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Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

You’ve likely heard me talk about “when the issue is no longer the issue.” What begins as a normal difference of opinion can quickly leave both spouses feeling unloved and completely disrespected.

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Courtship and the first few months of marriage is a unique time in a couple’s relationship. We are usually focused on our partner’s strengths and rarely aware of the weaknesses or quirks that all of us have.

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

In Galatians 5:14, Paul wrote, “For the whole Law is fulfilled in one word, in the statement, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’”

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

As a young boy, around the age of twelve, when I learned of Darwin’s theory of evolution, something in me said, “Something is wrong here.”

Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

How Understanding Connects With Insight

How Understanding Connects With Insight

Several weeks ago, I started a series on being PROACTIVE, not REACTIVE. I emphasized the importance of not just stopping the Crazy Cycle of conflict in our marriages, but learning how to be proactive by getting on the Energizing Cycle.

How Openness Connects with Sexuality

How Openness Connects with Sexuality

Here’s something you husbands may want to try. Go out with some married couples for dinner, and as you dine, ask them to share the story of how they met and eventually got married. Draw them out and let them talk.

A Father's Day Story…

With Father’s Day approaching, I wish to honor the many fathers who have served their families with love and respect. When I coach husbands on how to love their wives, two principles I teach are a woman’s desire for loyalty and esteem (Love & Respect, pp 117-182).

A Father's Day Story…

Parenting

Face-to-Face And Shoulder-to-Shoulder

Face-to-Face And Shoulder-to-Shoulder

Have you noticed that men and women do friendship differently? Typically (and I realize there are always exceptions to the general rule), female friendship involves face-to-face talking and sharing.

Through the Lens of Respect

Through the Lens of Respect

As a husband, you notice matters of honor. The movie Saving Private Ryan, about the invasion of Normandy, tears you up as you fixate on the incredible heroism.

Through the Lens of Love

As a wife, you notice a man and a woman walking hand in hand. You see a couple sitting together in the park, talking face to face on a bench. You beam all the way through your friend's wedding. On a rainy day, you page through your wedding pictures.

Through the Lens of Love

Memorial Day Reflections…

Memorial Day Reflections…

I attended a military school for five years. As a cadet corps, we stood at attention each day at the raising and the lowering of the flag. Often I felt chills as I faced the red, white and blue. I am a patriot. I do not believe other peoples and nations are less than us in terms of intrinsic value but I do believe God shed His grace on this great land and people.

Who Goes First?

Last week I asked the question, “What can husbands and wives do specifically to proactively stay energized in their marriage?” But before I get into the specifics of how to stay on the Energizing Cycle, I need to address two things that prevent most couples from moving from the negative (reactive) to the positive (proactive) in their relationship.

Who Goes First?