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When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

A minor unannounced U-turn after church escalates into hours of tears and despair for one wife, revealing how everyday preferences quickly spiral into the Crazy Cycle of missing love and respect.

Since God Wants Me to Believe in Him, Why Doesn’t He Just Appear to Me?

Since God Wants Me to Believe in Him, Why Doesn’t He Just Appear to Me?

As a new believer in Christ at age sixteen, I recall one night going outside my home in Peoria, Illinois, and crying out to God to show Himself to me to confirm that what I believed about Him was true. “Just appear to me!” I begged of God.

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Most of us long for a better marriage, and that longing is to be applauded. However, how might some go about improving the relationship?

When God’s Plan Does Not Match Your Expectations: The Untold Story Of Joseph Barsabbas

When God’s Plan Does Not Match Your Expectations: The Untold Story Of Joseph Barsabbas

When I went off to military school in eighth grade, where I stayed for the next five years, there was another cadet who entered eighth grade with me.

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

Since God Wants Me to Believe in Him, Why Doesn’t He Just Appear to Me?

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

When God’s Plan Does Not Match Your Expectations: The Untold Story Of Joseph Barsabbas

“I Confronted…Nothing Changed…Now What?”

“I Confronted…Nothing Changed…Now What?”

Q: What if I have respectfully confronted my husband but he continues in his addiction? His drinking is destroying our family! Dr. E says:

Respectful Confrontation for the "Three A's"...

Respectful Confrontation for the "Three A's"...

Q: It seems like the principles of love and respect are too simplistic. For example, how can you respect a spouse who is committing adultery, has addictions, or is abusive? Dr E says: Let’s not confuse unconditional love or respect with condoning sinful behavior!

Peace, Good Will Toward Men…

Peace, Good Will Toward Men…

Glory to God in the Highest, and on Earth Peace, Good Will Toward Men! Luke 2:14 We hear this beautiful verse over and over during the Christmas season. But a few days ago we received an email that expressed how one couple experienced peace and good will in their home.

A Priceless Gift…

Are you frantically running around trying to find the“perfect” gift for your loved one this year? Perhaps spending a bit more than you should? I have an idea for you.

A Priceless Gift…

The Eternal “AHHH!”

Do you remember when you wanted a bike for Christmas but your parents wouldn't say if you would get it or not? You were in suspense…and then Christmas morning arrived. There under the tree was your bright, shiny bike, and you gasped, “AHHH!”

The Eternal “AHHH!”

Even Good Marriages Need the Rewarded Cycle

Even Good Marriages Need the Rewarded Cycle

When I first began teaching the biblical truth of the Rewarded Cycle as it pertains to marriage, I was unsure how people would receive it. Amazingly, many welcomed the Rewarded Cycle enthusiastically. Those who feel hopeless suddenly catch the truth that what they do matters to God; nothing is wasted.

When It Simply Doesn’t Work – What Then?

When It Simply Doesn’t Work – What Then?

What is your worst fear in marriage? Is it that you will do all you can to love and respect unconditionally but your spouse will not respond? If so, you are not alone in that fear. I hear of this concern often from husbands and wives around the country. But 1 Peter 3:6 tells us to do what is right without being frightened by any fear.

Trust God to Work

Perhaps the major problem that keeps so many couples somewhere between the Crazy Cycle and the Energizing Cycle is the fear that, even though they try to practice the Love and Respect Connection, it won’t work. Or, that they will be the only one in the marriage trying, and their spouse won’t reciprocate.

Trust God to Work