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When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

A minor unannounced U-turn after church escalates into hours of tears and despair for one wife, revealing how everyday preferences quickly spiral into the Crazy Cycle of missing love and respect.

Since God Wants Me to Believe in Him, Why Doesn’t He Just Appear to Me?

Since God Wants Me to Believe in Him, Why Doesn’t He Just Appear to Me?

As a new believer in Christ at age sixteen, I recall one night going outside my home in Peoria, Illinois, and crying out to God to show Himself to me to confirm that what I believed about Him was true. “Just appear to me!” I begged of God.

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Most of us long for a better marriage, and that longing is to be applauded. However, how might some go about improving the relationship?

When God’s Plan Does Not Match Your Expectations: The Untold Story Of Joseph Barsabbas

When God’s Plan Does Not Match Your Expectations: The Untold Story Of Joseph Barsabbas

When I went off to military school in eighth grade, where I stayed for the next five years, there was another cadet who entered eighth grade with me.

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

Since God Wants Me to Believe in Him, Why Doesn’t He Just Appear to Me?

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

When God’s Plan Does Not Match Your Expectations: The Untold Story Of Joseph Barsabbas

Five Ways to Provoke Your Kids Without Really Trying

Five Ways to Provoke Your Kids Without Really Trying

While Emerson was writing Love & Respect in the Family, our son David told him that he felt his dad was always attempting to explain why he was telling him whatever it was he wanted him to understand. Now if you followed that…. you realize David knew Emerson wanted to understand him, but rarely felt he did. Understanding our kids is one of the 6 major ways to show that we love them as Emerson explains in the family book. And in doing that, hopefully it will be one of those motivational things for them to show us respect.

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The #1 Reason a Person Declares, “I Want to Do This Love and Respect Thing But Can't!" [Video]

The #1 Reason a Person Declares, “I Want to Do This Love and Respect Thing But Can't!" [Video]

Over the years, I have heard spouses complain, “I cannot do this love and respect thing.” They refer to God’s command in Ephesians 5:33. Husbands are to love and wives respect.My heart goes out to them. Sarah and I fall short as well.

Is My Spouse Good or Evil?

Is My Spouse Good or Evil?

Q: I have heard you refer to “good will” a lot. What does that really mean and how do I know if my spouse has good will or evil will toward me? Dr. E says: Good question! The line between good and evil will can certainly get blurred when couples are spinning on the Crazy Cycle!Let me try to unpack this in less than 1,000 words. Good intentions, poor delivery.

I Wanted to Quit My Marriage

I Wanted to Quit My Marriage

Have you ever tried to apply Love and Respect to your marriage and then wanted to throw in the towel? Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Let’s hear how one weary wife made the decision to not give up. At first, I radically changed. Something radically changed in me through applying.

What Will Your Children Say At Your Funeral?

What Will Your Children Say At Your Funeral?

As our children were growing up, we often stopped at cemeteries on a long road trip to let the kids get some exercise or to deal with sibling conflict. That may sound like a morbid place to do such earthly things, but the kids enjoyed reading the epitaphs, names and dates. It made for some great conversations and teaching moments.It’s so interesting that to this day our daughter Joy has a love of cemeteries. In fact, she lives a block away from her favorite one and almost daily walks through it to talk to God and think about life ….and the reality of death.

Are We Blowing Smoke About Love and Respect? [Video]

Are We Blowing Smoke About Love and Respect? [Video]

In the military, smoke screening is a tactic to disguise one’s intentions and activities by spraying smoke. The smoke acts as a ploy to prevent others from knowing one’s real purpose and condition. But smoke screening can happen in relationships too. Perhaps nothing exposes our human imperfections as much as marriage. And when a spouse points out an imperfection in their mate, what might that person do?

Does Respect Mean No Questions Asked?

Does Respect Mean No Questions Asked?

Q: My husband has given me reasons to not trust him. Am I now being called to trust without question, because my questions show him a lack of respect? Dr. E says: To answer this, let me clarify the meaning of respect. In the book Love & Respectwe address the importance of respectfully confronting issues. We never say you have to ignore or feel respect for the bad behavior of your husband. No, asking questions does not show a lack of respect.

Pastor Shares Love & Respect in Church and Prison

Pastor Shares Love & Respect in Church and Prison

Whether you are in a church small group or your marriage is affected by imprisonment, your marriage can change for the better! We appreciate how this pastor discovered that applying the Love and Respect principles toward inmates was just as impactful as applying them in church. Let’s hear from Pastor Jerry! Dr. Eggerichs,I first learned of your work watching Focus on the Family a number of years ago. I was pastoring a small church at the time. Your subject matter peaked my interest and materials were ordered to use in an evening class at the church.