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Pick Your Battles Wisely (And Avoid Those About His Driving!)

Pick Your Battles Wisely (And Avoid Those About His Driving!)

Can you relate to the couple who was driving on the highway, with their exit still a few miles away, when the wife said matter-of-factly, “You’ll need to get in the right lane”?

Your Husband Does Have a Need for Emotional Intimacy!

Your Husband Does Have a Need for Emotional Intimacy!

Wives, I’m sure you’re well aware by now of your husband’s need for sexual connection. He needs sexual release as you need emotional release.

What Can I Say to My Spouse When They Treat Me Like a Doormat?

What Can I Say to My Spouse When They Treat Me Like a Doormat?

Do you ever reach the point of exhaustion in your relationship, where you feel like you are always being criticized, unappreciated, dumped on and ripped apart—like a doormat? You think you are being taken for granted or are expected to simply agree with whatever your spouse says or does.

“You Are Not Who God Made You to Be and Who God Says You Are” (Satan’s Big, Fat Lie)

“You Are Not Who God Made You to Be and Who God Says You Are” (Satan’s Big, Fat Lie)

From the get-go Satan has been whispering lies in the minds and hearts of the unsuspecting. In Genesis 3:1, we have him already convincing Eve to question that which she had heard from God, when the serpent asked her, “Has God really said, ‘You shall not eat from any tree of the garden’?”

“You Are Not Who God Made You to Be and Who God Says You Are” (Satan’s Big, Fat Lie)

Conflict Over Clashing Preferences or Moral Transgression?

Conflict Over Clashing Preferences or Moral Transgression?

She prefers white carpet in the bedroom and he prefers dark brown. This is not a moral issue but a preference issue. A moral issue is when one of them chooses to steal the carpet from the retailer and demands the other go along with their plan. As for preferences, God designed us to enjoy differing tastes.

The Double Standard of Some Husbands, Part 2

The Double Standard of Some Husbands, Part 2

In part 1, we laid out in detail the clear double standard that many husbands hold that tells them they are allowed to gaze upon other women since God made them visually oriented, but that their wives are not to do the same. No doubt this is a common struggle in marriages across the land and throughout time, but it’s not enough to just admit the double standard. What can we do about it?

The Double Standard of Some Husbands, Part 1

The Double Standard of Some Husbands, Part 1

Do husbands have a double standard? May I invite you to consider one that I have observed? Some wives hear from their husbands, “I can look at women because God designed me to look at the female figure, but you must not look at men.” I am not talking about viewing pornography. That is a different matter. Instead, I am referring to the husband who habitually looks at women around him. At a restaurant he looks at the shapely waitresses as they walk by. At the mall, he checks out the women walking by him as he sits at the bench waiting for his wife. At church, he looks over at the two beautiful blonds talking by the stain-glassed windows.

Do We Expect Others to Be Truthful With Us, As We Are With Them?

Do We Expect Others to Be Truthful With Us, As We Are With Them?

My friend Sam Ericsson, who graduated from Harvard Law School and founded Advocates International, was instrumental in helping various nations draft new constitutions, especially those countries that formed after the Soviet Union gave them their independence. Sam told me that his chief point of advocacy with the leaders of these countries seeking his legal counsel was to create laws based on the Golden Rule. Sam conveyed that there is no better way to establish just laws than by doing to others what you would want done to you in the same situation. Sam shared with me that such laws are not difficult to figure out when the Golden Rule is acted on honestly with good will. If a person or a nation wants to know what is right, they can discover it by applying the Golden Rule.

We Must Think Before We Speak

We Must Think Before We Speak

During the 2016 NBA Finals, a player’s wife, understandably hurting and upset for her husband who had just been ejected from a game, fired out a tweet from her seat in the arena accusing the NBA of being rigged and out to get her husband for the sake of ratings. An hour and a half later, she deleted the tweet and apologized, but the damage had already been done. With 450,000 followers on Twitter, she had already seen her unfortunate tweet retweeted thousands of times, and the backlash had begun.

Feel Stupid and Wrong? Part 2: Don’t Let It Define You

Feel Stupid and Wrong? Part 2: Don’t Let It Define You

When we feel stupid and wrong in the marriage, we can draw conclusions about ourselves that are untrue in the eyes of God and react in ways that won’t remedy the pain. In part 1 we discussed a husband who felt that the remedy for his situation was divorce. Now hear from a wife who felt stupid up against her brilliant husband and began to believe the lie that she really was stupid and wrong.

Feel Stupid and Wrong? Part 1: Divorce is Not the Remedy

Feel Stupid and Wrong? Part 1: Divorce is Not the Remedy

Listen to this husband who wrote me: My wife and I have had problems in our marriage for a while . . . I believe we have a much bigger problem in our marriage than my wife does . . . I have hit rock bottom and am truly unhappy. I find my wife more and more controlling and manipulative as I am the one who always has to purposely "lose" a fight/argument before she gets happy. I am very concerned about my wife's happiness and if she is not happy I can't be happy either. So, I have to be the one who is always wrong and lose the arguments to make her happy. However, I remain unhappy. This leaves me miserable and I can't take it anymore. One of the things she complains to me about is that I am not supportive enough . . .

Do Wives Live by a Double Standard, and Is That Okay Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part 2

Do Wives Live by a Double Standard, and Is That Okay Because They Are Vulnerable Victims? Part 2

In part 1, we discussed the double standard that exists in society today that basically allows women to proclaim loudly their desire to be strong and independent in marriages while suppresses and defeats men trying to lead their families. This same double standard also confuses our young boys when they see the same attitude in men and women reacted to in completely opposite ways. But it’s not enough to simply acknowledge that this double standard exists.