Marriage

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

A couple attended the Love and Respect Marriage Conference recently, and several weeks later the wife wrote to me to share some of the reasons why they had attended, along with her frustrations for the lack of changes she had seen in him since the conference.

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

I have spoken often about the need to understand and appreciate God’s pink and blue design of women and men, respectively, because our differences undoubtedly go well beyond the biological.

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

We’ve all thought that before, right? Many times, in fact. After all, we are a selfish people. It’s only natural for us to get caught up in thinking about what I need, and what you can do for me.

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Do You Have a Teamwork Mindset?

Do You Have a Teamwork Mindset?

One day I found myself wondering, Do couples take seriously the idea of finding win-win as a team, based on God's calling to be one? With this question in mind, I wrote down a burden I was feeling: "As for the win-win message, no one is saying to me ‘tell me more.’

Love and Respect Is Not a Weapon to “Use”

Love and Respect Is Not a Weapon to “Use”

A wife wrote me: Right now my husband and I are separated. I kicked him out of the house a month ago. He is now staying with a friend 45 minutes away from us and his work. Reading your book really gave me an insight into why he left so willingly. I had not given the king his "chair." I know I hurt his pride. No man wants to be kicked out of his castle.

Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

I am asked all the time. “There’s no love left between us,” they say, “and we are tired of working at a loveless marriage. ”That may be how you feel, and I understand that discouragement. I get hundreds of emails with that kind of sentiment, and nearly every marriage goes through times when the love seems to be gone and one or both spouses want to give up. If this is you too, you need to know that you are not alone in this.

God Is Still Working “Miracles” in Marriages!

God Is Still Working “Miracles” in Marriages!

God is for your marriage! Do you believe that? I mean, really believe that? It is my opinion that we can come to no other conclusion when we read how Jesus responded in Matthew 19 when the Pharisees asked Him if it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife.