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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic.

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

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When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

Wives are driven to connect, to be understood, and to receive empathy, which is a wonderful characteristic of God’s beautiful pink design of them.

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

Christian Life

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

Is It an “Irreconcilable Difference” or Just Good Old-Fashioned (and Biblical) “Trouble”? Part 1

Is It an “Irreconcilable Difference” or Just Good Old-Fashioned (and Biblical) “Trouble”? Part 1

I’m sure you’ve heard of the term “irreconcilable differences.” But have you ever thought about what exactly people mean when they use this term to describe their marriages? I mean, if such “irreconcilable differences” are causing the destruction of families everywhere, it must be really serious, right? After all, to say something is “irreconcilable” means that it is impossible to repair.

Is Your Focus on Your Marriage Rating Where It Needs to Be—On You?

Is Your Focus on Your Marriage Rating Where It Needs to Be—On You?

There’s a fancy theological word the Bible uses when talking about our continued spiritual growth while on earth—sanctification. For example, 2 Thessalonians 2:13 says, “God has chosen you from the beginning for salvation through sanctification by the Spirit and faith in the truth.” And the apostle Peter wrote about “the sanctifying work of the Spirit, to obey Jesus Christ” (1 Peter 1:2). Basically, what this means is that God, through His Holy Spirit, is always at work in our lives, growing and maturing us as Christians. And as long as we are breathing on this earth, our sanctification is not complete. There is still room to grow, for both the infant believer at the beginning of his journey and the lifelong disciple in her last days.

How Can a Wife Best Tell Her Husband That He Has Emotionally Hurt Her?

How Can a Wife Best Tell Her Husband That He Has Emotionally Hurt Her?

“Please help! My husband hurt me and when I try to tell him, he gets defensive and refuses to apologize. He hurts me even more. ”If there is one dominant theme I hear from women who have been hurt emotionally by their husbands, it is that when a wife tries to express to her husband how she has been hurt by something he did or said, he becomes defensive and hurts her even more.

During This Present Distress: Embrace Christ's Care, Call, and Comfort

During This Present Distress: Embrace Christ's Care, Call, and Comfort

In C. S. Lewis’s classic The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe, we learn that in the land of Narnia it’s “always winter but never Christmas.” Can you, like me, connect with that line in a whole new way, here in the middle of this pandemic and the resulting quarantine? Do you feel as though you are in round-the-clock adversity and anguish, with no end in sight of a happy celebration? Is your new normal starting to feel like Narnia—always winter but never Christmas?

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Have You Thanked God Today for Your Vulnerabilities?

Have You Thanked God Today for Your Vulnerabilities?

Consider the following Scripture passages that use bride and groom analogies to describe Jesus’ relationship with the body of Christ: And I saw the holy city, new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, made ready as a bride adorned for her husband. (Revelation 21:2) For I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy; for I betrothed you to one husband, so that to Christ I might present you as a pure virgin. (2 Corinthians 11:2) As the bridegroom rejoices over the bride, so shall your God rejoice over you. (Isaiah 62:5)

Are You Letting Your Feelings Determine the Facts?

Are You Letting Your Feelings Determine the Facts?

Over the years I have encountered a specific tendency that repeatedly reveals itself in many of the emails I receive from wives. Instead of allowing the facts in a situation to influence her feelings on the matter, she allows her feelings to determine what she deems to be the facts. However, she is not seeking to be deceptive, which is why she doesn’t discern what she is doing.

Are You Decoding Your Spouse’s Design When It Comes to Their Communication Styles?

Are You Decoding Your Spouse’s Design When It Comes to Their Communication Styles?

In a survey from Focus on the Family, participants were asked, “What was (and possibly still is) the biggest problem affecting your marriage?” For both men and women the most popular answers by far all dealt with communication. These findings match up with what we have learned at Love and Respect Ministries. Having studied thousands of letters and emails from husbands of wives of both long marriages and newer ones, the common thread that runs through almost all of them is that, in one way or another, the major challenge for the common couple is communication.

An Alto Doesn’t Need Another Alto

An Alto Doesn’t Need Another Alto

In music, a vocal quartet is made up of four different parts or singing styles: alto, soprano, tenor, and base. All four must be included in order for the vocal group to be a quartet. The tenor cannot kick out the bass and replace him with another tenor. The soprano cannot find two more soprano friends and get rid of the alto and tenor. All four parts must be present and fulfilling their roles for the harmonies of their music to sound just right. No part is more important than another; neither is any part unnecessary and would be better off being more like another part.