Articles
All Articles

All Articles

/ The Latest
A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
NEWEST Article

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
Marriage
Image duration icon
6
min read
Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
NEWEST Article

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
Image duration icon
9
min read
When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
NEWEST Article

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic. 

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
Image duration icon
6
min read
“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
NEWEST Article

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
Image duration icon
10
min read
According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
NEWEST Article

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
Image duration icon
6
min read
Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
Image duration icon
9
min read
When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
Image duration icon
6
min read
“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
Image duration icon
10
min read
According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
Image duration icon
6
min read
Parents: The Punishment Must Fit The Crime, Part 1 [Video]

Parents: The Punishment Must Fit The Crime, Part 1 [Video]

When disciplining our kids, we can learn something from the court system. The punishment must fit the crime. In the court of law, there are 3 levels of criminal behavior: Infraction: something like a parking ticket, a speeding ticket, or making too much noise. We don’t send a person to the electric chair for parking in a handicap spot. Misdemeanor: disorderly conduct, reckless driving, or marijuana possession. We don’t send a person to prison for life for reckless driving. Felony: the most serious crime, like murder, rape, or sexual abuse of a minor. We don’t fine a murderer $1000 and let him go free.

Parents: The Punishment Must Fit The Crime, Part 1 [Video]
Parenting
Image duration icon
9
min read
Why Do I Struggle To Forgive Myself? [Video]

Why Do I Struggle To Forgive Myself? [Video]

All of us do wrong. Who among us is perfect? When we fail God’s standard, some of us not only feel badly, we hate ourselves. We enter self-loathing. To cope, we self-medicate, indulge a lust, lie to ourselves about the wrong, or inflict pain on ourselves to pay for the sin. However, the Apostle of love penned in 1 John 1:7, "If we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light... the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin."

Why Do I Struggle To Forgive Myself? [Video]
Christian Life
Image duration icon
6
min read
What Does Winning the Lottery Have to Do With Marriage and Heaven? Part 2 [Video]

What Does Winning the Lottery Have to Do With Marriage and Heaven? Part 2 [Video]

Though heavenly glory awaits us, there is a warning--a word of caution. There are two types of Christ-followers who will enter this glorious eternal realm: The Rewarded Believer and the Unrewarded Believer. (If you are anything like me, you do not want to be the Unrewarded Believer.) The Rewarded Believer - Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 3:14, "If any man's work which he has built on it remains, he will receive a reward."

What Does Winning the Lottery Have to Do With Marriage and Heaven? Part 2 [Video]
Christian Life
Image duration icon
7
min read
What Does Winning The Lottery Have To Do With Marriage and Heaven? Part 1 [Video]

What Does Winning The Lottery Have To Do With Marriage and Heaven? Part 1 [Video]

Years ago, when I was a young boy, a radio station called my home at random as part of some marketing campaign and broadcast their recording live and on air. Because I answered the phone, the DJ informed me that I just won a prize. I won an African Violet plant! I was 10 years old. At age 10, I had never won anything before. I couldn’t believe it. Others were always the winners, not me. Yet, that day it was me! I felt incredibly special.

What Does Winning The Lottery Have To Do With Marriage and Heaven? Part 1 [Video]
Christian Life
Image duration icon
4
min read
What Does It Mean To Have Positive Regard Toward My Child? [Video]

What Does It Mean To Have Positive Regard Toward My Child? [Video]

We all know that a dad ought to love his daughter unconditionally. All would define love as unconditional. Love with “conditions” is not love at all. But what about respect toward a teenage boy? Should mom show unconditional respect? Many in the culture argue that a boy (or anyone) must earn respect. He must be respectable to be respected. To put it this way, if mom respects her disobedient boy, she will be respecting bad behavior and giving him license to disobey even more. Instead, she must give no such respect!

What Does It Mean To Have Positive Regard Toward My Child? [Video]
Parenting
Image duration icon
2
min read
What Does It Mean For A Mom To Show Respect To Her Son? [Video]

What Does It Mean For A Mom To Show Respect To Her Son? [Video]

A mom expresses, “I live with a house full of male testosterone. We even had a male dog! I am having conflict with my 11 year old and it is driving me nuts. How do I show my boys that I can see through blue glasses and blue hearing aids? As you might be able to hear, I am trying to figure out this respect thing and am finding it kinda difficult. Getting a handle on this is something I want to do, but I am not sure how. I even had to look up the word respect to see what it really meant. I am in prayer about this.”

What Does It Mean For A Mom To Show Respect To Her Son? [Video]
Parenting
Image duration icon
2
min read
Who Is To Blame? Understanding Motivation in Your Marriage

Who Is To Blame? Understanding Motivation in Your Marriage

A wife declares, "My husband causes my disrespect. I would not be so disrespectful if he were more respectable." A husband contends, “My wife causes my unloving reactions. I would not be so unloving if she were more lovable.” At a certain point, Sarah and I learned that we do not cause each others’ hostility and contempt if and when it is shown. Instead we know and teach “my response is my responsibility."

Who Is To Blame? Understanding Motivation in Your Marriage
Marriage
Image duration icon
2
min read
Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage, Part 3

Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage, Part 3

In Part 1 and Part 2 of this 3-part series, we’ve been talking about the three ways to kill a marriage. If you haven’t read up on those posts, I would encourage you to do so before moving on to the conclusion below. So, what are the three ways to murder a marriage? 1. Possess a self-serving motive that you disguise from everyone (except your lover, if you have one).

Three Ways To Murder Your Marriage, Part 3
Marriage
Image duration icon
4
min read

Collections

Articles, Podcasts, Ask Emerson on a concept or theme

View More Collections
Chevron

Unconditional Love and Respect In Marriage

The Rewarded Cycle

Sexual Intimacy

Women Need Respect and Men Need Love