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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic. 

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
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9
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
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6
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
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10
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Losing Makes Us a Winner! The Resolution: Lose the Weight

Losing Makes Us a Winner! The Resolution: Lose the Weight

From third grade to eighth grade I was overweight. I wore Husky pants. My legs rubbed together when I ran. My belly hung over the front of my pants. Sometimes people called me “fatty.” I cried. Iempathize deeply with people who struggle with their weight.I chatted last night with a good friend who told me that when she was in the fifth grade, she weighed 240 pounds, and in college over 300 pounds. My heart felt nothing but compassion.

Losing Makes Us a Winner! The Resolution: Lose the Weight
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What Else Might Linus Say to Charlie Brown About Christmas?

What Else Might Linus Say to Charlie Brown About Christmas?

Distressed over the insincerity of many concerning Christmas, the cartoon character Charlie Brown asks in anguish, “Isn't there anyone out there who can tell me what Christmas is all about?” Charlie’s friend, Linus, while on stage, beautifully and brilliantly answers his question. “Sure, Charlie Brown, I can tell you. Lights, please.” With security blanket in hand the miniature theologian takes center stage and exclaims,…

What Else Might Linus Say to Charlie Brown About Christmas?
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Are You Offended by an Inoffensive Person?

Are You Offended by an Inoffensive Person?

Though a person appears to be unloving and disrespectful, to the point where I even feel unloved and disrespected, could I have actually misinterpreted the appearance? When I feel offended by another, does that mean the other person is automatically an offensive person, or could I feel offended by something that in fact is inoffensive? This, of course, begs the question, why would any person in their right mind be offended by inoffensive actions? However, when I refer to “inoffensive actions,” I do not mean obviously positive actions such as gifting you with money. I am referring to actions from your spouse that on the surface could be labeled as “unloving and disrespectful” within the marriage.

Are You Offended by an Inoffensive Person?
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How To Energize Your Marriage

How To Energize Your Marriage

Are you looking for some new ways to energize your marriage? If you are on board with love and respect as the two essential ingredients in your marriage, you may still be asking how it works.So let’s get practical.How do we show love and respect in practical ways? Following are several real-life examples that I hope will bring more clarity to how these principles play out practically.

How To Energize Your Marriage
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In Your Marriage, Do You Listen To Both Sides Of The Story?

In Your Marriage, Do You Listen To Both Sides Of The Story?

How would you feel if someone took you to court and accused you of murdering another person but you were not allowed to verbally defend yourself or even have a lawyer? What if, after only hearing from the accuser, the jury convened and sentenced you to life in prison without parole? And here’s the kicker, what if you had an alibi proving there was no way you could have committed the murder and furthermore you had indisputable proof that your accuser was actually the murderer? But you were never allowed to defend yourself.If you had fallen victim to an inconceivable injustice such as this, you would be in absolute shock.What Happens When Hearing Only One Side?

In Your Marriage, Do You Listen To Both Sides Of The Story?
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When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 2

When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 2

In part 1 we talked about the tendency some women have to hijack a conversation about men needing respect and making it all about their needs as women. These women are not mean-spirited but they take over the conversation and completely ignore the male’s need. Some recent Facebook interactions I had provide a great example of this. Last week I posted three articles on Facebook. The first two challenged the husband (reaching together nearly 500,000 people). I titled them Should a Husband Submit to His Wife?, When a Husband Loves His Wife, Will She Respects Him?

When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 2
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When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 1

When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 1

If I say, “Men really like sports,” some women (a small but vocal percentage) retort, “I can’t believe you just said that! Women really like sports, and let me tell you why women like sports. In fact, you need to know about the sports women are playing, why affirmative action supports more women in sports, and why women would have been more interested in sports had this culture been fairer to women years earlier."In hearing these women express their thoughts, we quickly lose sight of the original statement, “Men really like sports."It is no longer about the man. It is about the woman.

When We Address a Man’s Needs, Why Do Some Women Hijack the Discussion? Part 1
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Is Her Love Feeding His Grumpiness? - Part 5 Grumpy Husbands [Video]

Is Her Love Feeding His Grumpiness? - Part 5 Grumpy Husbands [Video]

Women respond to a husband’s grumbling and complaining in the way they would want him to respond to their complaints. She wants him to move toward her, ask questions about what she feels, express sorrow when hearing this, apologize for any part he played, and offer to do whatever he can to correct the situation. But among men, there is less talk and less engagement.

Is Her Love Feeding His Grumpiness? - Part 5 Grumpy Husbands [Video]
Marriage
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