Amor y Respeto - Cuaderno De Trabajo: Videoconferencia
LIBRO DE EJERCICIOS PARA EL DVD EN ESPAÑOL Este es un libro de ejercicios que viene adjunto con el set de “Amor y Respeto” donde se presentan todas las Escrituras que el Dr. Eggerichs utiliza, así como actividades interactivas para los participantes. Por favor ordene uno por persona.
Amor y Respeto
Cuarderno De Trabajo: Videoconferencia
LIBRO DE EJERCICIOS PARA EL DVD EN ESPAÑOL
Este es un libro de ejercicios que viene adjunto con el set de “Amor y Respeto” donde se presentan todas las Escrituras que el Dr. Eggerichs utiliza, así como actividades interactivas para los participantes. Por favor ordene uno por persona.
Spanish DVD Workbook
This is the companion workbook to the Spanish Love and Respect DVDs, providing all the Scriptures Dr. Eggerichs uses, as well as fill-in-the-blanks for interactive participation. Please order one per person.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
As strong and powerful as marriage bonds can become, our deepest dependency must be on the Lord, not another human being.
When a husband chooses to come across lovingly even though he feels disrespected, he can prevent the Crazy Cycle from spinning and possibly getting out of control.
Words of love from a husband are like good medicine that brings life to the marriage.
We must bring our identity in Christ to our parenting—we must not derive our identity from our children.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
Your spouse deserves the truth from you. Do your best to tell it with love and respect.
A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.
God is not trying to trick you or mess with you. Trust that He wants to reveal Himself to you just as much as He wants to reveal Himself to the world.
In the ultimate sense you marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship with Jesus Christ.
Life is too short to fuss and fret over trivial irritations.
Optimism or pessimism? It is always a choice, no matter what your natural temperament.
Christian maturity involves a lot of things, but surely it includes knowing how to process your anger.
[Husbands] do you realize the power of just holding your wife’s hand?
When parents genuinely trust and follow the Lord and His ways, their faith spills over onto the children.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
Above all trust God when the “whys” of life threaten to overwhelm you.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
Stay the course regardless of the child’s respect and obedience. This is the Family Rewarded Cycle: a parents love unto Christ regardless of the child.
[Husbands] the most powerful weapons you have are your ears. Just listen to your wife, and she is much more likely to feel understood.
Money squabbles don’t undermine love and respect; they simply reveal unloving and disrespectful attitudes, which are the real reason why a marriage can start to wobble on the Crazy Cycle.
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.
Clearly, in the marriage, in the family and in the household, when you speak words of blessing, you are speaking to the Lord, and for this you will be rewarded.
Though the end can be worthy (to be loved and respected), when each uses unholy means (unloving and disrespectful words and actions), it will not achieve those ends. We must treat others as we expect them to treat us. To deny this makes us arrogant or fools, or both.
When you love or respect unconditionally regardless of the outcome, you are following God and His will for you.
Do you believe that there is a God who really loves you and wants to help you?
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
Often both spouses have goodwill but are not deciphering each other’s code. She criticizes out of love, but he “hears” only disrespect. He distances himself to prevent feelings from escalating, which is the honorable thing to do, but she “sees” only his failure to be loving!
One thing to remember in this culture is if we say something complimentary towards one gender, we aren’t saying something against the other.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
When a husband chooses to do or say something loving, and that includes saying, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way,’ he energizes his wife. When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.
Thank the Lord that in the very beginning He created them male and female – Blue and Pink. Ask Him for patience and ever-growing understanding of how men and women see and hear differently. “He created them male and female, and He blessed them.” (Genesis 5:2)
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
Most marriages will succeed when obeying the command to Love and Respect.
God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.
Unconditional love or respect is never wasted. Hang onto this promise: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9).
If you want your wife to express appreciation for your attempts to be loving, you must use thankful words when she tries to speak or act respectfully.
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
[Women], your self-love cannot be derived from your husband’s love. It can affect it, but it does not determine it.
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
We have different vulnerabilities. We can pass judgment on one another all day long or we can say God made us different and that’s ok.
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
Feeling unloved, a wife gets defensive and acts offensively without respect. Feeling disrespected, a husband gets defensive and acts offensively without love.
Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.
Both Judas and Peter denied Jesus Christ, but there is a huge difference between a Judas and a Peter.
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.
When there is confusion, I try to refrain from attacking another for not listening carefully (which may not be the case). Instead, I take a run at communicating again, but more clearly.
Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.
Before hitting send, ask yourself, Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
[Women], as you enter quiet dignity, not preaching at your husband or scolding him as though you were his mother, something happens in his soul as a male.
When you’re truly Christ-centered, instead of child-centered, you will be a more effective parent in the long run.
We can all have moments of anger, but this does not mean we have to lose control and sin.
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
The difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that successful ones keep getting up and dealing with the issues.
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed, “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25).
You speak lovingly or respectfully no matter how your spouse may speak to you in return. Your spouse is not the reason--good or bad--why you speak unconditional words of love or respect. God is the reason, and as you depend on Him, you will become increasingly able to speak lovingly and respectfully to your spouse.
Do you understand that God feels compassion for you, no matter what you have done or what your circumstances may be?
She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
Unconditional respect is as powerful to him as unconditional love is to her.
Husbands primarily want to hear ‘respect” talk during conflict. Wives primarily want to hear “love” talk during conflict.
Ladies, be careful. “A nagging wife goes on and on like the drip, drip, drip of the rain” (Proverbs 19:13).
Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean the other person is offensive.