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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic.

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

Christian Life

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

Wives are driven to connect, to be understood, and to receive empathy, which is a wonderful characteristic of God’s beautiful pink design of them.

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

Christian Life

When Frustrated, How Do You Come Across to Your Husband? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself

When 'What About My Needs?' Leads to a Broken Marriage

When 'What About My Needs?' Leads to a Broken Marriage

A wife wrote to me: "When I began reading Love & Respect, I could not get past the ‘What about my needs?’ question and never even made it to the chapter where this is addressed. "Years later, her husband leaves. She says, "I pulled out our copy of L&R. I finished it today, the day he moved out. It’s not for me to question God’s plan, but I am perplexed by why now, when it seems too late, I have read, understood, embraced, and realized how profoundly I have damaged this man I love and our union."

Is Lying, Cheating, And Stealing For Self-Serving Reasons Ever Worth It In The End? [Video]

Is Lying, Cheating, And Stealing For Self-Serving Reasons Ever Worth It In The End? [Video]

Sarah and I recently traveled to Paris to see our daughter, where we stayed in an Airbnb rental about an hour away from the city. At one point during our stay, our daughter, Joy, asked the rental owners about the possibility of swapping homes with them for a weekend at some point.

Christian Life

What Company Do You and Your Spouse Keep?

What Company Do You and Your Spouse Keep?

The company we keep matters. It matters to God, and it matters to us. Proverbs 13:20 says, “He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. ”Multiple times in the Bible we find God being very specific in His commands concerning the company someone has.

Do You Have a Teamwork Mindset?

Do You Have a Teamwork Mindset?

One day I found myself wondering, Do couples take seriously the idea of finding win-win as a team, based on God's calling to be one? With this question in mind, I wrote down a burden I was feeling: "As for the win-win message, no one is saying to me ‘tell me more.’

According to Jesus, A Home Is To Be Identified As Wholesome And Worthy If There Is A Man Of Peace There

According to Jesus, A Home Is To Be Identified As Wholesome And Worthy If There Is A Man Of Peace There

When Jesus sent the disciples out two by two, He told them to stay at the home of “a man of peace.” What exactly does that mean? When the disciples came to a home they had never been to before, how were they to know if the man of the house, and his wife, were people of peace? (By implication, there is also a woman of peace to be on the lookout for, since Proverbs 21:19 addresses the sad reality of “a contentious and vexing woman.” Thus, the entire household is in sight here.)

Parenting

Love and Respect Is Not a Weapon to “Use”

Love and Respect Is Not a Weapon to “Use”

A wife wrote me: Right now my husband and I are separated. I kicked him out of the house a month ago. He is now staying with a friend 45 minutes away from us and his work. Reading your book really gave me an insight into why he left so willingly. I had not given the king his "chair." I know I hurt his pride. No man wants to be kicked out of his castle.

Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

Is It Possible For a Hopeless Marriage To Turn Around When Christ Is At The Center?

I am asked all the time. “There’s no love left between us,” they say, “and we are tired of working at a loveless marriage. ”That may be how you feel, and I understand that discouragement. I get hundreds of emails with that kind of sentiment, and nearly every marriage goes through times when the love seems to be gone and one or both spouses want to give up. If this is you too, you need to know that you are not alone in this.

What Can a Husband and Wife with Different Convictions Learn from Romans 14?

What Can a Husband and Wife with Different Convictions Learn from Romans 14?

The first-century church in Rome was made up of both Jews and Gentiles, which caused a few problems between these well-meaning brothers and sisters in Christ. Two differences in particular gave Paul reason to address their situations in drawn-out fashion in Romans 14. First, some had no problems with eating meat from animals that had been offered up as idol sacrifice, while others strenuously objected to such a diet. Second, some felt strongly that the sabbath should still be held in high esteem above all other days, while others had no conviction either way.

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