Husband & Wife Mug Set and Coaster
The perfect wedding, anniversary or “just because” gift, the coaster and husband and wife coffee mug set will be the perfect addition to anyone's morning routine or small group experience. 6 premium leather coasters with logo (Saddleback Leather Co.).
Love & Respect Coaster and Mug Set
Husband and Wife
Timeless Ceramic Mugs
Experience a hint of nostalgia with our traditional ceramic custom diner mugs, reminiscent of simpler times. These 11 oz. ceramic mugs boast a sturdy build, glossy exterior, slight top and bottom flare, and a thick curved grip for easy handling. They make a perfect addition to your mug collection, adding a touch of charm to your daily coffee or tea enjoyment. Let these timeless mugs transport you to cherished memories as you sip your favorite beverages in comfort and style.
Coasters
Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Over-Engineering: This leather product is over-engineered with no breakable parts like zippers, snaps, buttons, etc. It's built with the largest pieces of leather possible so there are fewer seams, sewn at only 5 stitches per inch so there's more leather between the needle holes and fewer holes to start a tear.
Materials: The strongest to be found (full-grain boot leather, but thicker), and the pigskin lining is stronger than the cow leather. The thread is unbelievably strong industrial marine grade UV resistant polyester thread.
Dimensions (W x H)
Coasters: 4.75" x 3.75"
Coaster Holder: 4.75 x 4"
Weight: 0.80 lbs
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
[Women], as you enter quiet dignity, not preaching at your husband or scolding him as though you were his mother, something happens in his soul as a male.
Unconditional respect, like unconditional love, is all about how one sounds (tone of voice and word choice) and appears (facial expressions and physical actions).
There is a plan to parent God’s way, even when our children may seek to go their own way at time. The secret is to follow this plan regardless. When you do, I believe you succeed in His eyes.
Above all trust God when the “whys” of life threaten to overwhelm you.
When a husband chooses to come across lovingly even though he feels disrespected, he can prevent the Crazy Cycle from spinning and possibly getting out of control.
You must “ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves.”
I had often asked God to compensate for my mistakes, but in return had I thought He would give me perfect children?
Unconditional respect is as powerful to him as unconditional love is to her.
The heart of my communication means the other person cannot get my heart to be unkind, unloving, or disrespectful. Instead, I have made a decision about who I will be independent of the other person. I won’t blame my unkindness on someone else.
It’s so easy to dismiss our spouse as childish because we don’t have the same vulnerabilities they do.
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
Before hitting send, ask yourself, "Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?"
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.
Thank God for joining you together and for allowing you to trust Him to help you, whatever the issue. God is there for you and expects you to look to Him to keep you together as a team, so ask Him for His help in the smallest of concerns. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
Troubles over sex and money do not cause a marriage to go under. The lack of love and respect during conflict cause the marriage to go under.
Feeling unloved, a wife gets defensive and acts offensively without respect. Feeling disrespected, a husband gets defensive and acts offensively without love.
Thank the Lord that in the very beginning He created them male and female – Blue and Pink. Ask Him for patience and ever-growing understanding of how men and women see and hear differently. “He created them male and female, and He blessed them.” (Genesis 5:2)
You may believe that the careless, unloving or disrespectful words you speak are because your spouse is causing you to speak this way, but Jesus says that it is coming out of your heart.
We all need love and respect equally. But, during conflict our felt needs are as different as pink is from blue.
Husbands, to energize your wife give her face-to-face time, allowing her to talk and share her feelings.
Always remember that Pink and Blue have different wiring, different preferences. Assume your spouse has goodwill toward you, no matter what. Both of you can be right, while being different.
She’s not wrong for not being male. He is not wrong for not being female. When you put pink and blue together, you get purple, the color of royalty; the color of God. Together, a husband and wife reflect God’s image.
So I encourage every husband and wife to commit to the Jesus Way of Talking. Instead of allowing the stress of the situation to control you, you can say to yourself, “Because I love the Lord and I know that He rewards every good word, I am going to be truthful even if my spouse is not. I will also be uplifting, forgiving, thankful and scriptural in my speech because my ultimate goal is to please the Lord. Whatever my spouse’s weaknesses or bad habits might be, I will not let them cause me to sin with my lips.”
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
Share what God is saying to your heart, not what you think He needs to say to your mate.
Your spouse deserves the truth from you. Do your best to tell it with love and respect.
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
If you want your wife to express appreciation for your attempts to be loving, you must use thankful words when she tries to speak or act respectfully.
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
Stay the course regardless of the child’s respect and obedience. This is the Family Rewarded Cycle: a parents love unto Christ regardless of the child.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration, or anger, but you always have a choice.
The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
Christian maturity involves a lot of things, but surely it includes knowing how to process your anger.
When we speak before we think, we widen the chances the other person(s) will be notably hurt, frustrated, confused, angry, fearful, or offended by something we’ve communicated.
We might say that every negative action in the family has an equal and opposite negative reaction.
Your spouse has a need that you don’t have. Are you going to say there is something seriously wrong with them or will you say “Viva la Difference”?
One thing to remember in this culture is if we say something complimentary towards one gender, we aren’t saying something against the other.
If a husband chooses to be a peacemaker--taking the needs and concerns of his wife totally into account during any kind of argument or conflict--his wife will be motivated in turn to respond to his authority during stalemates.
A strong woman of dignity puts on respect out of her love and reverence for Jesus Christ. She trusts that His word not only protects and empowers her, but also rewards her with incomprehensible eternal blessings.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
Holding back your love or respect will just keep the Crazy Cycle spinning away, but being mature and making the first move could slow it down.
I often stress that one of the greatest rewards any persevering spouse can have is being a good example and influence on the children in the family.
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
When others do not respond to our communication, we need to look first at our communication style. Is the other person incapable of hearing what we have to say? Or are we abrupt, brusque, and curt?
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
“Living happily ever after” means knowing how to deal with the imperfect parts of life.
Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?
Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
When evil comes at you, you’re the one who makes the choice of whether or not it is going to go into you.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
No one can really practice Love and Respect unless he or she does it as unto Jesus Christ.
He will feel appreciated when you disagree with him only in private and honor his authority in front of the kids.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
Your husband knows you value his friendship when you tell him you like him and you show it (he knows you love him, but he often wonders if you really like him).
Whether visiting a prison, feeding the hungry, giving the thirsty a drink or speaking a word of love or respect, everything is to be done to and for Christ.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
Thank the Lord for all the trouble-free moments in which you and your spouse enjoy Him, each other, your family, your ministry and life as a whole. Ask Him for the strength to accept your measure of trouble, and the wisdom to deal with the annoyances and irritations by loving and respecting each other with new commitment. (You may also want to pray about troubles at work, at church, with the children…) “But those who marry will have trouble in this life” (1 Corinthians 7:28)
When you love or respect unconditionally regardless of the outcome, you are following God and His will for you.
We are either going to give in the darkness or we are going to give into the darkness.
[Husbands] do you realize the power of just holding your wife’s hand?
Do you believe that there is a God who really loves you and wants to help you?
When there is confusion, I try to refrain from attacking another for not listening carefully (which may not be the case). Instead, I take a run at communicating again, but more clearly.
Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative with lots of love and respect in between.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
The moment we cry to Him for help, He is already pleased. He gives us strength to love our children.
Being a person who communicates what is true frequently demands tact, and at times it can feel like sidestepping land mines. It takes work to be both truthful and tactful.
If we subscribe to the belief that because we are equal we are the same, then we’re going to expect our spouse to respond the way we do.
I have concluded that those of us in the church who believe we have the Truth are not using the whole truth. A crucial part of God’s Word has been completely ignored, or perhaps simply gone unnoticed, when it has been there right under our noses the whole time! Many Christian spouses know Ephesians 5:33 and can at least paraphrase it. The Apostle Paul tells husbands to love their wives as much as they love themselves, and wives are to respect their husbands. But is anyone really listening? Perhaps the first step to better communication between husband and wife is to hear what God’s Word clearly says. --Emerson