Marriage

Why She Shares, and What He Hears

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

Wives are driven to connect, to be understood, and to receive empathy, which is a wonderful characteristic of God’s beautiful pink design of them.

What Can Genesis Teach a Wife about How to Encourage the Struggling Businessman?

What Can Genesis Teach a Wife about How to Encourage the Struggling Businessman?

It’s amazing how often our search for answers to conflicts and situations we are dealing with in the twenty-first century ends up taking us back to the beginning of Genesis.

Why She Shares, and What He Hears

Why She Shares, and What He Hears

When a wife dares to share her hurt and negative feelings with her husband, she does so hoping he will humbly apologize and make efforts to do things more lovingly next time. Her goal in addressing her concerns is to get rid of her hurt, be energized, feel positive, and respond to him in caring ways.

3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You

3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You

A wife who has been married for twenty years to a loving, goodwilled husband and father (her words!) found herself suddenly struggling to understand how their relationship had gone south.

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

In a national study done years ago, four hundred men were asked to choose between one of two negative experiences: If you were forced to choose one of the following, which would you prefer to endure?

3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

On Valentine’s Day: The Disappointed and Sad Person

On Valentine’s Day: The Disappointed and Sad Person

Valentine’s Day is a favorite holiday of many, providing wonderful opportunities for couples to express their undying love and commitment to each other through either big or small ways, which oftentimes include chocolates and roses.Unfortunately, Valentine’s Day can also be a day when those same love birds can become more selfish toward each other than they are any other time of the year. Allow me to explain. 1. The Selfish Husband With Ulterior Motives On Valentine’s Day…

Your Marriage Isn’t Complex to Figure Out. Let Me Tell You Why

Your Marriage Isn’t Complex to Figure Out. Let Me Tell You Why

Sarah and I have done Love and Respect Marriage Conferences since 1999. At these conferences we teach that love and respect are the two basic ingredients for a successful marriage. I wrote the book Love and Respect to explain the power and simplicity of this truth.However, we teach that wives lean toward the love side of the equation and husbands lean toward the respect side. This is based on Ephesians 5:33, which says, “Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband.”

1998 February 4th: One of My First Email Exchanges With a Wife About Respect

1998 February 4th: One of My First Email Exchanges With a Wife About Respect

Sarah, my wife, had started a MOPS group at our church. This refers to Mothers of PreSchoolers! The leadership invited me to speak two times to the group about what I had announced at the church were some discoveries I had made about marriage. In 1998 my discovery revolved around wives respecting their husbands. With most that flew like a lead balloon. I had no ideas about the land-mines I would step on. For instance, I did not finish in two sessions so offered to return for a third session.

What Evil Looks Like

A husband writes, “I am sure, like most authors and conference promoters, you are going to present your success stories and downplay (if you present them at all) the failures. However, I would like to hear from some who have tried and failed at your approach. Maybe we can learn as much from them as the successes. What I feel concerns me the most so far is reading the repeated (and oft repeated) assumption that "your spouse is a person of basic good will".

What Evil Looks Like