Marriage

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

In What Areas Is He Feeling Disrespected? Diagnosing Your Deflated Husband

In What Areas Is He Feeling Disrespected? Diagnosing Your Deflated Husband

Is your normally happy-go-lucky husband suddenly more sulky and moody? Has your typically fully engaged and intimate husband for some mysterious reason become more distant and even physically absent?

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

Do you have a specific sports team that you are outright fanatic about? Suppose you are a passionate Yankees fan whose white bedroom walls have navy blue pinstripes on them and your living room coasters have pictures of Mickey Mantle, Babe Ruth, Derek Jeter, and other Yankees greats on them.

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

A couple attended the Love and Respect Marriage Conference recently, and several weeks later the wife wrote to me to share some of the reasons why they had attended, along with her frustrations for the lack of changes she had seen in him since the conference.

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

I have spoken often about the need to understand and appreciate God’s pink and blue design of women and men, respectively, because our differences undoubtedly go well beyond the biological.

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

We’ve all thought that before, right? Many times, in fact. After all, we are a selfish people. It’s only natural for us to get caught up in thinking about what I need, and what you can do for me.

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

Within Five Years, Your Unhappy Marriage Will Turn Happy

Within Five Years, Your Unhappy Marriage Will Turn Happy

President Ronald Reagan joked, “I won't say their marriage is unhappy, but the husband went down to the marriage license bureau to see if the license had expired.” Are you unhappy? Do you want “out” of your marriage? Do you want a divorce? Do not quit! The Happy News About Being Unhappy Research found that 8 out of 10 who rated their marriages as “very unhappy,” were happily married to the same person five years later.

Does God Want Me to Divorce to Be Happy?

Does God Want Me to Divorce to Be Happy?

This can be a controversial topic. Please be sure to read the full post before commenting. “God wants you to be happy.” Have you heard this platitude before? Has it perhaps been spoken to you? Maybe you’ve even heard it said in the context of encouraging someone to divorce their spouse, because “God wants you to be happy.” However, some platitudes, though quite memorable, are not based on biblical truth.

Can We Manipulate Each Other with the Love and Respect Teaching?

Can We Manipulate Each Other with the Love and Respect Teaching?

Though God commands the husband to love and a wife to respect, a strange twist might take place. A wife puts on respect for one reason: to get her husband to be loving. A husband puts on love solely to get his wife to respect him.One pastor who wrote me shared his concerns fearing this very thing: that husbands and wives will manipulate each other when applying love and respect based on Ephesians 5:33:

Different Views on Sex and Parenting: How to Avoid Marital Crisis

Different Views on Sex and Parenting: How to Avoid Marital Crisis

Husbands and wives have many hot topics, but not many rate higher than sex and childrearing techniques. Yes, we can throw finances, in-laws, and work issues into the mix, but sex and childrearing are usually right up there for most couples. A husband wrote: