later, her husband leaves. She says, "I pulled out our copy of L&R. I finished it today, the day he moved out. It’s not for me to question God’s plan, but I am perplexed by why now, when it seems too late, I have read, understood, embraced, and realized how profoundly I have damaged this man I love and our union."

When 'What About My Needs?' Leads to a Broken Marriage

Is Lying, Cheating, And Stealing For Self-Serving Reasons Ever Worth It In The End? [Video]

Sarah and I recently traveled to Paris to see our daughter, where we stayed in an Airbnb rental about an hour away from the city. At one point during our stay, our daughter, Joy, asked the rental owners about the possibility of swapping homes with them for a weekend at some point.

Is Lying, Cheating, And Stealing For Self-Serving Reasons Ever Worth It In The End? [Video]

What Company Do You and Your Spouse Keep?

The company we keep matters. It matters to God, and it matters to us. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. ”Multiple times in the Bible we find God being very specific in His commands concerning the company someone has.

What Company Do You and Your Spouse Keep?

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Is Lying, Cheating, And Stealing For Self-Serving Reasons Ever Worth It In The End? [Video]

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What Company Do You and Your Spouse Keep?

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Do You Have a Teamwork Mindset?

Do You Have a Teamwork Mindset?

One day I found myself wondering, Do couples take seriously the idea of finding win-win as a team, based on God's calling to be one? With this question in mind, I wrote down a burden I was feeling: "As for the win-win message, no one is saying to me ‘tell me more.’

According to Jesus, A Home Is To Be Identified As Wholesome And Worthy If There Is A Man Of Peace There

According to Jesus, A Home Is To Be Identified As Wholesome And Worthy If There Is A Man Of Peace There

When Jesus sent the disciples out two by two, He told them to stay at the home of “a man of peace.” What exactly does that mean? When the disciples came to a home they had never been to before, how were they to know if the man of the house, and his wife, were people of peace? (By implication, there is also a woman of peace to be on the lookout for, since Proverbs 21:19 addresses the sad reality of “a contentious and vexing woman.” Thus, the entire household is in sight here.)

Love and Respect Is Not a Weapon to “Use”

Love and Respect Is Not a Weapon to “Use”

A wife wrote me: Right now my husband and I are separated. I kicked him out of the house a month ago. He is now staying with a friend 45 minutes away from us and his work. Reading your book really gave me an insight into why he left so willingly. I had not given the king his "chair." I know I hurt his pride. No man wants to be kicked out of his castle.

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Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

I am asked all the time. “There’s no love left between us,” they say, “and we are tired of working at a loveless marriage. ”That may be how you feel, and I understand that discouragement. I get hundreds of emails with that kind of sentiment, and nearly every marriage goes through times when the love seems to be gone and one or both spouses want to give up. If this is you too, you need to know that you are not alone in this.

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When 'What About My Needs?' Leads to a Broken Marriage

Do You Have a Teamwork Mindset?

When 'What About My Needs?' Leads to a Broken Marriage

A wife wrote to me: "When I began reading Love & Respect, I could not get past the ‘What about my needs?’ question and never even made it to the chapter where this is addressed. "Years later, her husband leaves. She says, "I pulled out our copy of L&R. I finished it today, the day he moved out. It’s not for me to question God’s plan, but I am perplexed by why now, when it seems too late, I have read, understood, embraced, and realized how profoundly I have damaged this man I love and our union."

What Company Do You and Your Spouse Keep?

The company we keep matters. It matters to God, and it matters to us. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. ”Multiple times in the Bible we find God being very specific in His commands concerning the company someone has.

What Company Do You and Your Spouse Keep?

Do You Have a Teamwork Mindset?

One day I found myself wondering, Do couples take seriously the idea of finding win-win as a team, based on God's calling to be one? With this question in mind, I wrote down a burden I was feeling: "As for the win-win message, no one is saying to me ‘tell me more.’

Do You Have a Teamwork Mindset?

Love and Respect Is Not a Weapon to “Use”

A wife wrote me: Right now my husband and I are separated. I kicked him out of the house a month ago. He is now staying with a friend 45 minutes away from us and his work. Reading your book really gave me an insight into why he left so willingly. I had not given the king his "chair." I know I hurt his pride. No man wants to be kicked out of his castle.

Love and Respect Is Not a Weapon to “Use”

Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

I am asked all the time. “There’s no love left between us,” they say, “and we are tired of working at a loveless marriage. ”That may be how you feel, and I understand that discouragement. I get hundreds of emails with that kind of sentiment, and nearly every marriage goes through times when the love seems to be gone and one or both spouses want to give up. If this is you too, you need to know that you are not alone in this.

Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

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Love and Respect Is Not a Weapon to “Use”

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Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

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God Is Still Working “Miracles” in Marriages!

God Is Still Working “Miracles” in Marriages!

God is for your marriage! Do you believe that? I mean, really believe that? It is my opinion that we can come to no other conclusion when we read how Jesus responded in Matthew 19 when the Pharisees asked Him if it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife.

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Are You Claiming “Self-Defense!” When You React Poorly to Your Spouse?

Are You Claiming “Self-Defense!” When You React Poorly to Your Spouse?

In May 2017, a man in Arlington, Texas, was jogging when a truck pulled up beside him. A young man climbed out of the truck and approached the jogger, displaying a gun and demanding money. Rather than comply, the jogger drew his own legally carried pistol and fired on the robber, striking him several times in the groin area before he could hobble back into the truck and flee the scene. Later that day police received a tip that led to the apprehension of the wounded robber, who quickly confessed. Police treated the incident as a robbery attempt with self-defense by the jogger, who was not expected to face charges

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What Does It Mean to Be a Strong and Independent Christian Wife?

What Does It Mean to Be a Strong and Independent Christian Wife?

Sadly, there are some who would make the claim that a wife who chooses to show unconditional respect toward her husband cannot also be strong and independent. Instead, they say, respecting her husband according to Ephesians 5:33 requires her to be milk-toast, with no voice of her own, having to comply with any and all notions her husband has, no matter how sinful, all for the sake of not coming across as un-submissive and disrespectful.

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Is He Lacking Empathy or Displaying His Complete Faith in Christ?

Is He Lacking Empathy or Displaying His Complete Faith in Christ?

Eighty-three-old Michelle informed her husband Bill, a man of strong faith in Christ, that she might have ovarian cancer. His immediate response was, “Well, you’ve lived longer than most people have lived.” Stunned, hurt, and angered by his comment, she turned to him and boldly expressed, "Bill, you can do better than that.” He then said, having recognized how that sounded, “I’m so sorry, sweetie, for how that came out. I would be absolutely devastated if you died.”

Parenting

“Help! I Don’t Know What I’m Doing!” - Three Types of Rules to Help All Parents

Have you as a parent ever heard someone without children say, “I’m not ready to be a parent”? If you have, I predict that outwardly you may have smiled and nodded at them, perhaps saying something like, “Yeah, parenting can be crazy tough”; but inside you were thinking, No one is ever ready to be a parent. You think I know what I’m doing? . . . Wait, where’s my son?

“Help! I Don’t Know What I’m Doing!” - Three Types of Rules to Help All Parents

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According to Jesus, A Home Is To Be Identified As Wholesome And Worthy If There Is A Man Of Peace There

According to Jesus, A Home Is To Be Identified As Wholesome And Worthy If There Is A Man Of Peace There

When Jesus sent the disciples out two by two, He told them to stay at the home of “a man of peace.” What exactly does that mean? When the disciples came to a home they had never been to before, how were they to know if the man of the house, and his wife, were people of peace? (By implication, there is also a woman of peace to be on the lookout for, since Proverbs 21:19 addresses the sad reality of “a contentious and vexing woman.” Thus, the entire household is in sight here.)

What Can a Husband and Wife with Different Convictions Learn from Romans 14?

What Can a Husband and Wife with Different Convictions Learn from Romans 14?

The first-century church in Rome was made up of both Jews and Gentiles, which caused a few problems between these well-meaning brothers and sisters in Christ. Two differences in particular gave Paul reason to address their situations in drawn-out fashion in Romans 14. First, some had no problems with eating meat from animals that had been offered up as idol sacrifice, while others strenuously objected to such a diet. Second, some felt strongly that the sabbath should still be held in high esteem above all other days, while others had no conviction either way.