Love and Respect Coaster (6) Set
A set of six premium leather coasters, each stamped with the Love & Respect logo. A perfect gift or an item to use in your Love and Respect small group. Or consider purchasing with our Love & Respect mug set. Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Over-Engineering: This leather product is over-engineered with no breakable parts like zippers, snaps, buttons, etc. It's built with the largest pieces of leather possible so there are fewer seams, sewn at only 5 stitches per inch so there's more leather between the needle holes and fewer holes to start a tear.
What is it Made Of?
The strongest to be found (full-grain boot leather, but thicker), and the pigskin lining is stronger than the cow leather. The thread is unbelievably strong industrial marine grade UV resistant polyester thread.
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.About Love & Respect
Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.
We have to step back as Christ followers and ask, “Do I have false expectations that my relationship should be romantic 99% of the time?”
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
Words of Love and Respect must include thankfulness spoken to or about your spouse; don’t fixate on weaknesses and faults.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
“With eyes of faith, envision Jesus standing just beyond the shoulder of your spouse and listening to every word you speak in every conversation, pleasant or tense. When you speak lovingly or respectfully to your spouse, you are speaking to Christ. Your spouse just happens to be there too.” This truth has sanctified the lips of many. Instead of giving their spouse a verbal whipping or choking on the idea of saying anything positive, now some spouses are motivated to speak words of unconditional love or respect.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
When you’re truly Christ-centered, instead of child-centered, you will be a more effective parent in the long run.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
Thank God for joining you together and for allowing you to trust Him to help you, whatever the issue. God is there for you and expects you to look to Him to keep you together as a team, so ask Him for His help in the smallest of concerns. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
We all need to wrestle with the spiritual truth that God is good. If you don’t believe God is good, you won’t trust His word. If you don’t trust His word, you will find excuses to ignore His commands.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
Holding back your love or respect will just keep the Crazy Cycle spinning away, but being mature and making the first move could slow it down.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.
Mistakes can’t be undone, but they can be forgiven.
Clearly, in the marriage, in the family and in the household, when you speak words of blessing, you are speaking to the Lord, and for this you will be rewarded.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.
The Lord made women (Pink) and men (Blue) with differences, and He expects us to recognize and deal with those differences in a loving and respectful way.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
Don’t pressure yourself with perfection. We are going to fail. A righteous man falls 7 times but gets back up.
Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.
Christian maturity involves a lot of things, but surely it includes knowing how to process your anger.
Feeling unloved, a wife gets defensive and acts offensively without respect. Feeling disrespected, a husband gets defensive and acts offensively without love.
God is good and wants what is best for us.
His love blesses regardless of her respect; her respect blesses regardless of his love.
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
Research and experience prove that men and women see and hear differently. Recognizing these differences and adjusting to them is absolutely necessary for reaching mutual understanding and better communication.
Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
Be friendly. Be friendly. Be friendly. Watch what happens.
Your spouse may meet many of your needs, but your deepest dependency should be on your Lord.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean the other person is offensive.
When a husband chooses to do or say something loving, and that includes saying, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way,’ he energizes his wife. When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.
If a husband chooses to be a peacemaker--taking the needs and concerns of his wife totally into account during any kind of argument or conflict--his wife will be motivated in turn to respond to his authority during stalemates.
Assume goodwill about the person you are in conflict with.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
When confronting your spouse, attack the behavior, not the person.
As strong and powerful as marriage bonds can become, our deepest dependency must be on the Lord, not another human being.
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
Love and Respect is a faith venture, not a formula.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
“You can be right, but wrong at the top of your voice.”
Marriage is a tool and a test to allow God’s will to be revealed in our lives.
He will feel appreciated when you recognize his problem-solving approach as his male brand of empathy.
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.
Wives, to energize your husband do an activity with him, shoulder-to-shoulder, without talking.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
God is not pink. God is not blue. God is purple. When two become one, they have the potential of displaying God’s attributes and character.
The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.
So I encourage every husband and wife to commit to the Jesus Way of Talking. Instead of allowing the stress of the situation to control you, you can say to yourself, “Because I love the Lord and I know that He rewards every good word, I am going to be truthful even if my spouse is not. I will also be uplifting, forgiving, thankful and scriptural in my speech because my ultimate goal is to please the Lord. Whatever my spouse’s weaknesses or bad habits might be, I will not let them cause me to sin with my lips.”
In your marriage be the first to “seek peace and pursue it” (1 Peter 3:11)
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
Refuse to let evil turn you into a contemptuous and hateful person.
When a wife insists that her husband earn her respect, she puts him in a lose-lose situation.
You can experience hurt, but it is your choice to hate.
Always try to look at your spouse the way Jesus does.
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
When others do not respond to our communication, we need to look first at our communication style. Is the other person incapable of hearing what we have to say? Or are we abrupt, brusque, and curt?
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
Though the end can be worthy (to be loved and respected), when each uses unholy means (unloving and disrespectful words and actions), it will not achieve those ends. We must treat others as we expect them to treat us. To deny this makes us arrogant or fools, or both.
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
Before hitting send, ask yourself, Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
Be a part of the solution, not part of the problem.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.
If a husband is commanded to agape- love his wife, then she truly needs love.
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
When there is confusion, I try to refrain from attacking another for not listening carefully (which may not be the case). Instead, I take a run at communicating again, but more clearly.
Ladies, be careful. “A nagging wife goes on and on like the drip, drip, drip of the rain” (Proverbs 19:13).
When sorting out how to slow down the Crazy Cycle, it helps to remember that men are commanded to love because they don’t love naturally, and on the other side, women are commanded to respect because they don’t respect naturally.
Words of love from a husband are like good medicine that brings life to the marriage.
It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.
One thing to remember in this culture is if we say something complimentary towards one gender, we aren’t saying something against the other.
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.
Truth will carry its own weight if delivered respectfully and lovingly.
When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.
If a husband loves his wife as he should, she will feel honored and respected. If a wife respects her husband as she should, he will feel loved and appreciated. It’s a win-win.
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
Unconditional respect is as powerful to him as unconditional love is to her.
You both forgive for one simple but profound reason: because you know Christ has forgiven you!
Men are solution oriented, they love to solve problems. They want to be helpful.
There is power and freedom that comes in understanding that no one can cause you to react in a certain way. It is your choice.
Let the Lord change you, but don’t try to change each other.