Marriage

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

You Know What You’re Saying, but What Are You Communicating?

You Know What You’re Saying, but What Are You Communicating?

There are certain phrases we have been programmed to understand in a specific way whenever we hear them. For example, if someone says to us, “We need to talk,” we know there is bad news to come and we get in defensive mode.

In What Areas Is He Feeling Disrespected? Diagnosing Your Deflated Husband

In What Areas Is He Feeling Disrespected? Diagnosing Your Deflated Husband

Is your normally happy-go-lucky husband suddenly more sulky and moody? Has your typically fully engaged and intimate husband for some mysterious reason become more distant and even physically absent?

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

Do you have a specific sports team that you are outright fanatic about? Suppose you are a passionate Yankees fan whose white bedroom walls have navy blue pinstripes on them and your living room coasters have pictures of Mickey Mantle, Babe Ruth, Derek Jeter, and other Yankees greats on them.

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

A couple attended the Love and Respect Marriage Conference recently, and several weeks later the wife wrote to me to share some of the reasons why they had attended, along with her frustrations for the lack of changes she had seen in him since the conference.

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

I have spoken often about the need to understand and appreciate God’s pink and blue design of women and men, respectively, because our differences undoubtedly go well beyond the biological.

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Who Decides About Sex On Tuesday Night? [Video]

Who Decides About Sex On Tuesday Night? [Video]

Scripture teaches there will be trouble in marriage. Get ready for it! “But if you should marry… such will have trouble in this life…” (1 Corinthians 7:28). The one who fully intends for us to experience love and respect also teaches that “those who marry will have a lot of trouble” (CEV). Why the trouble? 1 Corinthians 7:3,4 gives us the answer.

What is Respect? 4 Ways to Know and Show Respect

What is Respect? 4 Ways to Know and Show Respect

In a note she wrote to us, Carol asked the following questions: “Please answer- I'm so confused. What exactly are you identifying as ‘respect?’ Perhaps you could give a list, or point me in the direction of a source of clear cut examples of giving respect or what kind of things women are telling their husbands they respect them for? I'm through the first three chapters of the book with my husband and feel confused as to whether I'm really understanding it. Sometimes I think I do but then get confused again.”Here is how I replied:

When A Husband Loves His Wife, Will She Respect Him? [Video]

When A Husband Loves His Wife, Will She Respect Him? [Video]

The Energizing Cycle tells us what the Bible reveals: a husband’s love motivates a wife’s respect, and a wife’s respect motivates a husband’s love. Is this cycle a valid point or mere conjecture? Looking at only half of the equation, will a husband’s love energizes his wife’s honor?

4 Reasons Valentine's Day Was Special – or Not!

4 Reasons Valentine's Day Was Special – or Not!

I hear two extreme responses from couples AFTER Valentine's Day: "We had the most romantic Valentine's Day! We are still in the afterglow!" "We got in a huge fight on Valentine's Day! We are still mad at each other." There are four reasons why this feels like the best day or the worst day for most people. Reason #1:A Wife’s Sentimental Desire for Love