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Why She Shares, and What He Hears

Why She Shares, and What He Hears

When a wife dares to share her hurt and negative feelings with her husband, she does so hoping he will humbly apologize and make efforts to do things more lovingly next time. Her goal in addressing her concerns is to get rid of her hurt, be energized, feel positive, and respond to him in caring ways.

3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You

3 Steps to Reigniting Your Husband’s Love for You

A wife who has been married for twenty years to a loving, goodwilled husband and father (her words!) found herself suddenly struggling to understand how their relationship had gone south.

A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch

A Kernel of Truth Does Not Justify the Unloving Gut-Punch

In my book Speak Your Mind, I offer a four-point checklist that everything we communicate should be. Whether we’re talking to our spouse, our children, our boss, or the bank teller, we should ask ourselves, “Is that which I’m about to communicate: 1) true? 2) kind? 3) necessary, and 4) clear?

Christian Life

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

When the Mockingbird Finally Hears His Song

In a national study done years ago, four hundred men were asked to choose between one of two negative experiences: If you were forced to choose one of the following, which would you prefer to endure?

Arrogant Pride Misses The Spirit Of Generosity, Part 2

Arrogant Pride Misses The Spirit Of Generosity, Part 2

Remember the scene from yesterday’s post? If you haven’t read the story yet or watched the video, I would encourage you to do so before continuing on. The example of the beggar on the street giving away money may give us a glimpse into the true condition of many people. The folks in the story erupted like volcanoes. They were filled with wrath toward this street person. His offering of gifts and grace repulsed and angered the passers-by. They felt insulted, incensed and irate. They cursed.

Christian Life

Arrogant Pride Misses The Spirit of Generosity, Part 1 [Video]

Arrogant Pride Misses The Spirit of Generosity, Part 1 [Video]

Watch the video which has a clip about a homeless man offering money to those who walk by him on the street. The homeless man is an actor who wished to discover people’s reactions when the beggar seeks to give instead of receive. What you see will shock you. I found the scenes chilling. People found his offer disgusting and cursed at him. They revealed the human heart that declares,“I am so much better and more important and more successful than you are. You insult me. I have an expensive car, I make a lot of money, and I will not be mocked since I am a self-made person. Be like me! What you offer has no worth. What you offer offends me. I do not need what you offer."

Christian Life

4 Reasons To Show Unconditional Respect To A Husband, Part 2

4 Reasons To Show Unconditional Respect To A Husband, Part 2

In Part 1 of this 2-part series, I painted a picture of how contempt and disdain can reap devastating consequences on a marriage. But I also shared a story with you of how one wife applied unconditional respect to a difficult situation that has become all-too-common in today’s technologically saturated society, and how it can result in hope and eventual healing. I left you with this question: What do wives need to understand about unconditional respect? Let’s continue...

4 Reasons to Show Unconditional Respect to a Husband, Part 1

4 Reasons to Show Unconditional Respect to a Husband, Part 1

Is unconditional respect a Biblical idea? Yes. 1 Peter 3:12 states, “In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.” The husband is disobedient to the Word. He is either an unbeliever or a carnal believer living contrary to Christ and God’s Word.

Are Love and Respect the Same? [Video]

Are Love and Respect the Same? [Video]

Respect is different than love. We respect our boss, but we do not feel love for our boss. We feel love for our teen son, but we do not always feel respect for him. Love and respect are not synonymous. A mom, for example, can internally feel disrespect for her son all the while feeling deep love for him, but of course she must guard against showing the disrespect she feels!

Why Do Some Wives Say, "I Do Not Feel Any Respect For My Husband"? [Video]

Why Do Some Wives Say, "I Do Not Feel Any Respect For My Husband"? [Video]

When we say that God commands a wife to respect her husband we are not saying that God commands the wife to feel respect for her husband. She may feel little to no respect for him because of his reprehensible actions. No person on the planet should feel respect for what is not intrinsically respectable.So then, what do we mean by respecting one’s husband?

Why Do Some Husbands Say, "I Do Not Feel Any Love For My Wife?" [Video]

Why Do Some Husbands Say, "I Do Not Feel Any Love For My Wife?" [Video]

When we say that God commands a husband to love his wife, we are not saying that God commands the husband to feel love for his wife. He may feel little to no love for her because of her reprehensible actions. No person on the planet should feel love for what is not intrinsically lovable. So then, what do we mean by loving one’s wife?

Teach Your Kids the Family Crazy Cycle!

Teach Your Kids the Family Crazy Cycle!

The Family Crazy Cycle states the following: without love a child reacts without respect, and without respect a parent reacts without love. This cycle triggers itself on and on and on...One way to reduce the spinning is to teach your kids about it. Kids can learn. Draw a circle and write,

Parenting