Marriage Articles

Why Does a Wife Not Hear That Her Husband Needs Respect?

Do You Have the Humility Necessary to Move First?

Do You Have the Humility Necessary to Move First?

When a husband and wife find themselves on yet another out-of-control Crazy Cycle—where feeling unloved, she reacts without respect; and feeling disrespected, he reacts without love—how do they decide who is going to be the first to stop reacting unlovingly or disrespectfully?

What Do You Think When You Hear “Happy Wife, Happy Life”?

What Do You Think When You Hear “Happy Wife, Happy Life”?

You’ve probably heard the phrase “happy wife, happy life” before. Maybe it’s in the context of something simple, like choosing what restaurant to eat at or not leaving dirty clothes on the bathroom floor.

Why Does a Wife Not Hear That Her Husband Needs Respect?

Why Does a Wife Not Hear That Her Husband Needs Respect?

The idea of unconditional respect for the husband has always been the Love and Respect message’s unique feature, based on Ephesians 5:33. Many books stress Paul’s instruction for husbands to love their wives (“each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself . . .”), but few spend equal space if any at all, to the rest of the verse (“. . . and the wife must respect her husband”).

How Is C.H.A.I.R.S. The Key to Having More Meaningful Conversations With Your Husband?

How Is C.H.A.I.R.S. The Key to Having More Meaningful Conversations With Your Husband?

Many wives share disappointment that their husbands rarely talk to them at a deeper level. “Emerson, when we were dating, we used to talk long into the night getting to really know each other. What happened to him?”

Are You Humbly Voicing a Need or Formalizing a Complaint?

Are You Humbly Voicing a Need or Formalizing a Complaint?

In the beginning, after God had created Adam and placed him in the garden to cultivate it, He said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).

How Is C.H.A.I.R.S. The Key to Having More Meaningful Conversations With Your Husband?

Are You Humbly Voicing a Need or Formalizing a Complaint?

Practice With The Minor Conflict, Because The Major One Is Coming!

Practice With The Minor Conflict, Because The Major One Is Coming!

I put together an online course a few years ago on the Win-Win Marriage in which I provide participants a six-step process for finding win-win.

How a Husband Can Lose His Wife’s Heart and Then the Marriage

How a Husband Can Lose His Wife’s Heart and Then the Marriage

In the classic Charles Dickens tale A Christmas Carol, Ebenezer Scrooge needs encounters with three ghosts—those of Christmas past, of Christmas present, and of Christmas future—so as to be able to step out of his shoes for a moment and see how his horrid actions and attitude are affecting those around him in negative ways that he can’t see otherwise.

Stay the Course: The Miraculous Power of Love and Respect

Stay the Course: The Miraculous Power of Love and Respect

At times, for a multitude of reasons, a newborn baby simply will not latch on and take his mother’s milk. Though the baby’s life is dependent on receiving the vital nutrition she has to offer, the mother/baby connection does not happen as naturally and easily as mom had dreamed it would.

Roommates Settle for Compromise, but a Husband and Wife Seek Win-Win

Roommates Settle for Compromise, but a Husband and Wife Seek Win-Win

After sharing with a group about the biblical principles behind the Win-Win Marriage, someone stated to me, "I get the feeling that you may avoid using the word compromise or that you think compromise has a negative connotation."