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Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

You’ve likely heard me talk about “when the issue is no longer the issue.” What begins as a normal difference of opinion can quickly leave both spouses feeling unloved and completely disrespected.

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Courtship and the first few months of marriage is a unique time in a couple’s relationship. We are usually focused on our partner’s strengths and rarely aware of the weaknesses or quirks that all of us have.

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

In Galatians 5:14, Paul wrote, “For the whole Law is fulfilled in one word, in the statement, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’”

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

As a young boy, around the age of twelve, when I learned of Darwin’s theory of evolution, something in me said, “Something is wrong here.”

Four Questions to Ask Yourself When Disagreeing with Your Spouse

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

If My Self-Love Is Healthy, Then I Will Display Such Love Toward Others: An Assessment

Darwin’s Sex Problem: No Theory for the Sexes and Sexual Reproduction

Do You Only Give Love and Respect When Your Spouse Deserves it?

Do You Only Give Love and Respect When Your Spouse Deserves it?

What would you think if your husband said something like the following: “On a scale of 1–10, you have to be at least a 7 according to my standards before I will speak to you with a loving tone of voice. If you are a 6 or below, I will talk to you any way I like. If I sound a little rough or crude, get used to it.” What would you think if your wife said something like the following:

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Self-Esteem - Part 2

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Self-Esteem - Part 2

In part 1 of this series, I discussed the difference between carnal and healthy self-love, and why it is important for Christians to understand the significance of both. But what do we do about it? How do we develop a healthy self-love? Simply put: people view themselves as God views them. We do not listen to the accuser of the brethren condemning us about our shameful past, but instead we receive the forgiveness of Christ who loves us and died for us.

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Self-Esteem - Part 1

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Self-Esteem - Part 1

Much of today’s self-esteem teaching is centered around the love of the self, or rather the old self, fallen nature or the carnal person. Paul refers to this when he says, “...people will be lovers of self” (2 Timothy 3:2 ESV). This is the carnal self and it is not a good thing. This is why the Christian community has been scratching its head over the self-esteem teaching. Should there be self-love or should there not be self-love?

Basic Principles of Effective Communication

Basic Principles of Effective Communication

John is a student writing a paper on male and female communication. He emailed me saying, "I would be honored if you would please take a few, brief moments and answer three questions for me."Question #1: In your opinion, what communication breakdowns occur between males and females?

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 3

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 3

Part 1 showed us the value of focusing on the long term. Part 2 gave us the game plan. But what if a child’s behavior is not what it appears to be? Not What It Seems. The immediate disobedience of a child may not be what it appears, and the “obedience” of another child may not be what it seems.

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Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 2

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 2

In Part 1 of this series, we realized there are holy and unholy means to correcting a child’s behavior. As parents we must do what God called parents to do. For this, I use the acronym “G.U.I.D.E.S.” Let me explain. In football, the coaches develop a game plan. Even if they get behind by 21 points in the first quarter, quality teams stick to the game plan. There are three quarters left, and time and again we see football teams come from behind to win the game.

Parenting

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 1

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 1

Should a parent focus on a child’s behavior? Absolutely, but not solely. A parent must keep his own actions in sight, not just the outcomes in his child. Those parents who see the two sides of the parenting coin – their own behavior and the behavior of their children – increase their chances of being more effective with the outcomes in their children.

Parenting

God Joined You Together, But Will He Keep You Together? [Video]

God Joined You Together, But Will He Keep You Together? [Video]

Matthew 19:6 says, “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” We are all familiar with the phrase “until death do you part” in the wedding vows. The Christian view is that marriage is for keeps--a value that is under constant attack in our present-day culture. Jesus’ words are a powerful reminder that God--not some human legal requirement--has joined you together.