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The idea of unconditional respect for the husband has always been the Love and Respect message’s unique feature, based on Ephesians 5:33. Many books stress Paul’s instruction for husbands to love their wives (“each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself . . .”), but few spend equal space if any at all, to the rest of the verse (“. . . and the wife must respect her husband”).
Many wives share disappointment that their husbands rarely talk to them at a deeper level. “Emerson, when we were dating, we used to talk long into the night getting to really know each other. What happened to him?”
In the beginning, after God had created Adam and placed him in the garden to cultivate it, He said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).
In the Bible, we find two realities to which we are to respond: God’s commands and God’s promises. God calls us to obey His commands and trust His promises. Most of us have sung the song "Trust and Obey,” which captures these two quintessential truths.
There are certain phrases we have been programmed to understand in a specific way whenever we hear them. For example, if someone says to us, “We need to talk,” we know there is bad news to come and we get in defensive mode.
When we say that God commands a wife to respect her husband we are not saying that God commands the wife to feel respect for her husband. She may feel little to no respect for him because of his reprehensible actions. No person on the planet should feel respect for what is not intrinsically respectable.So then, what do we mean by respecting one’s husband?
When we say that God commands a husband to love his wife, we are not saying that God commands the husband to feel love for his wife. He may feel little to no love for her because of her reprehensible actions. No person on the planet should feel love for what is not intrinsically lovable. So then, what do we mean by loving one’s wife?
How did you get here? Did you run a Google search for “marriage helps,” recognizing that you need help on a marital concern that leaves you feeling helpless? You might have hoped that a search for “marriage helps” would produce a fairly easy answer. You might have thought, “Perhaps a thoughtful individual will furnish a timely nugget of truth to assist with my marriage difficulty."
Part 1 and Part 2 discussed and showed you that: - A wife must guard against judging her husband because he does not respond like she would respond. - A husband must guard against judging his wife because she does not respond like he would respond. So how do you apply this in healing your marriage?
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