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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic.

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

Wives are driven to connect, to be understood, and to receive empathy, which is a wonderful characteristic of God’s beautiful pink design of them.

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

Don’t Be “Bullheaded” Like My Dad Admitted About Him and Mom

Don’t Be “Bullheaded” Like My Dad Admitted About Him and Mom

"Hi Grandma,Wish I could be sending you a lovely big present for your 80th Birthday..." I included the entire letter here, because I wanted to share how the first thing that struck me when I read it was my dad’s positive personality shining through, a personality that did not come out much at all as I was growing up.

Seeing Past Regrets in a New Light

Seeing Past Regrets in a New Light

Does a follower of Christ have legitimate, biblical reasons to have regrets in life? I encourage you to pause before you answer that. Focus on the word “regrets.” Yes, like all of us, you have made a few decisions in life you later wished you had not.

A Forgiving Spirit Safeguards Our Well-Being and Influences Others

A Forgiving Spirit Safeguards Our Well-Being and Influences Others

Rarely do we consider forgiveness much of an issue in our life until something happens that leaves us feeling wronged and offended. It is in these times when we discover something about ourselves and our default reactions. We feel hurt, angry, and resentful. We feel the other does not deserve forgiveness.

C.O.U.P.L.E.—The Key to Both Motivating and De-motivating Your Wife in C.H.A.I.R.S.

C.O.U.P.L.E.—The Key to Both Motivating and De-motivating Your Wife in C.H.A.I.R.S.

Is there a connection between C.O.U.P.L.E. and C.H.A.I.R.S.?In my book Love & Respect, I supply the acronym C.O.U.P.L.E. as a way for a husband to spell love to his wife, as well as C.H.A.I.R.S., intended to help a wife spell respect to her husband. Why love for her?

Do Intellectuals, Wardens, Social Workers, and Doctors Understand Unconditional Respect?

Do Intellectuals, Wardens, Social Workers, and Doctors Understand Unconditional Respect?

In Stanford’s educational series, we read, “In the literature of moral and political philosophy, the notion of respect for persons commonly means a kind of respect that all people are owed morally just because they are persons, regardless of social position, individual characteristics or achievements, or moral merit.” Respect regardless! Wait. What? No!

The Kids Are Grown Up and Gone . . . Now What?

The Kids Are Grown Up and Gone . . . Now What?

As any parent will tell you, kids take up so much time. Soccer games, swim practice, piano lessons, back and forth from school, play dates, after-school events... the list goes on. And those are just the things that keep us busy outside the home! When we actually find time to be at home, the air is filled with pleas from our kids: “Mom, I’m hungry.” “Dad, something’s wrong with my bike.” “Where’s my iPad charger?”

Are You Really Seeking Help, or Only Someone to Confirm Your Victimhood?

Are You Really Seeking Help, or Only Someone to Confirm Your Victimhood?

Over the years, people write me out of a deep, authentic concern for their marriage. I always try to reply, especially when requests for help are made. But what I have found is that few people ever write back or say thanks, such as was the case with this wife. Here is part of her original email to me: How do I respond when my husband initiates a conflict with a negative derogatory remark about me? What can I say that responds in love? No matter what he says, do I say, "I love you, even when you say things that hurt me deeply," and then leave the area or what? Please respond to this question if possible.

What Can a Wife Do When Feeling Neglected Sexually on a Regular Basis?

What Can a Wife Do When Feeling Neglected Sexually on a Regular Basis?

Based on God’s summary statement on marriage in Ephesians 5:33, we conclude that above all else, women desire to feel loved unconditionally and that men, above all, desire to be respected for who they are as a man. However, when it comes to marriage, does the emphasis on unconditional love mean wives do not want sex?