Christian Marriage Articles

God’s “Secret” Became One Couple’s Miracle

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Most of us long for a better marriage, and that longing is to be applauded. However, how might some go about improving the relationship?

He Desires to Be First Among Equals, She Desires to Be First in Importance

He Desires to Be First Among Equals, She Desires to Be First in Importance

A husband has a need to be respected by his wife. That is what Paul teaches in Ephesians 5:33. As well, a wife has a need to be honored (respected) by her husband.

God’s “Secret” Became One Couple’s Miracle

God’s “Secret” Became One Couple’s Miracle

The love and respect connection is real—make no mistake. When I was reading Ephesians 5 one day in 1998, after having studied and taught from this chapter many times in my twenty years of preaching, God revealed this connection to me and it blew me away.

Is Unconditional Respect Foolish and Impossible While Unconditional Love Is Wise?

Is Unconditional Respect Foolish and Impossible While Unconditional Love Is Wise?

People who think culturally, not biblically oftentimes stumble over the idea of unconditional respect.

Why One Husband Struggles With Being the Spiritual Leader

Why One Husband Struggles With Being the Spiritual Leader

"My wife and I have been really struggling with our communication and our relationship; feels like we are two ships sailing in the night, which concerns me. I know I am responsible for what comes out of my mouth, which reveals what is in my heart. I have been trying to take responsibility for that and ask for forgiveness."

Is Unconditional Respect Foolish and Impossible While Unconditional Love Is Wise?

Why One Husband Struggles With Being the Spiritual Leader

What if We are an Exception to Pink and Blue? Part 1

What if We are an Exception to Pink and Blue? Part 1

At times I receive mail or personal inquiries at our conferences to the effect: "We don't fit your description of husband and wife.

Forgiveness: The Ultimate Strategy for Halting the Crazy Cycle

Forgiveness: The Ultimate Strategy for Halting the Crazy Cycle

As we enter a new year, many of us no doubt have made resolutions such as “work on my marriage” or “be a nicer person” or “grow closer to the Lord.” But do we have a strategy to fulfill these resolutions? How do we plan to meet such goals? One often overlooked – but critical issue – is the concept of forgiveness. With God’s help, this powerful act can help us accomplish all of the above – and more. In my next several blogs, I want to focus on forgiveness – the ultimate strategy for halting the crazy cycles in our relationships.

She Nearly Gave Up Too Soon

She Nearly Gave Up Too Soon

In recent blogs, we have been talking about not giving up too soon. Over a year ago, I received this testimony from a wife who nearly gave up, but decided to try one more thing by attending a Love and Respect Conference. Here is her story:

But What if my Spouse Doesn’t Respond? Part 2

But What if my Spouse Doesn’t Respond? Part 2

So why do I disagree with the statement “it takes two” to work on a marriage? Because I have witnessed something else, over and over. I have seen a husband determined to obey the Biblical command to unconditionally love his wife, no matter how unresponsive she is. I have seen a wife unconditionally respect a husband no matter how indifferent he is in return. If this is done in obedience to Christ, and not as a magic formula to manipulate a spouse, something transformational happens.