Love and Respect Coaster (6) Set
A set of six premium leather coasters, each stamped with the Love & Respect logo. A perfect gift or an item to use in your Love and Respect small group. Or consider purchasing with our Love & Respect mug set. Made by Saddleback Leather Co.










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Love and Respect Coasters
Set of 6
Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Over-Engineering: This leather product is over-engineered with no breakable parts like zippers, snaps, buttons, etc. It's built with the largest pieces of leather possible so there are fewer seams, sewn at only 5 stitches per inch so there's more leather between the needle holes and fewer holes to start a tear.
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What is it Made Of?
The strongest to be found (full-grain boot leather, but thicker), and the pigskin lining is stronger than the cow leather. The thread is unbelievably strong industrial marine grade UV resistant polyester thread.

Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
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Money squabbles don’t undermine love and respect; they simply reveal unloving and disrespectful attitudes, which are the real reason why a marriage can start to wobble on the Crazy Cycle.
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
Don’t pressure yourself with perfection. We are going to fail. A righteous man falls 7 times but gets back up.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
At the very bottom of things, in every case and in every conversation, you can do your marriage a huge favor by assuming she is seeking to feel loved or he is seeking to feel respected and give your spouse some grace!
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
Thank the Lord that in the very beginning He created them male and female – Blue and Pink. Ask Him for patience and ever-growing understanding of how men and women see and hear differently. “He created them male and female, and He blessed them.” (Genesis 5:2)
Unconditional love or respect is never wasted. Hang onto this promise: “Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary” (Galatians 6:9).
God’s commands are there to help us, not to hinder us or hold us back as male and female.
Husbands, to energize your wife give her face-to-face time, allowing her to talk and share her feelings.
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
A marriage relationship will be energized when couples learn how to motivate each other God’s way.
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
There is a discrepancy between who we want to be and see ourselves to be and how we actually sound in voice and writing. But with self-reflection and honesty, we can turn the corner and improve our communication. We need only evaluate what we are about to communicate.
As a wife, if you can start to understand how important your husband’s work is to him, you will take a giant step toward communicating respect and honor, two things that he values even more than your love.
We must bring our identity in Christ to our parenting—we must not derive our identity from our children.
[Husbands] the most powerful weapons you have are your ears. Just listen to your wife, and she is much more likely to feel understood.
[Women], your self-love cannot be derived from your husband’s love. It can affect it, but it does not determine it.
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
Being a person who communicates what is true frequently demands tact, and at times it can feel like sidestepping land mines. It takes work to be both truthful and tactful.
We are either going to give in the darkness or we are going to give into the darkness.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
Christian maturity involves a lot of things, but surely it includes knowing how to process your anger.
She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
In the ultimate sense you marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship with Jesus Christ.
Do you understand that God feels compassion for you, no matter what you have done or what your circumstances may be?
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
Mutual understanding, not communication, is the key to a healthy marriage relationship.
If we subscribe to the belief that because we are equal we are the same, then we’re going to expect our spouse to respond the way we do.
When parents genuinely trust and follow the Lord and His ways, their faith spills over onto the children.
Optimism or pessimism? It is always a choice, no matter what your natural temperament.
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
Before hitting send, ask yourself, "Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?"
Clearly, in the marriage, in the family and in the household, when you speak words of blessing, you are speaking to the Lord, and for this you will be rewarded.
God is not trying to trick you or mess with you. Trust that He wants to reveal Himself to you just as much as He wants to reveal Himself to the world.
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
Thank the Lord for all the trouble-free moments in which you and your spouse enjoy Him, each other, your family, your ministry and life as a whole. Ask Him for the strength to accept your measure of trouble, and the wisdom to deal with the annoyances and irritations by loving and respecting each other with new commitment. (You may also want to pray about troubles at work, at church, with the children…) “But those who marry will have trouble in this life” (1 Corinthians 7:28)
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration or anger, but you always have a choice. A wife can choose to be disrespectful or respectful. A husband can choose to be unloving or loving.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
You both forgive for one simple but profound reason: because you know Christ has forgiven you!
Marriage is a test of how you unconditionally love and respect your spouse as you obey, honor, and please the Lord.
Most marriages will succeed when obeying the command to Love and Respect.
Positive changes flood a relationship immediately when both husband and wife cancel the blame game!
“Living happily ever after” means knowing how to deal with the imperfect parts of life.
The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.
Research and experience prove that men and women see and hear differently. Recognizing these differences and adjusting to them is absolutely necessary for reaching mutual understanding and better communication.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
Your marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for Jesus Christ. God is using your spouse to bring you an eternal reward.
One thing to remember in this culture is if we say something complimentary towards one gender, we aren’t saying something against the other.
Through Jesus and Peter, God set forth His standard for living in the unconditional dimension: choose to be loving even when the other person is not; do what is right regardless of the treatment you receive. I believe this standard applies directly to marriage. A husband who speaks lovingly to his disrespectful wife will be rewarded; and a wife who speaks respectfully to her unloving, not-worthy-of-respect husband will be rewarded. Whether you are husband or wife, the reward is what can keep you going in the midst of the craziness: knowing that God commends you, knowing that you have found his favor for your words and actions.
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed, “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25).
When there is confusion, I try to refrain from attacking another for not listening carefully (which may not be the case). Instead, I take a run at communicating again, but more clearly.
Often both spouses have goodwill but are not deciphering each other’s code. She criticizes out of love, but he “hears” only disrespect. He distances himself to prevent feelings from escalating, which is the honorable thing to do, but she “sees” only his failure to be loving!
To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
Above all trust God when the “whys” of life threaten to overwhelm you.
Words of Love and Respect must include thankfulness spoken to or about your spouse; don’t fixate on weaknesses and faults.
Clarifying is what you do before you step on your mate’s air hose and deflate his or her spirit. For example, you are having a typical conversation, but you can tell there is a misunderstanding. One of you isn’t being clear or isn’t hearing correctly. Then and there you clarify the misunderstanding before your spouse’s spirit deflates. You lovingly or respectfully clarify matters so that your spouse will not feel unloved or disrespected. The reason you take pains to clarify a seemingly small matter is to prevent the situation from becoming a love and respect issue that needs decoding. Clarifying is what you do to stay off the Crazy Cycle and keep positive, energetic feelings flowing between the two of you, to keep yourselves on the Energizing Cycle.
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
The Lord made women (Pink) and men (Blue) with differences, and He expects us to recognize and deal with those differences in a loving and respectful way.
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
We might say that every negative action in the family has an equal and opposite negative reaction.
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25)
When a husband chooses to come across lovingly even though he feels disrespected, he can prevent the Crazy Cycle from spinning and possibly getting out of control.
A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
When evil comes at you, you’re the one who makes the choice of whether or not it is going to go into you.
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
