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Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.
Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic.
There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”
When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.
Wives are driven to connect, to be understood, and to receive empathy, which is a wonderful characteristic of God’s beautiful pink design of them.
Moms, do you find comfort knowing that you can look to God to help you in your parenting? How reassuring it is for us that Jesus refers to the Holy Spirit as our Helper (John 14:16). I love His description. He is the Helper because we need help. How simple is that? And, it is okay to need help. It is most appropriate to echo the psalmist, "Let Your hand be ready to help me, for I have chosen Your precepts” (Psalm 119:173).
God is for your marriage! Do you believe that? I mean, really believe that? It is my opinion that we can come to no other conclusion when we read how Jesus responded in Matthew 19 when the Pharisees asked Him if it was lawful for a man to divorce his wife.
In May 2017, a man in Arlington, Texas, was jogging when a truck pulled up beside him. A young man climbed out of the truck and approached the jogger, displaying a gun and demanding money. Rather than comply, the jogger drew his own legally carried pistol and fired on the robber, striking him several times in the groin area before he could hobble back into the truck and flee the scene. Later that day police received a tip that led to the apprehension of the wounded robber, who quickly confessed. Police treated the incident as a robbery attempt with self-defense by the jogger, who was not expected to face charges
Sadly, there are some who would make the claim that a wife who chooses to show unconditional respect toward her husband cannot also be strong and independent. Instead, they say, respecting her husband according to Ephesians 5:33 requires her to be milk-toast, with no voice of her own, having to comply with any and all notions her husband has, no matter how sinful, all for the sake of not coming across as un-submissive and disrespectful.
Eighty-three-old Michelle informed her husband Bill, a man of strong faith in Christ, that she might have ovarian cancer. His immediate response was, “Well, you’ve lived longer than most people have lived.” Stunned, hurt, and angered by his comment, she turned to him and boldly expressed, "Bill, you can do better than that.” He then said, having recognized how that sounded, “I’m so sorry, sweetie, for how that came out. I would be absolutely devastated if you died.”
In summing up the New Testament’s greatest treatise on marriage (Ephesians 5:21-33), Paul makes clear to the husband that in all things, no matter the conflict or situation, he is to be intentional about loving his wife unconditionally. Love is the way to her heart, and what she most needs to feel from him.
Despite indisputable, clear-as-day confirmations from multiple New Testament writers—including Peter, one of Jesus’ best friends—that Jesus lived a sinless life, research from the Barna Group reveals that 43 percent of the current Western population believe that Jesus Christ sinned while on earth.
Parenting is easy . . . as long as our kids do exactly what we say, when we say it. Though we laugh, there is certainly some truth in this sentiment, isn’t there? When the baby sleeps when we tell her to, when the toddler shares the toy when we ask him to, when the middle schooler turns off the video games and helps set the dinner table when we need him to, and when the teenage daughter loves the conservative clothes we buy for her, we say to ourselves, “This parenting stuff is easy! Why do so many complain?”
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