Husband & Wife Mug Set and Coaster
The perfect wedding, anniversary or “just because” gift, the coaster and husband and wife coffee mug set will be the perfect addition to anyone's morning routine or small group experience. 6 premium leather coasters with logo (Saddleback Leather Co.).
Love & Respect Coaster and Mug Set
Husband and Wife
Timeless Ceramic Mugs
Experience a hint of nostalgia with our traditional ceramic custom diner mugs, reminiscent of simpler times. These 11 oz. ceramic mugs boast a sturdy build, glossy exterior, slight top and bottom flare, and a thick curved grip for easy handling. They make a perfect addition to your mug collection, adding a touch of charm to your daily coffee or tea enjoyment. Let these timeless mugs transport you to cherished memories as you sip your favorite beverages in comfort and style.
Coasters
Made by Saddleback Leather Co.
Over-Engineering: This leather product is over-engineered with no breakable parts like zippers, snaps, buttons, etc. It's built with the largest pieces of leather possible so there are fewer seams, sewn at only 5 stitches per inch so there's more leather between the needle holes and fewer holes to start a tear.
Materials: The strongest to be found (full-grain boot leather, but thicker), and the pigskin lining is stronger than the cow leather. The thread is unbelievably strong industrial marine grade UV resistant polyester thread.
Dimensions (W x H)
Coasters: 4.75" x 3.75"
Coaster Holder: 4.75 x 4"
Weight: 0.80 lbs
Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
About Love & RespectProduct Quotes
The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.
Parenting is a faith venture. As we parent “unto Christ” we reap God’s reward, “knowing that whatever good anyone does, he will receive the same from the Lord” (Eph. 6:8 NKJV)
I have concluded that those of us in the church who believe we have the Truth are not using the whole truth. A crucial part of God’s Word has been completely ignored, or perhaps simply gone unnoticed, when it has been there right under our noses the whole time! Many Christian spouses know Ephesians 5:33 and can at least paraphrase it. The Apostle Paul tells husbands to love their wives as much as they love themselves, and wives are to respect their husbands. But is anyone really listening? Perhaps the first step to better communication between husband and wife is to hear what God’s Word clearly says. --Emerson
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
God designed the woman to love. He’s not going to command her to agape her husband when He created her to do that in the first place. God is not into redundancy.
If you want your wife to express appreciation for your attempts to be loving, you must use thankful words when she tries to speak or act respectfully.
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
As mature men, we need to take leadership and put this out on the table. We must acknowledge our feelings- we need to feel respected. However, as we do this we must acknowledge our wife’s feelings- she needs to feel loved!
Pink and Blue perceptions not only affect seeing, they affect hearing as well. Women hear with pink hearing aids and men hear with blue hearing aids. Even more important to understand as you and your spouse seek to gain better communication, you can hear the very same words, but each of you will hear different messages.
Clearly, in the marriage, in the family and in the household, when you speak words of blessing, you are speaking to the Lord, and for this you will be rewarded.
Thank the Lord for the goodwill each of you has toward the other. Ask Him for strength to give each other the benefit of the doubt during moments when someone’s goodwill seems to be lacking. “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it.” (Proverbs 11:27)
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
Your wife feels you are open with her when you discuss financial concerns, possible job changes or ideas for your future.
If you are seeking positive change in your marriage, you will need to make a positive change in your attitude and actions.
Often the apparent issue isn’t the real issue; the real issue is always a matter of love or respect.
A strong woman of dignity puts on respect out of her love and reverence for Jesus Christ. She trusts that His word not only protects and empowers her, but also rewards her with incomprehensible eternal blessings.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
Often both spouses have goodwill but are not deciphering each other’s code. She criticizes out of love, but he “hears” only disrespect. He distances himself to prevent feelings from escalating, which is the honorable thing to do, but she “sees” only his failure to be loving!
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
Knowing my spouse will not be able to love or respect me perfectly, I commit to having a forgiving spirit so that I may never speak hatefully or contemptuously.
“With eyes of faith, envision Jesus standing just beyond the shoulder of your spouse and listening to every word you speak in every conversation, pleasant or tense. When you speak lovingly or respectfully to your spouse, you are speaking to Christ. Your spouse just happens to be there too.” This truth has sanctified the lips of many. Instead of giving their spouse a verbal whipping or choking on the idea of saying anything positive, now some spouses are motivated to speak words of unconditional love or respect.
A parent needs to feel respected, especially during conflicts...A child need to feel loved, especially during disputes.
Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy. Giving and receiving constructive feedback is based on feelings of goodwill in both partners. Both of you need to remember that, even if you don’t always agree and even if you become irritated or angry, you are friends, and neither of you means to hurt the other.
If we subscribe to the belief that because we are equal we are the same, then we’re going to expect our spouse to respond the way we do.
This is the Rewarded Cycle: His love blesses regardless of her respect and her respect blesses regardless of his love.
Husbands, even Jesus Himself was asked by a woman, “Do you not care?” (Luke 10:40) When your wife accuses you of not caring, decode her deeper meaning.
When you possess a forgiving spirit, words of Love and Respect will flow authentically from your lips- and realize that the Lord Himself is listening to you at moments like these. He knows you are not powerless, but actually full of power that He has granted you.
Your position in Christ is what counts, not your less-than-perfect performance.
In the ultimate sense, your marriage has nothing to do with your spouse. It has everything to do with your relationship to Jesus Christ.
Husbands, to energize your wife give her face-to-face time, allowing her to talk and share her feelings.
I often stress that one of the greatest rewards any persevering spouse can have is being a good example and influence on the children in the family.
To build a lasting legacy, use proven wisdom that you glean from the Lord.
Your spouse can have a need that you don’t have and that’s okay.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
You’re the only person in the world who can meet your spouse’s deepest need for love and respect. After all, you alone are married to your spouse.
Before hitting send, ask yourself, Have I listened carefully and understand the exact issue on the table?
Accentuate the positive and eliminate the negative with lots of love and respect in between.
Ladies, be careful. “A nagging wife goes on and on like the drip, drip, drip of the rain” (Proverbs 19:13).
Your spouse has a need that you don’t have. Are you going to say there is something seriously wrong with them or will you say “Viva la Difference”?
A husband may deserve contempt, but that doesn’t win him any more than harshness and anger wins the heart of a woman.
When you come home after you have been apart, the first few moments of reconnecting will set the tone for the rest of the evening.
When one of you makes a mistake, control any anger you may feel and trust God completely, no matter what happens.
Never give up. If you want to have a strong marriage, you need to accept temporary setbacks as part of the game.
Marital researchers agree that a huge percentage of communication problems between husband and wife are due not to what is said but to how it is said – the attitude and tone of voice.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
Thank God for joining you together and for allowing you to trust Him to help you, whatever the issue. God is there for you and expects you to look to Him to keep you together as a team, so ask Him for His help in the smallest of concerns. “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
The Love and Respect message is not about a husband earning his wife’s respect by being more loving any more than it is about a wife earning her husband’s love by being more respectful. Always love or respect is given unconditionally according to God’s commands.
Life is too short to fuss and fret over trivial irritations.
Each of you must focus on what God is calling you to do toward your spouse. Do not focus on what you think God is calling your spouse to do toward you.
When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation. Now he is responsible for both love and respect in the relationship. He must unconditionally love his wife and earn her respect.
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
Words of wisdom for all husbands and wives are these: We easily see what is done to us before we see what we are doing to our mate.
Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.
Our research shows that couples who pray together are more apt to reap all kinds of benefits, including better and more frequent communication, going on “dates” more frequently and having sex more frequently.
When your wife comes to talk to you, listen to her. Realize she is coming to you because you matter more to her than anyone else. She has certain emotional needs and only you can meet them. Sometimes she may say things that don’t make sense to you and she is apt to misspeak and exaggerate when she is upset, but don’t put her down. Instead, listen to her heart. Give her a chance to express her concerns and, as she does so, don’t try to fix her. Don’t give her your solutions unless she asks for them.
Men are solution oriented, they love to solve problems. They want to be helpful.
Mutual understanding, not communication, is the key to a healthy marriage relationship.
When you relinquish an offense, you need to send that offense somewhere. So follow Jesus’ example and release it to your heavenly Father.
We get on the Crazy Cycle because without love a wife reacts without respect, and without respect a husband reacts without love.
A man has a natural, inborn desire to go out and “conquer” the challenges of his world – to work and achieve.
How we react to a situation reveals more about us than about the other person.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
You must “ask God from the wealth of his glory to give you power through his Spirit to be strong in your inner selves.”
“Respect is a man’s deepest value. I have had numerous men tell me, ‘I would rather live with a wife who respected me but did not love me than live with a wife who loved me but did not respect me.’ These men are not saying that they are indifferent to love. They know they need love, but they need to feel respected even more than they need to feel loved.“
The Crazy Cycle is, indeed, “the evil of folly and the foolishness of madness” (Ecclesiastes 7:25).
Marriage is a test of how you unconditionally love and respect your spouse as you obey, honor, and please the Lord.
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
Your marriage is really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and reverence for your Lord.
His love motivates her respect. Her respect motivates his love.
If you want your husband to express appreciation for your attempts to be respectful, you must speak thankfully when he tries to be loving.
The Lord made women (Pink) and men (Blue) with differences, and He expects us to recognize and deal with those differences in a loving and respectful way.
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
Mutual submission is the only way to live fairly together with mutual authority.
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
Your spouse deserves the truth from you. Do your best to tell it with love and respect.
When evil comes at you, you’re the one who makes the choice of whether or not it is going to go into you.
Do you understand that God feels compassion for you, no matter what you have done or what your circumstances may be?
We might say that every negative action in the family has an equal and opposite negative reaction.
Here is the secret to marriage that every couple seeks and yet few find: Unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret that will help you achieve a brand new level of intimacy.
The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.
We have to step back as Christ followers and ask, “Do I have false expectations that my relationship should be romantic 99% of the time?”
Avoid like the plague trying to punish each other as a means of “motivation.” Christ-followers instinctively know that this destroys any opportunity to act out of reverence for Christ. In all marital issues, love and reverence for Christ must be our primary motivation.
Positive changes flood a relationship immediately when both husband and wife cancel the blame game!
Always remember that Pink and Blue have different wiring, different preferences. Assume your spouse has goodwill toward you, no matter what. Both of you can be right, while being different.
No matter how difficult your spouse may be at the moment, your spouse does not have control over your reaction; you do. You may be experiencing disappointment, frustration or anger, but you always have a choice. A wife can choose to be disrespectful or respectful. A husband can choose to be unloving or loving.