Love and Respect Coaster (6) Set
A set of six premium leather coasters, each stamped with the Love & Respect logo. A perfect gift or an item to use in your Love and Respect small group. Or consider purchasing with our Love & Respect mug set. Made by Saddleback Leather Co.










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Love and Respect Coasters
Set of 6
Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Over-Engineering: This leather product is over-engineered with no breakable parts like zippers, snaps, buttons, etc. It's built with the largest pieces of leather possible so there are fewer seams, sewn at only 5 stitches per inch so there's more leather between the needle holes and fewer holes to start a tear.
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What is it Made Of?
The strongest to be found (full-grain boot leather, but thicker), and the pigskin lining is stronger than the cow leather. The thread is unbelievably strong industrial marine grade UV resistant polyester thread.

Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
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How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
If a husband chooses to be a peacemaker--taking the needs and concerns of his wife totally into account during any kind of argument or conflict--his wife will be motivated in turn to respond to his authority during stalemates.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.
In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ.
Both Judas and Peter denied Jesus Christ, but there is a huge difference between a Judas and a Peter.
[Women], your self-love cannot be derived from your husband’s love. It can affect it, but it does not determine it.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
Research and experience prove that men and women see and hear differently. Recognizing these differences and adjusting to them is absolutely necessary for reaching mutual understanding and better communication.
I have concluded that those of us in the church who believe we have the Truth are not using the whole truth. A crucial part of God’s Word has been completely ignored, or perhaps simply gone unnoticed, when it has been there right under our noses the whole time! Many Christian spouses know Ephesians 5:33 and can at least paraphrase it. The Apostle Paul tells husbands to love their wives as much as they love themselves, and wives are to respect their husbands. But is anyone really listening? Perhaps the first step to better communication between husband and wife is to hear what God’s Word clearly says. --Emerson
Responding to offensive words or actions with your own offensive words and actions is damaging and unproductive.
[Husbands] do you realize the power of just holding your wife’s hand?
Clearly, in the marriage, in the family and in the household, when you speak words of blessing, you are speaking to the Lord, and for this you will be rewarded.
The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
Don’t pressure yourself with perfection. We are going to fail. A righteous man falls 7 times but gets back up.
When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
To get offended is easy, but to forgive is within your power as you walk in His steps.
When parents genuinely trust and follow the Lord and His ways, their faith spills over onto the children.
Here is the secret to marriage that every couple seeks and yet few find: Unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret that will help you achieve a brand new level of intimacy.
You speak lovingly or respectfully no matter how your spouse may speak to you in return. Your spouse is not the reason--good or bad--why you speak unconditional words of love or respect. God is the reason, and as you depend on Him, you will become increasingly able to speak lovingly and respectfully to your spouse.
She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.
Marriage is a test of how you unconditionally love and respect your spouse as you obey, honor, and please the Lord.
Your marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for Jesus Christ. God is using your spouse to bring you an eternal reward.
Husbands, even Jesus Himself was asked by a woman, “Do you not care?” (Luke 10:40) When your wife accuses you of not caring, decode her deeper meaning.
When Jesus said “turn the other cheek,” He wasn’t saying to be passive wimps. He was teaching that physically people can control you but if you turn and give the other cheek, suddenly you’re in control and you’re making the choices.
We all need to wrestle with the spiritual truth that God is good. If you don’t believe God is good, you won’t trust His word. If you don’t trust His word, you will find excuses to ignore His commands.
It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.
When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
When there is confusion, I try to refrain from attacking another for not listening carefully (which may not be the case). Instead, I take a run at communicating again, but more clearly.
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
As mature men, we need to take leadership and put this out on the table. We must acknowledge our feelings- we need to feel respected. However, as we do this we must acknowledge our wife’s feelings- she needs to feel loved!
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
When evil comes at you, you’re the one who makes the choice of whether or not it is going to go into you.
Although the Crazy Cycle is not what God intends for any marriage, all couples get on it at times from one degree to another.
You must “ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves.”
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.
Clarifying is what you do before you step on your mate’s air hose and deflate his or her spirit. For example, you are having a typical conversation, but you can tell there is a misunderstanding. One of you isn’t being clear or isn’t hearing correctly. Then and there you clarify the misunderstanding before your spouse’s spirit deflates. You lovingly or respectfully clarify matters so that your spouse will not feel unloved or disrespected. The reason you take pains to clarify a seemingly small matter is to prevent the situation from becoming a love and respect issue that needs decoding. Clarifying is what you do to stay off the Crazy Cycle and keep positive, energetic feelings flowing between the two of you, to keep yourselves on the Energizing Cycle.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
The woman absolutely needs love, and the man absolutely needs respect. It’s as simple- and as difficult- as that.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
Your spouse has a need that you don’t have. Are you going to say there is something seriously wrong with them or will you say “Viva la Difference”?
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
God is not pink. God is not blue. God is purple. When two become one, they have the potential of displaying God’s attributes and character.
She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.
[Husbands] the most powerful weapons you have are your ears. Just listen to your wife, and she is much more likely to feel understood.
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
We might say that every negative action in the family has an equal and opposite negative reaction.
Do you understand that God feels compassion for you, no matter what you have done or what your circumstances may be?
Whether visiting a prison, feeding the hungry, giving the thirsty a drink or speaking a word of love or respect, everything is to be done to and for Christ.
When a wife feels unloved, it can be such a shock to her heart that she is oblivious to her disrespectful reactions toward her husband, though any man watching could see it plainly.
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
The Lord made women (Pink) and men (Blue) with differences, and He expects us to recognize and deal with those differences in a loving and respectful way.
When you’re truly Christ-centered, instead of child-centered, you will be a more effective parent in the long run.
Truth will carry its own weight if delivered respectfully and lovingly.
When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation. Now he is responsible for both love and respect in the relationship. He must unconditionally love his wife and earn her respect.
[Women], as you enter quiet dignity, not preaching at your husband or scolding him as though you were his mother, something happens in his soul as a male.
Do you believe that there is a God who really loves you and wants to help you?
A strong woman of dignity puts on respect out of her love and reverence for Jesus Christ. She trusts that His word not only protects and empowers her, but also rewards her with incomprehensible eternal blessings.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
Thank God for His forgiveness of your mistakes. In trying to be a loving man or a respectful woman, we blow it. Owning up to mistakes is never easy, but it is always the way to move forward. Take good care not to accuse your spouse of mistakes as you pray. Also, pray about any forgiving to be done in the family, any forgiveness that needs to be asked. Children may need forgiveness (and what about Mom and Dad?). “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
Through Jesus and Peter, God set forth His standard for living in the unconditional dimension: choose to be loving even when the other person is not; do what is right regardless of the treatment you receive. I believe this standard applies directly to marriage. A husband who speaks lovingly to his disrespectful wife will be rewarded; and a wife who speaks respectfully to her unloving, not-worthy-of-respect husband will be rewarded. Whether you are husband or wife, the reward is what can keep you going in the midst of the craziness: knowing that God commends you, knowing that you have found his favor for your words and actions.
