Love and Respect Coaster (6) Set
A set of six premium leather coasters, each stamped with the Love & Respect logo. A perfect gift or an item to use in your Love and Respect small group. Or consider purchasing with our Love & Respect mug set. Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
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Love and Respect Coasters
Set of 6
Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Over-Engineering: This leather product is over-engineered with no breakable parts like zippers, snaps, buttons, etc. It's built with the largest pieces of leather possible so there are fewer seams, sewn at only 5 stitches per inch so there's more leather between the needle holes and fewer holes to start a tear.
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What is it Made Of?
The strongest to be found (full-grain boot leather, but thicker), and the pigskin lining is stronger than the cow leather. The thread is unbelievably strong industrial marine grade UV resistant polyester thread.
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Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & Respect![Portrait of Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs](https://cdn.prod.website-files.com/6033bb06812d4c6b521b0c9e/6358071044f06a436d1839ac_image%2078%20(1).jpg)
Product Quotes
When you’re truly Christ-centered, instead of child-centered, you will be a more effective parent in the long run.
Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
As strong and powerful as marriage bonds can become, our deepest dependency must be on the Lord, not another human being.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
There is a discrepancy between who we want to be and see ourselves to be and how we actually sound in voice and writing. But with self-reflection and honesty, we can turn the corner and improve our communication. We need only evaluate what we are about to communicate.
When a husband chooses to come across lovingly even though he feels disrespected, he can prevent the Crazy Cycle from spinning and possibly getting out of control.
Ladies, be careful. “A nagging wife goes on and on like the drip, drip, drip of the rain” (Proverbs 19:13).
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
Clarifying is what you do before you step on your mate’s air hose and deflate his or her spirit. For example, you are having a typical conversation, but you can tell there is a misunderstanding. One of you isn’t being clear or isn’t hearing correctly. Then and there you clarify the misunderstanding before your spouse’s spirit deflates. You lovingly or respectfully clarify matters so that your spouse will not feel unloved or disrespected. The reason you take pains to clarify a seemingly small matter is to prevent the situation from becoming a love and respect issue that needs decoding. Clarifying is what you do to stay off the Crazy Cycle and keep positive, energetic feelings flowing between the two of you, to keep yourselves on the Energizing Cycle.
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
Trusting and obeying God’s Word because we love and reverence God never, ever makes us a hypocrite! When the alarm goes off in the morning, we get up, even when we don’t feel like it getting up. Because we do what we don’t feel like doing, does that make us hypocrites? No, it’s a sign we are responsible people. Showing respectful behavior when we don’t “feel respectful” is evidence of maturity.
A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.
Do you believe that there is a God who really loves you and wants to help you?
When others do not respond to our communication, we need to look first at our communication style. Is the other person incapable of hearing what we have to say? Or are we abrupt, brusque, and curt?
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
The difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that successful ones keep getting up and dealing with the issues.
Mutual understanding, not communication, is the key to a healthy marriage relationship.
Thank God for His forgiveness of your mistakes. In trying to be a loving man or a respectful woman, we blow it. Owning up to mistakes is never easy, but it is always the way to move forward. Take good care not to accuse your spouse of mistakes as you pray. Also, pray about any forgiving to be done in the family, any forgiveness that needs to be asked. Children may need forgiveness (and what about Mom and Dad?). “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
When you love or respect unconditionally regardless of the outcome, you are following God and His will for you.
You may believe that the careless, unloving or disrespectful words you speak are because your spouse is causing you to speak this way, but Jesus says that it is coming out of your heart.
When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
Money squabbles don’t undermine love and respect; they simply reveal unloving and disrespectful attitudes, which are the real reason why a marriage can start to wobble on the Crazy Cycle.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
When a husband chooses to do or say something loving, and that includes saying, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way,’ he energizes his wife. When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.
We have to step back as Christ followers and ask, “Do I have false expectations that my relationship should be romantic 99% of the time?”
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
As a wife, if you can start to understand how important your husband’s work is to him, you will take a giant step toward communicating respect and honor, two things that he values even more than your love.
We all need to wrestle with the spiritual truth that God is good. If you don’t believe God is good, you won’t trust His word. If you don’t trust His word, you will find excuses to ignore His commands.
Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?
He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
To build a lasting legacy, use proven wisdom that you glean from the Lord.
You speak lovingly or respectfully no matter how your spouse may speak to you in return. Your spouse is not the reason--good or bad--why you speak unconditional words of love or respect. God is the reason, and as you depend on Him, you will become increasingly able to speak lovingly and respectfully to your spouse.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
Whether visiting a prison, feeding the hungry, giving the thirsty a drink or speaking a word of love or respect, everything is to be done to and for Christ.
When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
Don’t conclude that your spouse is wrong when he/she is seeking to do the right and righteous thing.
Feeling unloved, a wife gets defensive and acts offensively without respect. Feeling disrespected, a husband gets defensive and acts offensively without love.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
Although the Crazy Cycle is not what God intends for any marriage, all couples get on it at times from one degree to another.
Above all trust God when the “whys” of life threaten to overwhelm you.
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.
When we speak before we think, we widen the chances the other person(s) will be notably hurt, frustrated, confused, angry, fearful, or offended by something we’ve communicated.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
Your spouse may meet many of your needs, but your deepest dependency should be on your Lord.
We have different vulnerabilities. We can pass judgment on one another all day long or we can say God made us different and that’s ok.
Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.
[Women], as you enter quiet dignity, not preaching at your husband or scolding him as though you were his mother, something happens in his soul as a male.
Marriage is a test of how you unconditionally love and respect your spouse as you obey, honor, and please the Lord.
Positive changes flood a relationship immediately when both husband and wife cancel the blame game!
If husbands and wives are to understand the Love and Respect Connection, they must realize that they communicate in code. And the problem is, they don’t know how to decipher the messages they send to one another.
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
In the ultimate sense you marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship with Jesus Christ.
The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
Don’t label each other as bad because you differ on how you solve your troubles.
God rewards your obedience to love and respect, even if your spouse does not respond!
Thank the Lord that in the very beginning He created them male and female – Blue and Pink. Ask Him for patience and ever-growing understanding of how men and women see and hear differently. “He created them male and female, and He blessed them.” (Genesis 5:2)
When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation. Now he is responsible for both love and respect in the relationship. He must unconditionally love his wife and earn her respect.
Holding back your love or respect will just keep the Crazy Cycle spinning away, but being mature and making the first move could slow it down.
Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.
Don’t pressure yourself with perfection. We are going to fail. A righteous man falls 7 times but gets back up.
When we feel crippling discouragement by the sinful choices and outcomes of our kids, we must not let this permanently deter us from parenting God’s way.
“With eyes of faith, envision Jesus standing just beyond the shoulder of your spouse and listening to every word you speak in every conversation, pleasant or tense. When you speak lovingly or respectfully to your spouse, you are speaking to Christ. Your spouse just happens to be there too.” This truth has sanctified the lips of many. Instead of giving their spouse a verbal whipping or choking on the idea of saying anything positive, now some spouses are motivated to speak words of unconditional love or respect.
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