¡EL SET DE DVDs EN ESPAÑOL DE “AMOR Y RESPETO”
¡Este set de DVDs no contiene absolutamente nada en inglés! Emocionados, pero aún así agobiados, por las relaciones de pareja entre hombres y mujeres, el Dr. Emerson Eggerichs y su esposa Sarah lanzaron las conferencias “Amor y Respeto” en 1999. Basada en más de 30 años deconsejería así como de investigación científica y bíblica, esta conferencia ha dado nuevas esperanzas y nueva vida a miles de matrimonios de todo el país.
Este es un resumen de lo que encontrará:
- ¿Por qué reaccionamos negativamente hacia nuestra pareja? (El Ciclo de la Locura) – Duración: 94 minutos
- Cómo un esposo puede motivar a su esposa (El Ciclo Vigorizante – Parte I) Duración: 83 minutos
- Cómo una esposa puede motivar a su esposo (El Ciclo Vigorizante – Parte II) Duración: 98 minutos
- Aplicaciones prácticas (Sarah Eggerichs) – Duración: 75 minutos
- El ingrediente que nos motiva más allá de nuestro matrimonio (El Ciclo de la Recompensa) Duración: 82 minutos
¡Este set de DVDs no contiene absolutamente nada en inglés!
Emocionados, pero aún así agobiados, por las relaciones de pareja entre hombres y mujeres, el Dr. Emerson Eggerichs y su esposa Sarah lanzaron las conferencias “Amor y Respeto” en 1999. Basada en más de 30 años de consejería así como de investigación científica y bíblica, esta conferencia ha dado nuevas esperanzas y nueva vida a miles de matrimonios de todo el país. Este set es una grabación de Emerson y Sarah donde presentan la conferencia “Amor y Respeto” en Houston, Texas, con un doblaje al español. Subtítulos en español son opcionales y vienen incluidos. Este set de cinco DVDs contiene un total de 7.2 horas de enseñanza dinámica ofrecidas por Emerson y Sarah Eggerichs.
This DVD set does not include any English!
Excited yet burdened about male and female relationships, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife Sarah launched the Love and Respect Conferences in 1999. Based on over three decades of counseling as well as scientific and biblical research, this conference has given hope and new life to thousands of marriages around the country. This DVD set is a recording of Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs presenting the Love and Respect Conference in Houston, TX with Spanish voice-over. Optional Spanish sub-titles are also included. The 5-disc box set has a total of 7.2 hours of dynamic teaching by Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs. Here is an overview of the contents:
1. Why We Negatively React to Each Other (The Crazy Cycle) 94 minutes
2. How a Husband Best Motivates His Wife (The Energizing Cycle Part I) 83 minutes
3. How a Wife Best Motivates Her Husband (The Energizing Cycle Part II) 98 minutes
4. Practical Application (Sarah Eggerichs) 75 minutes
5. The Ingredient That Motivates Us Beyond Our Marriage (The Rewarded Cycle) 82 minutes
Read What People Are Saying About The Love & Respect Conference Study
"Well a miracle happened! I read the Love and Respect book entirely last week...As we went thru the (Love and Respect) DVDs I could feel a gentle release of the pain that gripped our marriage for 22 years. Rather than a “light-bulb” moment, it’s been more of a dimmer switch getting brighter with the hope we’ll be OK now that we have some tools for an even better marriage. A softening has occurred…We are already teaching the kids some of the principles and have decided to re-watch the DVDs with the kids."
This concept had played a pivotal role in changing the tide in our marriage from divorce to reconciliation. We have since led the Love and Respect small group 8 times (around 100 couples)…We have an intense desire to help marriages, and we believe if two stubborn, selfish people like us could let God change our hearts, well anyone can!! Your ministry helped save our marriage!
"...something happened when you got up and started speaking. My husband woke up. When we left…he apologized for not being a good husband and wants to make things better. I apologized to him for my attitudes. Things are starting to turn around. Thank you and please keep us in your prayers."
"After 13 years I can finally say our marriage is truly like a dream. It is unbelievable how tender and fun and honest and caring and loving and joyful and playful and kind and intimate and generous and forgiving and sincere and giving and wonderful our marriage is. It is a MIRACLE. And only with God’s guidance in His Word and from your Love and Respect series has this been possible."
"BUT...As a wonderful, undeserved gift from the Father who so incredibly bestows good things on his children, God opened my husband's heart… he became a changed man. A man who loves me, adores me, apologizes to me quickly…and talks to me all the time. Praise God from whom all blessings flow. Thank you for being willing to share the message of love and respect across our nation. I am forever grateful."
"...About a year ago, after going to countless seminars, numerous marriage counselors, and who knows how many books, they discovered the Love & Respect series. To the rest of us it was just another stab in the dark and the seemingly obvious expectation of a divorce was still there. When my parents did a complete 180-degree turn around, it was very difficult not to be still in denial and hurt and expect it not to last too long. It was definitely something I would call, without any doubt, a miracle."
"We watched the videos of your conference...I cry as I write this, because it was almost immediately that our marriage began to be restored…(my husband) said he could not stand to be away from his family any longer and he asked the kids and I to be with him. What makes this a miracle was that we didn’t go back into the same broken marriage, but instead into one that was healed."
"Probably no way to ever thank you. Ever. I am telling everyone about the DVD series and trying to get our pastor to show it at church on Sunday mornings.”
"I went to church and prayed and prayed for reconciliation. My ex-husband... confessed about a year ago that he wanted to try again. My heart soared with emotion! Glory to God! Could this be true? I thought it was done and over, but God had other ideas. The “story of us” was far from over. The past few months have been heavenly, and I owe it all to Christ’s message and your delivery of that message..."
"God began to do miracles in each of our hearts, and we could each see how God had been changing our hearts in various ways while we were apart, and we had no idea we were both experiencing that. We both got a copy of the Love and Respect book and were reading it over the phone and talking through our past difficulties and differences..."
"The turnaround in our marriage is a miracle and is a profound event in my life…we have had hard discussions since I finished the (Love & Respect) book and since we attended the conference, but not one has turned into an argument. We have had disagreements, but not disconnection. Every hard discussion has resulted in a deeper level of intimacy in our marriage. I never thought this was possible. God is able to do immeasurably more than we ever ask or imagine."
" My friend basically stuck your DVD series in my face & said, “You've got to watch this!” My husband & I did. In fact, we still are for the 2nd time around. Just yesterday my husband said, "We are supposed to call couples so we can pray together." This is not the "norm" for my husband. To invite people into our home so we can talk & be transparent...Wow!"
"We attended the conference and want to let you know how blessed we were by the truth you spoke. God has used your message to transform us and our marriage. We are amazed at the miracle and work He is doing in us individually and in our marriage. Your message of love & respect gave us a great start, and God has been gracious to help us along in the journey."
"...I've stopped the divorce…we've spoken to our daughter and shared with her our change of heart and we say thank you. There is no doubt in my life that I'm watching a miracle in action and I say, bless you for your time and effort."
"...I began reading the book the day I bought it. I was shocked and blown away by the truth that was written page after page. I began to see my half in the mess and better yet, I began to see how to resolve our problems and reconcile our marriage...Truly this work and information is a miracle in my life…Everyone needs to know and hear the truth that has set me free! May the Lord richly bless you as you have blessed me!"
"I do not have a 'sudden miracle' story for you currently, but I do believe a miracle is happening gradually in our marriage relationship. My husband and I are going to see a counselor...and he initiated this! Although he said at the conference that he felt we were 'beyond this' in terms of the answers we need, he has noticeably softened since, and I know I have changed my attitude as a result of the heart-changing, mind-renewing message you shared."
"Your course just fit in perfectly and filled in the missing pieces…We are to respect our differences. Laughter and peace has come into our home again..."
"Love and Respect was nothing short of a miracle in saving my marriage, and I would love the opportunity to make others aware of your Ministry and what it can do for a marriage. I hold a Master’s degree in Counseling, and I am a Christian…Thank you so much, and God Bless you both for saving my marriage."
"One of God's miracles in all of this is (we) made a commitment to go for counseling and the person that gave us the counseling used all his teaching based on Love and Respect. First we had to re-read your book, then we went through your 5 DVDs on Love and Respect…with obedience, faith, patience and with (the) Love and Respect teaching God worked His plans His way..."
"The changes in my marriage are so drastic that it can only be attributed to a miracle…my life will NEVER be the same. I will, with God's help, ALWAYS seek God and His ways. My marriage has changed and my children will be blessed because of it. This truly does make a difference for generations to come."
"My own experiences along with your advice have resulted in a miracle in my life. I enjoy my husband as I did when we were courting (more, even). Our sex life has improved 100% as I find respecting my husband a turn-on (believe it or not). Today, he gets more than enough respect (and sex) and I get all the love and protection that I could ever want. There is now great joy in my marriage thanks to your help."
...having heard the teachings/speaking of Emerson and Sarah, we both agree that your ministry is one so many more people need. We needed it as a refresher, an uplifter, a challenger to reset the clock and ensure we're staying fresh in commitments to Christ and each other.
I have now realized what that empty feeling in my stomach was. It was RESPECT for me and LOVE for her. Mind blown. It's not about right and wrong but mutual understanding. Wish I had watched this my spouse 6 months [ago] as we probably would not be separated if we saw the videos together.
My husband and I are married 18 years and are a blended family. We have done love and respect 4 times!!! We purchased the conference and used it for 3 bible studies in our home over the years and have seen many marriages transformed. Three were saved from the verge of divorce and are thriving wonderfully.
Please let me say that I have enjoyed your material for quite a while. Several years ago I purchased a DVD set of an earlier seminar that I and my wife have watched several times together. I still like to sit down with the DVD's and freshen up my understanding of the marriage relationship.
...We are looking forward to going through the Conference again and having this material at our fingertips for reference. "My Response is my Responsibility" has been tremendously helpful not only for our marriage but in so many other areas of our life.
...My wife and I saw the application of this material help us take our very good marriage to one of tremendous mutual blessing! We have now taught the first small group version as well as the subsequent two video small group versions to over 50 couples over the past decade, and without fail it has had a positive life changing impact on them...
We attended this weekend and I will say that it has renewed our commitment to each other. I will say that the live event was even better than what we expected. Thank you for your ministry and may the Lord continue using you.
Love and Respect has an amazing strategy that we noticed immediately. It has a biblical foundation, keeping Christ in the center of our daily lives, and the amazing message of the gospel and how to receive salvation...
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.About Love & Respect
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
[Husbands] the most powerful weapons you have are your ears. Just listen to your wife, and she is much more likely to feel understood.
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
The mature one in the marriage seldom moves second.
Do you give yourself grace and your spouse judgment?
God is not trying to trick you or mess with you. Trust that He wants to reveal Himself to you just as much as He wants to reveal Himself to the world.
Wives, to energize your husband do an activity with him, shoulder-to-shoulder, without talking.
You cannot use unholy means to achieve a worthy end.
Assume goodwill about the person you are in conflict with.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
Do you seek to understand or only to be understood?
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
Be a part of the solution, not part of the problem.
You can be right in the argument, but wrong in your approach.
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.
There is power and freedom that comes in understanding that no one can cause you to react in a certain way. It is your choice.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
We blame people for the bad things we do, but take credit for the good things we do.
Through Jesus and Peter, God set forth His standard for living in the unconditional dimension: choose to be loving even when the other person is not; do what is right regardless of the treatment you receive. I believe this standard applies directly to marriage. A husband who speaks lovingly to his disrespectful wife will be rewarded; and a wife who speaks respectfully to her unloving, not-worthy-of-respect husband will be rewarded. Whether you are husband or wife, the reward is what can keep you going in the midst of the craziness: knowing that God commends you, knowing that you have found his favor for your words and actions.
Thank God for joining you together and for allowing you to trust Him to help you, whatever the issue. God is there for you and expects you to look to Him to keep you together as a team, so ask Him for His help in the smallest of concerns. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
When a husband chooses to come across lovingly even though he feels disrespected, he can prevent the Crazy Cycle from spinning and possibly getting out of control.
To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
You may believe that the careless, unloving or disrespectful words you speak are because your spouse is causing you to speak this way, but Jesus says that it is coming out of your heart.
At the very bottom of things, in every case and in every conversation, you can do your marriage a huge favor by assuming she is seeking to feel loved or he is seeking to feel respected and give your spouse some grace!
Always try to look at your spouse the way Jesus does.
“With eyes of faith, envision Jesus standing just beyond the shoulder of your spouse and listening to every word you speak in every conversation, pleasant or tense. When you speak lovingly or respectfully to your spouse, you are speaking to Christ. Your spouse just happens to be there too.” This truth has sanctified the lips of many. Instead of giving their spouse a verbal whipping or choking on the idea of saying anything positive, now some spouses are motivated to speak words of unconditional love or respect.
“Respect is a man’s deepest value. I have had numerous men tell me, ‘I would rather live with a wife who respected me but did not love me than live with a wife who loved me but did not respect me.’ These men are not saying that they are indifferent to love. They know they need love, but they need to feel respected even more than they need to feel loved.“
Holding back your love or respect will just keep the Crazy Cycle spinning away, but being mature and making the first move could slow it down.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
Both Judas and Peter denied Jesus Christ, but there is a huge difference between a Judas and a Peter.
Your hunger for God can create an appetite in your children.
When parents genuinely trust and follow the Lord and His ways, their faith spills over onto the children.
It’s so easy to dismiss our spouse as childish because we don’t have the same vulnerabilities they do.
Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?
Fight like a loving man and a respectful woman. Fight fair.
Always remember that Pink and Blue have different wiring, different preferences. Assume your spouse has goodwill toward you, no matter what. Both of you can be right, while being different.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
If we subscribe to the belief that because we are equal we are the same, then we’re going to expect our spouse to respond the way we do.
You have two ears and one mouth; use them proportionately.
Your spouse deserves the truth from you. Do your best to tell it with love and respect.
When you’re truly Christ-centered, instead of child-centered, you will be a more effective parent in the long run.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
When evil comes at you, you’re the one who makes the choice of whether or not it is going to go into you.
A major step toward a happy marriage is accepting differences and working them out with love and respect.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
Getting married reveals, usually sooner than later, an incontestable fact: your spouse cannot possibly meet all your needs and desires
The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.
To build a lasting legacy, use proven wisdom that you glean from the Lord.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.
Respect for the husband is just as important as love for the wife.
She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.
Positive changes flood a relationship immediately when both husband and wife cancel the blame game!
Life is too short to fuss and fret over trivial irritations.
God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.
We are worth Jesus to the Father.
A strong woman of dignity puts on respect out of her love and reverence for Jesus Christ. She trusts that His word not only protects and empowers her, but also rewards her with incomprehensible eternal blessings.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
Your spouse may meet many of your needs, but your deepest dependency should be on your Lord.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
Thank God for His forgiveness of your mistakes. In trying to be a loving man or a respectful woman, we blow it. Owning up to mistakes is never easy, but it is always the way to move forward. Take good care not to accuse your spouse of mistakes as you pray. Also, pray about any forgiving to be done in the family, any forgiveness that needs to be asked. Children may need forgiveness (and what about Mom and Dad?). “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
Optimism or pessimism? It is always a choice, no matter what your natural temperament.
Could you be facing a crisis in faith more than a crisis in your marriage?
Truth will carry its own weight if delivered respectfully and lovingly.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
Being a person who communicates what is true frequently demands tact, and at times it can feel like sidestepping land mines. It takes work to be both truthful and tactful.
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
We all need to wrestle with the spiritual truth that God is good. If you don’t believe God is good, you won’t trust His word. If you don’t trust His word, you will find excuses to ignore His commands.
When you look to God and His Word as your ultimate source of significance and security, you don’t demand that your spouse take that role in your life. And as you draw strength from the Lord individually, He draws you closer together as a couple.
When Jesus said “turn the other cheek,” He wasn’t saying to be passive wimps. He was teaching that physically people can control you but if you turn and give the other cheek, suddenly you’re in control and you’re making the choices.
Although the Crazy Cycle is not what God intends for any marriage, all couples get on it at times from one degree to another.
Most marriages will succeed when obeying the command to Love and Respect.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
As you pray together, you will truly learn to love and respect together.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration or anger, but you always have a choice. A wife can choose to be disrespectful or respectful. A husband can choose to be unloving or loving.
When confronting your spouse, attack the behavior, not the person.
As strong and powerful as marriage bonds can become, our deepest dependency must be on the Lord, not another human being.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative with lots of love and respect in between.
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
Don’t label each other as bad because you differ on how you solve your troubles.
“You can be right, but wrong at the top of your voice.”
He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.