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Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

I have spoken often about the need to understand and appreciate God’s pink and blue design of women and men, respectively, because our differences undoubtedly go well beyond the biological.

Do You Believe in Miracles? Why the Christian Must Say “Yes!”

Do You Believe in Miracles? Why the Christian Must Say “Yes!”

On February 22, 1980, hall-of-fame sports broadcaster Al Michaels gave us perhaps the most iconic call ever in a sporting event.

Christian Life

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

We’ve all thought that before, right? Many times, in fact. After all, we are a selfish people. It’s only natural for us to get caught up in thinking about what I need, and what you can do for me.

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

Why Do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated? Part 3

Why Do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated? Part 3

In part 1 of this series, we introduced the idea of the despotic husband who recognizes that his vulnerable and sensitive wife typically acquiesces to his bully tactics. In part 2 we put a name to those tactics. Today, we will appeal to the husband to evaluate himself as a man of honor and cease his bullying tactics.

Why Do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated? Part 2

Why Do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated? Part 2

We introduced the idea of the despotic husband who recognizes that his vulnerable and sensitive wife typically acquiesces to his bully tactics. But now we want to put a name to these tactics of his in hopes that he will recognize the bully in him and that this is not how a loving husband triggers respectful feelings in his wife.

Why do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated? Part 1

Why do Goodwilled Wives Feel Frustrated? Part 1

There are many things that hurt and frustrate wives, but one complaint I get often is: “I must stuff my feelings, keep my mouth shut, and do as my husband says.” A wife wrote, "My husband and I attended your seminar. . . .

Can Silence From a Mom Cause a Son to Speak?

Can Silence From a Mom Cause a Son to Speak?

I asked our son David on the first day of 5th grade, “So how was your day?” “Good.” “Anything exciting happen?” “No.” “What did you do?” “Nothing.” Second Day: “So David how was your day?” “Good.” “Anything exciting happen?” “No.” “What did you do?” “Nothing.” And so the conversation continued like this for the rest of the week until Friday when he said, “Mom, it’s the same everyday. If anything changes, I’ll let you know!”

Parenting

What Did You Do to Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

What Did You Do to Come Through Your Marital Crisis?

Have you come through a marital crisis? I’d love to hear your story. You could be the innocent victim with a wounded heart who experienced shock or the remorseful offender with a contrite heart who experienced shame. But before you e-mail me at story@loveandrespect.com, perhaps you could answer some questions that would spark your memory.The Six A’s. Let me say upfront that there could have been any number of reasons for the crisis.

6 Prayers For Mothers to Pray Based on the Word of God

6 Prayers For Mothers to Pray Based on the Word of God

James says we have not because we ask not, so praying is fundamental (James 4:2). There is power in asking! There is less of God’s power when we do not ask. We receive less when we are remiss in asking. But because we ask does not mean we always receive. Jesus prayed three times for the cup of suffering to pass (Matthew 26:44). The apostle Paul thrice prayed for the thorn in the flesh to be removed (2 Corinthians 12:8). God did not answer their specific prayers.

Parenting

As a Mom, What Do I Do When I Feel Tired and Hurt?

As a Mom, What Do I Do When I Feel Tired and Hurt?

You give, give, and give. But the Bible provides a warning: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9). A mother who does good toward her son day after day can grow weary and lose heart when she does not observe any fruitful reaping. When her boy does not listen and willfully disobeys, he can wear her out on any given day. When exhausted, she can let down her guard. She can let go of controlling her emotions. On top of this, if she is feeling horrible about herself, who cares? She lets it rip against her boy.

Parenting

19 Principles of Love and Respect In Marriage: Which Ones Do You Do Well?

19 Principles of Love and Respect In Marriage: Which Ones Do You Do Well?

Because God commands a husband to put on love toward his wife and a wife to come across respectfully to her husband (Ephesians 5:33), I have found it fascinating to think of the many ways of applying this instruction to the married. I believe many of you are making application of the positive aspects of the below 19 principles. As you read this list, which ones do you do well? Why?