Christian Marriage Articles

Your Husband Does Have a Need for Emotional Intimacy!

Same Facts, Different Views: His and Her Marriages

Same Facts, Different Views: His and Her Marriages

Did you know we can ask a husband and wife identical questions about identical issues but receive two different replies? Why? Because the husband and wife are each experiencing two different marriages: his and hers.

Pick Your Battles Wisely (And Avoid Those About His Driving!)

Pick Your Battles Wisely (And Avoid Those About His Driving!)

Can you relate to the couple who was driving on the highway, with their exit still a few miles away, when the wife said matter-of-factly, “You’ll need to get in the right lane”?

Your Husband Does Have a Need for Emotional Intimacy!

Your Husband Does Have a Need for Emotional Intimacy!

Wives, I’m sure you’re well aware by now of your husband’s need for sexual connection. He needs sexual release as you need emotional release.

What Can I Say to My Spouse When They Treat Me Like a Doormat?

What Can I Say to My Spouse When They Treat Me Like a Doormat?

Do you ever reach the point of exhaustion in your relationship, where you feel like you are always being criticized, unappreciated, dumped on and ripped apart—like a doormat? You think you are being taken for granted or are expected to simply agree with whatever your spouse says or does.

Not All Men Need to Keep Talking about Their Hurts and Vulnerabilities

Not All Men Need to Keep Talking about Their Hurts and Vulnerabilities

When I used to do marriage counseling during my days as a pastor, I noticed a distinctive trend among the couples who would come to my office. The husband typically played it close to the vest during the session.

What Can I Say to My Spouse When They Treat Me Like a Doormat?

Not All Men Need to Keep Talking about Their Hurts and Vulnerabilities

What Is Your Secret to Avoiding the Criticism-and-Withdrawal Pattern That Starts Up So Many Crazy Cycles?

What Is Your Secret to Avoiding the Criticism-and-Withdrawal Pattern That Starts Up So Many Crazy Cycles?

Between all husbands and wives there is a dynamic called "criticism-and-withdrawal.” For example, a wife criticizes her husband for being late again for dinner. He withdraws by going quiet and feeling miffed by what he feels is an unfair criticism since his boss demanded he stay late again.

My Spouse Is Selfish and Stubborn, Resisting My Proposals and Ideas!

My Spouse Is Selfish and Stubborn, Resisting My Proposals and Ideas!

A person claims their spouse is selfish and stubborn, refusing to deal with their disagreement by finding a win-win solution. But is the spouse selfish? Or, could the spouse have goodwill but is more fearful than stubborn?

Does a Couple Need to Deal with Every Single Marital Issue?

Does a Couple Need to Deal with Every Single Marital Issue?

To many husbands and wives, solving every single marital problem that arises means two completely different things concerning the quality of their marriage. Much of this stems from the different ways they each prefer to handle conflict.

What Flows Naturally from You Does Not from Your Spouse (And That’s Okay!)

What Flows Naturally from You Does Not from Your Spouse (And That’s Okay!)

I believe a husband is to act lovingly whether or not he feels it. God’s command in Ephesians 5:33 for a husband to love his wife is to be followed as an act of obedience, not as a conditional response toward her respect for him.