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Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

I have spoken often about the need to understand and appreciate God’s pink and blue design of women and men, respectively, because our differences undoubtedly go well beyond the biological.

Do You Believe in Miracles? Why the Christian Must Say “Yes!”

Do You Believe in Miracles? Why the Christian Must Say “Yes!”

On February 22, 1980, hall-of-fame sports broadcaster Al Michaels gave us perhaps the most iconic call ever in a sporting event.

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

We’ve all thought that before, right? Many times, in fact. After all, we are a selfish people. It’s only natural for us to get caught up in thinking about what I need, and what you can do for me.

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

Do You Only Give Love and Respect When Your Spouse Deserves it?

Do You Only Give Love and Respect When Your Spouse Deserves it?

What would you think if your husband said something like the following: “On a scale of 1–10, you have to be at least a 7 according to my standards before I will speak to you with a loving tone of voice. If you are a 6 or below, I will talk to you any way I like. If I sound a little rough or crude, get used to it.” What would you think if your wife said something like the following:

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Self-Esteem - Part 2

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Self-Esteem - Part 2

In part 1 of this series, I discussed the difference between carnal and healthy self-love, and why it is important for Christians to understand the significance of both. But what do we do about it? How do we develop a healthy self-love? Simply put: people view themselves as God views them. We do not listen to the accuser of the brethren condemning us about our shameful past, but instead we receive the forgiveness of Christ who loves us and died for us.

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Self-Esteem - Part 1

Healthy vs. Unhealthy Self-Esteem - Part 1

Much of today’s self-esteem teaching is centered around the love of the self, or rather the old self, fallen nature or the carnal person. Paul refers to this when he says, “...people will be lovers of self” (2 Timothy 3:2 ESV). This is the carnal self and it is not a good thing. This is why the Christian community has been scratching its head over the self-esteem teaching. Should there be self-love or should there not be self-love?

Basic Principles of Effective Communication

Basic Principles of Effective Communication

John is a student writing a paper on male and female communication. He emailed me saying, "I would be honored if you would please take a few, brief moments and answer three questions for me."Question #1: In your opinion, what communication breakdowns occur between males and females?

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 3

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 3

Part 1 showed us the value of focusing on the long term. Part 2 gave us the game plan. But what if a child’s behavior is not what it appears to be? Not What It Seems. The immediate disobedience of a child may not be what it appears, and the “obedience” of another child may not be what it seems.

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Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 2

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 2

In Part 1 of this series, we realized there are holy and unholy means to correcting a child’s behavior. As parents we must do what God called parents to do. For this, I use the acronym “G.U.I.D.E.S.” Let me explain. In football, the coaches develop a game plan. Even if they get behind by 21 points in the first quarter, quality teams stick to the game plan. There are three quarters left, and time and again we see football teams come from behind to win the game.

Parenting

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 1

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 1

Should a parent focus on a child’s behavior? Absolutely, but not solely. A parent must keep his own actions in sight, not just the outcomes in his child. Those parents who see the two sides of the parenting coin – their own behavior and the behavior of their children – increase their chances of being more effective with the outcomes in their children.

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God Joined You Together, But Will He Keep You Together? [Video]

God Joined You Together, But Will He Keep You Together? [Video]

Matthew 19:6 says, “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” We are all familiar with the phrase “until death do you part” in the wedding vows. The Christian view is that marriage is for keeps--a value that is under constant attack in our present-day culture. Jesus’ words are a powerful reminder that God--not some human legal requirement--has joined you together.