Christian Marriage Articles

Do Different Reactions Toward Their Spouse’s Contempt Mean One Is More Justified than the Other?

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Does Your Spouse Have Your Permission? From Steve and Barbara Telzerow

Courtship and the first few months of marriage is a unique time in a couple’s relationship. We are usually focused on our partner’s strengths and rarely aware of the weaknesses or quirks that all of us have.

What’s Really Going On with the Husband Who Doesn’t Want His Wife’s Input?

What’s Really Going On with the Husband Who Doesn’t Want His Wife’s Input?

Sadly, many a man will not include his wife in decisions because he fears her input as an attempt to control him rather than as her desire to be his helpful teammate. Not only is this man extremely insecure (which calls into question his manhood), but some would call him imprudent.

Do Different Reactions Toward Their Spouse’s Contempt Mean One Is More Justified than the Other?

Do Different Reactions Toward Their Spouse’s Contempt Mean One Is More Justified than the Other?

Over the years, I have heard from many women who feel they have more of a right to speak harshly and disrespectfully to their husband than he does to speak unlovingly toward her.

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

A minor unannounced U-turn after church escalates into hours of tears and despair for one wife, revealing how everyday preferences quickly spiral into the Crazy Cycle of missing love and respect.

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Most of us long for a better marriage, and that longing is to be applauded. However, how might some go about improving the relationship?

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Husbands, Wake Up Before It’s Too Late – Part 1

Husbands, Wake Up Before It’s Too Late – Part 1

A husband writes, “Dr. Eggerichs, “I've been married for 14 years this past August. We have three great kids. I feel weird writing you this email, but I am desperate and maybe this plainly makes me feel better by opening up. The only one I can talk to for advice is my mother. My father is a good man, but I simply can't go to him for advice.

How To Forgive An Adulterous Spouse [Video]

How To Forgive An Adulterous Spouse [Video]

A husband wrote to us, "I read your post on Facebook today regarding forgiveness, but I don't understand how I can forgive my spouse when she has had two affairs. We are now divorced...Please help me understand your message."

Do You Negatively React To Motivate Your Spouse To Be More Positive?

Do You Negatively React To Motivate Your Spouse To Be More Positive?

Based on Ephesians 5:33, I have suggested two major reactions that happen in marriages: 1. When a wife feels unloved, she tends to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. 2. When a husband feels disrespected, he tends to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. Both of these reactions ignite what I call The Crazy Cycle--without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.

What Is Love? Answer: C-O-U-P-L-E [Video]

What Is Love? Answer: C-O-U-P-L-E [Video]

I received an email from Nathan and he asked, “Husbands are to love their wives. That’s their special command. So what is ‘love?’” Excellent question. There are all kinds of answers; many of them are rather flowery and syrupy, while some are very romantic. I responded to Nathan with what I believe are practical, down-to-earth, biblical instructions on how a husband can spell “love” to his wife. I provided six principles using the acronym, C-O-U-P-L-E, as described in chapters 8-14 of my book Love & Respect.