Love and Respect Coaster (6) Set
A set of six premium leather coasters, each stamped with the Love & Respect logo. A perfect gift or an item to use in your Love and Respect small group. Or consider purchasing with our Love & Respect mug set. Made by Saddleback Leather Co.










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Love and Respect Coasters
Set of 6
Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Over-Engineering: This leather product is over-engineered with no breakable parts like zippers, snaps, buttons, etc. It's built with the largest pieces of leather possible so there are fewer seams, sewn at only 5 stitches per inch so there's more leather between the needle holes and fewer holes to start a tear.
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What is it Made Of?
The strongest to be found (full-grain boot leather, but thicker), and the pigskin lining is stronger than the cow leather. The thread is unbelievably strong industrial marine grade UV resistant polyester thread.

Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
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Here is the secret to marriage that every couple seeks and yet few find: Unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret that will help you achieve a brand new level of intimacy.
Husbands, to energize your wife give her face-to-face time, allowing her to talk and share her feelings.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.
A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
Always remember that Pink and Blue have different wiring, different preferences. Assume your spouse has goodwill toward you, no matter what. Both of you can be right, while being different.
There is power and freedom that comes in understanding that no one can cause you to react in a certain way. It is your choice.
Men are solution oriented, they love to solve problems. They want to be helpful.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
Both Judas and Peter denied Jesus Christ, but there is a huge difference between a Judas and a Peter.
Clarifying is what you do before you step on your mate’s air hose and deflate his or her spirit. For example, you are having a typical conversation, but you can tell there is a misunderstanding. One of you isn’t being clear or isn’t hearing correctly. Then and there you clarify the misunderstanding before your spouse’s spirit deflates. You lovingly or respectfully clarify matters so that your spouse will not feel unloved or disrespected. The reason you take pains to clarify a seemingly small matter is to prevent the situation from becoming a love and respect issue that needs decoding. Clarifying is what you do to stay off the Crazy Cycle and keep positive, energetic feelings flowing between the two of you, to keep yourselves on the Energizing Cycle.
“Living happily ever after” means knowing how to deal with the imperfect parts of life.
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
No matter what your struggle- criticism, constant conflict, sex, money, parenting, harsh words- learning to communicate the Love and Respect way can help you make crucial changes and build the kind of relationship that God blesses.
There is a discrepancy between who we want to be and see ourselves to be and how we actually sound in voice and writing. But with self-reflection and honesty, we can turn the corner and improve our communication. We need only evaluate what we are about to communicate.
He will feel appreciated when you recognize his problem-solving approach as his male brand of empathy.
We must bring our identity in Christ to our parenting—we must not derive our identity from our children.
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
If you want your wife to express appreciation for your attempts to be loving, you must use thankful words when she tries to speak or act respectfully.
God rewards your obedience to love and respect, even if your spouse does not respond!
Words of love from a husband are like good medicine that brings life to the marriage.
Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean the other person is offensive.
The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
When you look to God and His Word as your ultimate source of significance and security, you don’t demand that your spouse take that role in your life. And as you draw strength from the Lord individually, He draws you closer together as a couple.
She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
Husbands primarily want to hear ‘respect” talk during conflict. Wives primarily want to hear “love” talk during conflict.
Don’t pressure yourself with perfection. We are going to fail. A righteous man falls 7 times but gets back up.
Thank the Lord for all the trouble-free moments in which you and your spouse enjoy Him, each other, your family, your ministry and life as a whole. Ask Him for the strength to accept your measure of trouble, and the wisdom to deal with the annoyances and irritations by loving and respecting each other with new commitment. (You may also want to pray about troubles at work, at church, with the children…) “But those who marry will have trouble in this life” (1 Corinthians 7:28)
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
God is not trying to trick you or mess with you. Trust that He wants to reveal Himself to you just as much as He wants to reveal Himself to the world.
A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.
Above all trust God when the “whys” of life threaten to overwhelm you.
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
If we subscribe to the belief that because we are equal we are the same, then we’re going to expect our spouse to respond the way we do.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
The heart of my communication means the other person cannot get my heart to be unkind, unloving, or disrespectful. Instead, I have made a decision about who I will be independent of the other person. I won’t blame my unkindness on someone else.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
To build a lasting legacy, use proven wisdom that you glean from the Lord.
[Women], as you enter quiet dignity, not preaching at your husband or scolding him as though you were his mother, something happens in his soul as a male.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
I have concluded that those of us in the church who believe we have the Truth are not using the whole truth. A crucial part of God’s Word has been completely ignored, or perhaps simply gone unnoticed, when it has been there right under our noses the whole time! Many Christian spouses know Ephesians 5:33 and can at least paraphrase it. The Apostle Paul tells husbands to love their wives as much as they love themselves, and wives are to respect their husbands. But is anyone really listening? Perhaps the first step to better communication between husband and wife is to hear what God’s Word clearly says. --Emerson
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
We can all have moments of anger, but this does not mean we have to lose control and sin.
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
Research and experience prove that men and women see and hear differently. Recognizing these differences and adjusting to them is absolutely necessary for reaching mutual understanding and better communication.
Often both spouses have goodwill but are not deciphering each other’s code. She criticizes out of love, but he “hears” only disrespect. He distances himself to prevent feelings from escalating, which is the honorable thing to do, but she “sees” only his failure to be loving!
He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.
Unconditional respect is as powerful to him as unconditional love is to her.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
At the very bottom of things, in every case and in every conversation, you can do your marriage a huge favor by assuming she is seeking to feel loved or he is seeking to feel respected and give your spouse some grace!
I had often asked God to compensate for my mistakes, but in return had I thought He would give me perfect children?
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
In the ultimate sense you marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship with Jesus Christ.
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
When a husband chooses to do or say something loving, and that includes saying, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way,’ he energizes his wife. When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
Your marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for Jesus Christ. God is using your spouse to bring you an eternal reward.
Before hitting send, ask yourself, "Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?"
Wives, to energize your husband do an activity with him, shoulder-to-shoulder, without talking.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
When parents genuinely trust and follow the Lord and His ways, their faith spills over onto the children.
