Christian Marriage Articles

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Do Different Reactions Toward Their Spouse’s Contempt Mean One Is More Justified than the Other?

Do Different Reactions Toward Their Spouse’s Contempt Mean One Is More Justified than the Other?

Over the years, I have heard from many women who feel they have more of a right to speak harshly and disrespectfully to their husband than he does to speak unlovingly toward her.

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

A minor unannounced U-turn after church escalates into hours of tears and despair for one wife, revealing how everyday preferences quickly spiral into the Crazy Cycle of missing love and respect.

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Most of us long for a better marriage, and that longing is to be applauded. However, how might some go about improving the relationship?

He Desires to Be First Among Equals, She Desires to Be First in Importance

He Desires to Be First Among Equals, She Desires to Be First in Importance

A husband has a need to be respected by his wife. That is what Paul teaches in Ephesians 5:33. As well, a wife has a need to be honored (respected) by her husband.

God’s “Secret” Became One Couple’s Miracle

God’s “Secret” Became One Couple’s Miracle

The love and respect connection is real—make no mistake. When I was reading Ephesians 5 one day in 1998, after having studied and taught from this chapter many times in my twenty years of preaching, God revealed this connection to me and it blew me away.

He Desires to Be First Among Equals, She Desires to Be First in Importance

God’s “Secret” Became One Couple’s Miracle

You Still Control the Secret to the Chemistry in Your Marriage

You Still Control the Secret to the Chemistry in Your Marriage

Whenever we talk about "chemistry" between a man and a woman, many of us envision an igniting of romantic passions that give birth to incredible emotional bonding. Not only are we attracted to each other physically, but as we share heart to heart, we are stunned with delight by how we feel, think, and act alike.

A Look Inside: Why She Feels She Is Right and He Is Wrong

A Look Inside: Why She Feels She Is Right and He Is Wrong

“Not wrong, just different.” These four words illustrate much of what I’ve talked about for over twenty years now. In fact, many others have repeated them within their own marriages countless times as they notice the differences—both subtle and not-so-subtle—between them and their spouse.

Toilet Seats and Near Empty Gas Tanks

Toilet Seats and Near Empty Gas Tanks

Unless there is a clear violation of Scripture, morality, or the law, our spouse is not inherently wrong when varying with us on such topics as toilet seats and near-empty gas tanks. These would be gray-area issues or what I refer to as clashing preferences. Neither is absolutely wrong, just different, relatively speaking.

Has the Deceiver Convinced You That Respect Must Be Earned?

Has the Deceiver Convinced You That Respect Must Be Earned?

Back in the garden, when it was only one man and one woman, the lone woman, Eve, was deceived by the serpent, who questioned her, “Did God really say not to eat the fruit from that tree?”