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Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

You’ve likely heard me talk about “when the issue is no longer the issue.” What begins as a normal difference of opinion can quickly leave both spouses feeling unloved and completely disrespected.

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Courtship and the first few months of marriage is a unique time in a couple’s relationship. We are usually focused on our partner’s strengths and rarely aware of the weaknesses or quirks that all of us have.

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

In Galatians 5:14, Paul wrote, “For the whole Law is fulfilled in one word, in the statement, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’”

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

As a young boy, around the age of twelve, when I learned of Darwin’s theory of evolution, something in me said, “Something is wrong here.”

Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

The Jean Jacket

I proposed to Sarah when we were both still in college, and she said yes. While still engaged we got a hint of how husbands and wives can get into arguments over practically nothing. That first Christmas Sarah made me a jean jacket. Yup…you read that right. She MADE me a jean jacket! I opened the box…

The Jean Jacket

Spiderwebbing [Video]

You won’t find a formal definition of this term in the dictionary, but most married couples will recognize what spiderwebbing is. Someone starts with this point and goes to that point but doesn’t finish that point before going on to another point, not finishing that point but doubling back to an earlier point.

Spiderwebbing [Video]

"What I Learned About Leadership From A Fight With My Wife"

"What I Learned About Leadership From A Fight With My Wife"

My friend Michael Hyatt is one of the most profound writers on leadership that I know. His recent blog post linking leadership principles to marital conflict resolution did not disappoint.

Powerful Enough to Change Your Life

Powerful Enough to Change Your Life

In last week’s blog, I addressed whether the biblical truth of Love and Respect is too simplistic for marriages that are in serious trouble. This week I share a testimony that beautifully communicates how love and respect, though simple, can powerfully transform a troubled marriage!

More Energizing Examples…

More Energizing Examples…

Last week I shared a testimony from a couple who discovered mutual respect for one another. Because I talk about a woman’s deepest need for love, and a man’s deepest need for respect, I sometimes get the comment from women, “Well, I need respect too!” To which I reply, “Absolutely!”

Mutual Respect

These last several weeks I have been sharing with you the “if-then” principle that keeps the Energizing Cycle humming in your marriage. Today I want to share the final "if-then" principle:

Mutual Respect

Time for an Attitude Adjustment (Loyalty and Conquest)

Time for an Attitude Adjustment (Loyalty and Conquest)

An FBI agent confided in me that the amount of time he spent on his job was causing his wife to complain and question him even though he actually thought he was balancing things “pretty well.” He would get defensive and lash back at her, saying he was trying his best to do a good job and he didn't appreciate her questioning.

How Peacemaking Connects With Authority

How Peacemaking Connects With Authority

If a husband chooses to be a peacemaker, taking the needs and concerns of his wife totally into account during any kind of argument or conflict, his wife will be motivated in turn to respond to his authority during stalemates. By the same token, if a wife chooses to respect her husband’s authority (desire to serve and to lead), he will be motivated to make peace with her and try to meet her needs and concerns during conflict at any level.