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In the beginning, after God had created Adam and placed him in the garden to cultivate it, He said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).
In the Bible, we find two realities to which we are to respond: God’s commands and God’s promises. God calls us to obey His commands and trust His promises. Most of us have sung the song "Trust and Obey,” which captures these two quintessential truths.
There are certain phrases we have been programmed to understand in a specific way whenever we hear them. For example, if someone says to us, “We need to talk,” we know there is bad news to come and we get in defensive mode.
Is your normally happy-go-lucky husband suddenly more sulky and moody? Has your typically fully engaged and intimate husband for some mysterious reason become more distant and even physically absent?
Do you have a specific sports team that you are outright fanatic about? Suppose you are a passionate Yankees fan whose white bedroom walls have navy blue pinstripes on them and your living room coasters have pictures of Mickey Mantle, Babe Ruth, Derek Jeter, and other Yankees greats on them.
Should a Wife Lower Her Expectations? Years ago I read on the side of a coffee mug, “Want to be happy with me? Lower your expectations.” We laugh since we interpret the comments on the side of the mug as lame excuse-making. Those of us who are “normal” insist that the expectations placed on another person are appropriate, and this individual is demanding license to be selfish and excused from responsible living.
In Jo Berry’s book, Beloved Unbeliever, she shares, "Diane confessed...she mentally put down her husband. She mocked his ideas and his reactions or responses and secretly made fun of his opinions…
Scripture teaches there will be trouble in marriage. Get ready for it! “But if you should marry… such will have trouble in this life…” (1 Corinthians 7:28). The one who fully intends for us to experience love and respect also teaches that “those who marry will have a lot of trouble” (CEV). Why the trouble? 1 Corinthians 7:3,4 gives us the answer.
In a note she wrote to us, Carol asked the following questions: “Please answer- I'm so confused. What exactly are you identifying as ‘respect?’ Perhaps you could give a list, or point me in the direction of a source of clear cut examples of giving respect or what kind of things women are telling their husbands they respect them for? I'm through the first three chapters of the book with my husband and feel confused as to whether I'm really understanding it. Sometimes I think I do but then get confused again.”Here is how I replied:
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