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In the beginning, after God had created Adam and placed him in the garden to cultivate it, He said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).
In the Bible, we find two realities to which we are to respond: God’s commands and God’s promises. God calls us to obey His commands and trust His promises. Most of us have sung the song "Trust and Obey,” which captures these two quintessential truths.
There are certain phrases we have been programmed to understand in a specific way whenever we hear them. For example, if someone says to us, “We need to talk,” we know there is bad news to come and we get in defensive mode.
Is your normally happy-go-lucky husband suddenly more sulky and moody? Has your typically fully engaged and intimate husband for some mysterious reason become more distant and even physically absent?
Do you have a specific sports team that you are outright fanatic about? Suppose you are a passionate Yankees fan whose white bedroom walls have navy blue pinstripes on them and your living room coasters have pictures of Mickey Mantle, Babe Ruth, Derek Jeter, and other Yankees greats on them.
Have you heard comments like this from your wife? - Remember your son’s music recital this Thursday. Please do not miss this one like you did the last one. - My sister is coming for dinner tonight. Can you please act more interested than you usually do when she’s around? Ask her how she is feeling in her new relationship with Sam. - Call your mother this week and talk with her longer than you did the last time. She said you only chatted for about five minutes.
Are you like my wife Sarah and me? We prefer to live according to our selfish nature. I prefer to be unloving to motivate Sarah to show me respect. Sarah prefers to be disrespectful to motivate me to show her love. You know, unholy means to achieve holy ends. Do you try to live that way? How’s it workin’ for you? IT NEVER WORKS.
Q: My husband is a workaholic.Work comes before me and the kids, and our family is suffering. How do I respect him in this area? Dr. E says: First, I cannot guarantee that what I have to say will automatically get a husband to quit working so many hours and be at home a lot more. However, in counseling many couples in this situation, I have made four observations that usually help a wife deal with the situation in a more positive way. 1. “We need your influence.”
Have you become someone that you wish you weren’t in your marriage? Are you wondering how that happened or what to do about it? Shannon took a hard look at herself and allowed God to begin to change her. She writes:..
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