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Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

You’ve likely heard me talk about “when the issue is no longer the issue.” What begins as a normal difference of opinion can quickly leave both spouses feeling unloved and completely disrespected.

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Courtship and the first few months of marriage is a unique time in a couple’s relationship. We are usually focused on our partner’s strengths and rarely aware of the weaknesses or quirks that all of us have.

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

In Galatians 5:14, Paul wrote, “For the whole Law is fulfilled in one word, in the statement, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’”

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

As a young boy, around the age of twelve, when I learned of Darwin’s theory of evolution, something in me said, “Something is wrong here.”

Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

How To Jump On The Family Energizing Cycle!

How To Jump On The Family Energizing Cycle!

Have you ever ridden a merry go round at a park? Seems fun at first, right? The spinning? Not being able to focus on anything? And your lunch seems to be fighting it’s way out. At some point you realized that the ride wasn’t fun and you wanted to get off. Immediately. Moments like these can take place in everyday life with our families, spinning out of control. We call it the Family Crazy Cycle, which we address in the blog “How to Slow Down the Family Crazy Cycle!”

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The Tone of Love and Respect Matters [Video]

The Tone of Love and Respect Matters [Video]

MY MOM AND DAD - When I was 2 ½, I watched my dad attempt to strangle my mom. This was just one of many incidents of chaos in my home growing up, but that scene as a tiny boy stands out vividly. When I was 11, I learned my Dad committed adultery. My parents divorced, remarried one another, and then separated again. The pain from this ongoing instability created such hurt and anger within me that my Mom sent me away to a military school from ages 13 to 18.

The #1 Reason a Husband is Unloving and a Wife is Disrespectful [Video]

The #1 Reason a Husband is Unloving and a Wife is Disrespectful [Video]

In the Bible in Ephesians 5:33 God commands a husband to love his wife and a wife torespect her husband. God’s Command to a Husband Apparently, a husband is under divine command to be a loving person since he reacts too often in ways that feel unloving to his wife. This is less about his wife being lovable and more about him obeying God’s command to clothe himself with a loving attitude.

3 Guidelines for a Strong Marriage

3 Guidelines for a Strong Marriage

Q: We want to have a Love and Respect marriage, but we keep falling into our old patterns. This is harder than we thought. Are we missing something? Dr. E says: One of our chief concerns at Love and Respect is not that people hear the message, important as that is, but that couples will go on to practice love and respect effectively in their daily lives. Simple isn’t easy.

My Husband Wants A Divorce—What Do I Do Now?

My Husband Wants A Divorce—What Do I Do Now?

Nothing is more exciting than to hear from someone whose marriage was literally brought back to life when it appeared to be dead. Recently we heard from a wife who made a decision to obey God’s command in Ephesians 5:33, even after they were separated! Read what she says:My husband wanted a divorce.

How To Slow Down The Family Crazy Cycle

How To Slow Down The Family Crazy Cycle

Emerson and I both experienced a lot of craziness in our families growing up. My parents divorced when I was 4. I still remember the day my daddy said he wouldn’t be living with us anymore. What I recall after that was the craziness with my older siblings and my mother. I disliked people yelling and just wanted there to be peace. My heart’s desire was for everyone to get along! I often put my fingers in my ears at night to drown out the noise.Temper Tantrums

Parenting

Unconditional Respect - A Contradiction of Terms Like Jumbo Shrimp [Video]

Unconditional Respect - A Contradiction of Terms Like Jumbo Shrimp [Video]

Have you ever heard the expression “unconditional respect”? For most, this is a contradiction of terms. Like Jumbo Shrimp. Doesn’t respect need to be earned? Most everyone says, “Love is unconditional but respect must be earned.” Unearned respect strikes us as an incongruity like “disciplined gluttony.”

The #1 Mislabeling Mistake in Marriage [Video]

The #1 Mislabeling Mistake in Marriage [Video]

How wrong is it to put a Skull and Cross Bones on the only can of pure water in the survival kit for those traveling across the Namib Desert? That’s dangerously wrong! Likewise, it’s dangerous in marriage when good willed husbands and wives mislabel each other.