Christian Marriage Articles

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

What’s Really Going On with the Husband Who Doesn’t Want His Wife’s Input?

What’s Really Going On with the Husband Who Doesn’t Want His Wife’s Input?

Sadly, many a man will not include his wife in decisions because he fears her input as an attempt to control him rather than as her desire to be his helpful teammate. Not only is this man extremely insecure (which calls into question his manhood), but some would call him imprudent.

Do Different Reactions Toward Their Spouse’s Contempt Mean One Is More Justified than the Other?

Do Different Reactions Toward Their Spouse’s Contempt Mean One Is More Justified than the Other?

Over the years, I have heard from many women who feel they have more of a right to speak harshly and disrespectfully to their husband than he does to speak unlovingly toward her.

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

A minor unannounced U-turn after church escalates into hours of tears and despair for one wife, revealing how everyday preferences quickly spiral into the Crazy Cycle of missing love and respect.

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Most of us long for a better marriage, and that longing is to be applauded. However, how might some go about improving the relationship?

He Desires to Be First Among Equals, She Desires to Be First in Importance

He Desires to Be First Among Equals, She Desires to Be First in Importance

A husband has a need to be respected by his wife. That is what Paul teaches in Ephesians 5:33. As well, a wife has a need to be honored (respected) by her husband.

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

He Desires to Be First Among Equals, She Desires to Be First in Importance

What is The Love and Respect System? Part II [Video]

What is The Love and Respect System? Part II [Video]

Did you miss Part I of this three-part series? I recommend checking it out HERE first, and then moving on to Part II below. This week, I’m giving you an overview of the Love and Respect system. In this series, you’ll learn about the three cycles, the basic principles of Love and Respect and how applying them can improve your marriage.

What is The Love and Respect System? Part I [Video]

What is The Love and Respect System? Part I [Video]

Over the next few days, I’m going to provide you with an overview of the Love and Respect system. This overview will teach you its basic principles and show you how applying them can improve your marriage as you understand the 3 cycles: The Crazy Cycle; The Energizing Cycle; The Rewarded Cycle

If a Husband Is Unrespectable Should a Wife Show Him Contempt and Disrespect? [Video]

If a Husband Is Unrespectable Should a Wife Show Him Contempt and Disrespect? [Video]

A woman asks, “How do you respect a man who has a habit of lying and going against everything the Word says. How does this work in an unequally yoked marriage? I have no respect for willful sin. I can respect free will choice, but not the sin and choices he makes to lead his family away from God.” The question you ask is a common one and I urge anyone who feels this way to read through what we have written in articles and in the book Love & Respect. They will discover that we never tell a wife to respect bad behavior.

Six Thank You Statements To Say To Your Spouse

Six Thank You Statements To Say To Your Spouse

In the book, Love & Respect, I spell “love” to a wife as C.O.U.P.L.E. and “respect” to a husband as C.H.A.I.R.S. Look at the list below and consider how you might express thankfulness to your spouse. As a wife, thank your husband for at least one of the ways he shows you love. As a husband, thank your wife for at least one of the ways she shows you respect.