Marriage

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

You Know What You’re Saying, but What Are You Communicating?

You Know What You’re Saying, but What Are You Communicating?

There are certain phrases we have been programmed to understand in a specific way whenever we hear them. For example, if someone says to us, “We need to talk,” we know there is bad news to come and we get in defensive mode.

In What Areas Is He Feeling Disrespected? Diagnosing Your Deflated Husband

In What Areas Is He Feeling Disrespected? Diagnosing Your Deflated Husband

Is your normally happy-go-lucky husband suddenly more sulky and moody? Has your typically fully engaged and intimate husband for some mysterious reason become more distant and even physically absent?

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

Do you have a specific sports team that you are outright fanatic about? Suppose you are a passionate Yankees fan whose white bedroom walls have navy blue pinstripes on them and your living room coasters have pictures of Mickey Mantle, Babe Ruth, Derek Jeter, and other Yankees greats on them.

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

A couple attended the Love and Respect Marriage Conference recently, and several weeks later the wife wrote to me to share some of the reasons why they had attended, along with her frustrations for the lack of changes she had seen in him since the conference.

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

I have spoken often about the need to understand and appreciate God’s pink and blue design of women and men, respectively, because our differences undoubtedly go well beyond the biological.

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

3 Guidelines for a Strong Marriage

3 Guidelines for a Strong Marriage

Q: We want to have a Love and Respect marriage, but we keep falling into our old patterns. This is harder than we thought. Are we missing something? Dr. E says: One of our chief concerns at Love and Respect is not that people hear the message, important as that is, but that couples will go on to practice love and respect effectively in their daily lives. Simple isn’t easy.

My Husband Wants A Divorce—What Do I Do Now?

My Husband Wants A Divorce—What Do I Do Now?

Nothing is more exciting than to hear from someone whose marriage was literally brought back to life when it appeared to be dead. Recently we heard from a wife who made a decision to obey God’s command in Ephesians 5:33, even after they were separated! Read what she says:My husband wanted a divorce.

Unconditional Respect - A Contradiction of Terms Like Jumbo Shrimp [Video]

Unconditional Respect - A Contradiction of Terms Like Jumbo Shrimp [Video]

Have you ever heard the expression “unconditional respect”? For most, this is a contradiction of terms. Like Jumbo Shrimp. Doesn’t respect need to be earned? Most everyone says, “Love is unconditional but respect must be earned.” Unearned respect strikes us as an incongruity like “disciplined gluttony.”

The #1 Mislabeling Mistake in Marriage [Video]

The #1 Mislabeling Mistake in Marriage [Video]

How wrong is it to put a Skull and Cross Bones on the only can of pure water in the survival kit for those traveling across the Namib Desert? That’s dangerously wrong! Likewise, it’s dangerous in marriage when good willed husbands and wives mislabel each other.