Marriage

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

You Know What You’re Saying, but What Are You Communicating?

You Know What You’re Saying, but What Are You Communicating?

There are certain phrases we have been programmed to understand in a specific way whenever we hear them. For example, if someone says to us, “We need to talk,” we know there is bad news to come and we get in defensive mode.

In What Areas Is He Feeling Disrespected? Diagnosing Your Deflated Husband

In What Areas Is He Feeling Disrespected? Diagnosing Your Deflated Husband

Is your normally happy-go-lucky husband suddenly more sulky and moody? Has your typically fully engaged and intimate husband for some mysterious reason become more distant and even physically absent?

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

We Cannot Insist Our Spouse Have the Same Felt Needs We Do

Do you have a specific sports team that you are outright fanatic about? Suppose you are a passionate Yankees fan whose white bedroom walls have navy blue pinstripes on them and your living room coasters have pictures of Mickey Mantle, Babe Ruth, Derek Jeter, and other Yankees greats on them.

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

A couple attended the Love and Respect Marriage Conference recently, and several weeks later the wife wrote to me to share some of the reasons why they had attended, along with her frustrations for the lack of changes she had seen in him since the conference.

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

I have spoken often about the need to understand and appreciate God’s pink and blue design of women and men, respectively, because our differences undoubtedly go well beyond the biological.

Is Your Husband Trying to Make You Feel More Secure, but in Ways You’re Not Recognizing?

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Stay the Course: The Miraculous Power of Love and Respect

Stay the Course: The Miraculous Power of Love and Respect

At times, for a multitude of reasons, a newborn baby simply will not latch on and take his mother’s milk. Though the baby’s life is dependent on receiving the vital nutrition she has to offer, the mother/baby connection does not happen as naturally and easily as mom had dreamed it would.

Roommates Settle for Compromise, but a Husband and Wife Seek Win-Win

Roommates Settle for Compromise, but a Husband and Wife Seek Win-Win

After sharing with a group about the biblical principles behind the Win-Win Marriage, someone stated to me, "I get the feeling that you may avoid using the word compromise or that you think compromise has a negative connotation."

Whose Love and Respect Does a Spouse Truly Need?

Whose Love and Respect Does a Spouse Truly Need?

In the 1996 movie Jerry Maguire, the title character played by Tom Cruise enters his estranged wife’s living room in the climactic scene and tells her, “You complete me.” Cue the melting of hearts of every woman watching one of the more memorable romantic scenes in modern cinema.

Who Has the Lowest Tolerance Against Personal Offense?

Who Has the Lowest Tolerance Against Personal Offense?

Tolerance against personal offense refers to the willingness and ability to wisely navigate situations when feeling wronged, slighted, or insulted. Though hurt, frustrated, and indignant, one controls an excessive adverse reaction and refuses to harbor resentment.