Amor y Respeto - Cuaderno De Trabajo: Videoconferencia
LIBRO DE EJERCICIOS PARA EL DVD EN ESPAÑOL Este es un libro de ejercicios que viene adjunto con el set de “Amor y Respeto” donde se presentan todas las Escrituras que el Dr. Eggerichs utiliza, así como actividades interactivas para los participantes. Por favor ordene uno por persona.
Amor y Respeto
Cuarderno De Trabajo: Videoconferencia
LIBRO DE EJERCICIOS PARA EL DVD EN ESPAÑOL
Este es un libro de ejercicios que viene adjunto con el set de “Amor y Respeto” donde se presentan todas las Escrituras que el Dr. Eggerichs utiliza, así como actividades interactivas para los participantes. Por favor ordene uno por persona.
Spanish DVD Workbook
This is the companion workbook to the Spanish Love and Respect DVDs, providing all the Scriptures Dr. Eggerichs uses, as well as fill-in-the-blanks for interactive participation. Please order one per person.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
Husbands primarily want to hear ‘respect” talk during conflict. Wives primarily want to hear “love” talk during conflict.
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
A strong woman of dignity puts on respect out of her love and reverence for Jesus Christ. She trusts that His word not only protects and empowers her, but also rewards her with incomprehensible eternal blessings.
God is not pink. God is not blue. God is purple. When two become one, they have the potential of displaying God’s attributes and character.
When a husband chooses to do or say something loving, and that includes saying, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way,’ he energizes his wife. When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.
I had often asked God to compensate for my mistakes, but in return had I thought He would give me perfect children?
As mature men, we need to take leadership and put this out on the table. We must acknowledge our feelings- we need to feel respected. However, as we do this we must acknowledge our wife’s feelings- she needs to feel loved!
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
If you are seeking positive change in your marriage, you will need to make a positive change in your attitude and actions.
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
Research and experience prove that men and women see and hear differently. Recognizing these differences and adjusting to them is absolutely necessary for reaching mutual understanding and better communication.
I often stress that one of the greatest rewards any persevering spouse can have is being a good example and influence on the children in the family.
Stay the course regardless of the child’s respect and obedience. This is the Family Rewarded Cycle: a parents love unto Christ regardless of the child.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.
Truth will carry its own weight if delivered respectfully and lovingly.
When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
Whether visiting a prison, feeding the hungry, giving the thirsty a drink or speaking a word of love or respect, everything is to be done to and for Christ.
We have to step back as Christ followers and ask, “Do I have false expectations that my relationship should be romantic 99% of the time?”
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.
Responding to offensive words or actions with your own offensive words and actions is damaging and unproductive.
God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.
Positive changes flood a relationship immediately when both husband and wife cancel the blame game!
Can you begin to trust that God feels love for you even when you don’t feel that love?
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
In the ultimate sense you marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship with Jesus Christ.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
The difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that successful ones keep getting up and dealing with the issues.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
As a wife, if you can start to understand how important your husband’s work is to him, you will take a giant step toward communicating respect and honor, two things that he values even more than your love.
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25)
Every marriage includes trouble some of the time. Do not let the 20% leaven all the rest.
Often both spouses have goodwill but are not deciphering each other’s code. She criticizes out of love, but he “hears” only disrespect. He distances himself to prevent feelings from escalating, which is the honorable thing to do, but she “sees” only his failure to be loving!
We all need to wrestle with the spiritual truth that God is good. If you don’t believe God is good, you won’t trust His word. If you don’t trust His word, you will find excuses to ignore His commands.
Holding back your love or respect will just keep the Crazy Cycle spinning away, but being mature and making the first move could slow it down.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
Most marriages will succeed when obeying the command to Love and Respect.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
When you possess a forgiving spirit, words of Love and Respect will flow authentically from your lips- and realize that the Lord Himself is listening to you at moments like these. He knows you are not powerless, but actually full of power that He has granted you.
Both Judas and Peter denied Jesus Christ, but there is a huge difference between a Judas and a Peter.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
The heart of my communication means the other person cannot get my heart to be unkind, unloving, or disrespectful. Instead, I have made a decision about who I will be independent of the other person. I won’t blame my unkindness on someone else.
Clearly, in the marriage, in the family and in the household, when you speak words of blessing, you are speaking to the Lord, and for this you will be rewarded.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
You both forgive for one simple but profound reason: because you know Christ has forgiven you!
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
Being a person who communicates what is true frequently demands tact, and at times it can feel like sidestepping land mines. It takes work to be both truthful and tactful.
Husbands, even Jesus Himself was asked by a woman, “Do you not care?” (Luke 10:40) When your wife accuses you of not caring, decode her deeper meaning.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.
Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.
Money squabbles don’t undermine love and respect; they simply reveal unloving and disrespectful attitudes, which are the real reason why a marriage can start to wobble on the Crazy Cycle.
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.
You must “ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves.”
Your spouse deserves the truth from you. Do your best to tell it with love and respect.
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.
She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.
When Jesus said “turn the other cheek,” He wasn’t saying to be passive wimps. He was teaching that physically people can control you but if you turn and give the other cheek, suddenly you’re in control and you’re making the choices.
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.