Love and Respect Wife + Logo Mug
Wives: just can’t reflect without your coffee? Husbands: looking for a loving gift for your wife? They are finally here, mugs from Love and Respect! This mug is a wonderful gift from a loving husband to his wife. Surprise her with this special gift. Or maybe you are a wife going through Respectfully Yours or Motivating Your Man God’s Way – this would be a nice complement to your study time. Anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, weddings, or just because, this mug will look great in the cupboard and in her hand.










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Experience a hint of nostalgia with our traditional ceramic custom diner mugs, reminiscent of simpler times. These 11 oz. ceramic mugs boast a sturdy build, glossy exterior, slight top and bottom flare, and a thick curved grip for easy handling. They make a perfect addition to your mug collection, adding a touch of charm to your daily coffee or tea enjoyment. Let these timeless mugs transport you to cherished memories as you sip your favorite beverages in comfort and style.

Spark Conversations on Marriage, Family, and Faith!
Immerse yourself in captivating conversations about marriage, family, and faith as you sip from our engaging ceramic diner mugs. These mugs are not just ordinary drinkware; they serve as excellent conversation starters among neighbors and friends. Elevate your small group experience by adding these fun and interactive items to the mix. Let the mugs ignite engaging discussions and create lasting memories as you bond over shared experiences and heartfelt conversations.

Emerson and Sarah Eggerichs
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is an internationally known public speaker on the topic of male-female relationships. Based on over three decades of pastoring, counseling and study of biblical and scientific research, Dr. Eggerichs and his wife Sarah developed the Love and Respect Conference which they present to live audiences around the country.
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When there is confusion, I try to refrain from attacking another for not listening carefully (which may not be the case). Instead, I take a run at communicating again, but more clearly.
You have to become proactive, rather than just trying to stop the reactive.
Feeling unloved, a wife gets defensive and acts offensively without respect. Feeling disrespected, a husband gets defensive and acts offensively without love.
Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean the other person is offensive.
There is a discrepancy between who we want to be and see ourselves to be and how we actually sound in voice and writing. But with self-reflection and honesty, we can turn the corner and improve our communication. We need only evaluate what we are about to communicate.
When we speak before we think, we widen the chances the other person(s) will be notably hurt, frustrated, confused, angry, fearful, or offended by something we’ve communicated.
Words of Love and Respect must include thankfulness spoken to or about your spouse; don’t fixate on weaknesses and faults.
Recognize your different gifts--how each of you (Pink and Blue) functions according to God’s perfect design.
A most significant point of this book is this: If what we think is true, kind, necessary, and clear, we need to have the courage to hit send. This isn’t about refraining from speaking; this is about speaking.
Here is the secret to marriage that every couple seeks and yet few find: Unconditional respect is as powerful for him as unconditional love is for her. It’s the secret that will help you achieve a brand new level of intimacy.
The more we are upset at something, the wiser it is to let twenty-four hours pass before responding.
You speak lovingly or respectfully no matter how your spouse may speak to you in return. Your spouse is not the reason--good or bad--why you speak unconditional words of love or respect. God is the reason, and as you depend on Him, you will become increasingly able to speak lovingly and respectfully to your spouse.
Wives, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your husband not only back to you, but to God. Husbands, you never know: The way you handle this [conflict] might bring your wife not only back to you, but to God. (1 Corinthians 7:16)
God’s commands are not burdensome, but are given to us to spare us from more pain. Why would God command you to do something that doesn’t work?
[Women], your self-love cannot be derived from your husband’s love. It can affect it, but it does not determine it.
We must bring our identity in Christ to our parenting—we must not derive our identity from our children.
A wife has one driving need--to feel loved. When that need is met she is happy. A husband has one driving need--to feel respected. When that need is met he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy. Love and Respect reveals why spouses react negatively to each other, and how they can deal with such conflict quickly, easily and biblically.
When you possess a forgiving spirit, words of Love and Respect will flow authentically from your lips- and realize that the Lord Himself is listening to you at moments like these. He knows you are not powerless, but actually full of power that He has granted you.
The heart of my communication means the other person cannot get my heart to be unkind, unloving, or disrespectful. Instead, I have made a decision about who I will be independent of the other person. I won’t blame my unkindness on someone else.
Just because you may feel unloved or disrespected does not mean your spouse is sending that message.
Suppressing negative feelings is not loving, respectful or very wise. Speak up tactfully.
Positive changes flood a relationship immediately when both husband and wife cancel the blame game!
Research shows that 70% of the couples who were extremely unhappy in their marriage, but hung in there and worked through the tough time, identified themselves as being very happy five years later.
The parent-child relationship is as easy, and as difficult, as love and respect.
God is not pink. God is not blue. God is purple. When two become one, they have the potential of displaying God’s attributes and character.
As a wife, if you can start to understand how important your husband’s work is to him, you will take a giant step toward communicating respect and honor, two things that he values even more than your love.
You both forgive for one simple but profound reason: because you know Christ has forgiven you!
“Living happily ever after” means knowing how to deal with the imperfect parts of life.
The difference between successful couples and unsuccessful couples is that successful ones keep getting up and dealing with the issues.
Thank God for His forgiveness of your mistakes. In trying to be a loving man or a respectful woman, we blow it. Owning up to mistakes is never easy, but it is always the way to move forward. Take good care not to accuse your spouse of mistakes as you pray. Also, pray about any forgiving to be done in the family, any forgiveness that needs to be asked. Children may need forgiveness (and what about Mom and Dad?). “There is no one on earth who does what is right all the time and never makes a mistake.” (Ecclesiastes 7:20)
With a better understanding of God’s promises, you will be on your way to a renewed mind and a changed life.
Your spouse deserves the truth from you. Do your best to tell it with love and respect.
Unconditional respect means we confront their wrongdoings respectfully. We do not become uncivil because they are. Who they fail to be does not determine who we will be.
It is crucial for a husband and wife to see that neither one is wrong, but both of them are very different--in body function, outlook and perspective.
To stay the course in speaking words of Love and Respect, keep your heart in Scripture, trusting in and talking about His promises to help you.
A woman needs love like she needs air to breathe. A man needs respect like he needs air to breathe.
Marriage is a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for Jesus Christ.
When we feel crippling discouragement by the sinful choices and outcomes of our kids, we must not let this permanently deter us from parenting God’s way.
When you love or respect unconditionally regardless of the outcome, you are following God and His will for you.
When sorting out how to slow down the Crazy Cycle, it helps to remember that men are commanded to love because they don’t love naturally, and on the other side, women are commanded to respect because they don’t respect naturally.
Always remember that Pink and Blue have different wiring, different preferences. Assume your spouse has goodwill toward you, no matter what. Both of you can be right, while being different.
No one can really practice Love and Respect unless he or she does it as unto Jesus Christ.
When the wife flatly says her husband will have to earn her respect before she gives him any, she leaves the husband in a lose-lose situation. Now he is responsible for both love and respect in the relationship. He must unconditionally love his wife and earn her respect.
It’s crucial to communicate with the right tone of voice and the right expression on your face.
When a husband chooses to do or say something loving, and that includes saying, ‘I’m sorry for coming across in an unloving way,’ he energizes his wife. When a wife decides to express herself respectfully, and that includes apologizing for her disrespectful attitude, she energizes her husband.
If a husband loves his wife as he should, she will feel honored and respected. If a wife respects her husband as she should, he will feel loved and appreciated. It’s a win-win.
When you look to God and His Word as your ultimate source of significance and security, you don’t demand that your spouse take that role in your life. And as you draw strength from the Lord individually, He draws you closer together as a couple.
We blame people for the bad things we do, but take credit for the good things we do.
Clearly, in the marriage, in the family and in the household, when you speak words of blessing, you are speaking to the Lord, and for this you will be rewarded.
Women give a report to build rapport. Men bond through shoulder-to-shoulder activities without talking.
As mature men, we need to take leadership and put this out on the table. We must acknowledge our feelings- we need to feel respected. However, as we do this we must acknowledge our wife’s feelings- she needs to feel loved!
Marriage is a test of how you unconditionally love and respect your spouse as you obey, honor, and please the Lord.
We fool ourselves into thinking the other person causes us to be the way we are. They really don’t! But if we lock into that idea, we become helpless, hopeless victims.
Accidental sparks (unwise remarks) ignite and fuel a fire, and vroom goes the Crazy Cycle.
If you are seeking positive change in your marriage, you will need to make a positive change in your attitude and actions.
To not forgive is to shoot yourself in the foot and put extra gas in the Crazy Cycle.
Being friendly to her man is one of the most effective things a woman can do to strengthen her marriage.
When a wife asks, “Do you love me?” She is not trying to put her husband on the spot. She is simply looking for reassurance.
Words of Love or Respect must uplift your spouse, edifying- never manipulating him or her.
The key to motivating another person is meeting their deepest need, especially during conflict.
Be quick to listen and understand and you have a much better chance of being understood.
Clarifying is what you do before you step on your mate’s air hose and deflate his or her spirit. For example, you are having a typical conversation, but you can tell there is a misunderstanding. One of you isn’t being clear or isn’t hearing correctly. Then and there you clarify the misunderstanding before your spouse’s spirit deflates. You lovingly or respectfully clarify matters so that your spouse will not feel unloved or disrespected. The reason you take pains to clarify a seemingly small matter is to prevent the situation from becoming a love and respect issue that needs decoding. Clarifying is what you do to stay off the Crazy Cycle and keep positive, energetic feelings flowing between the two of you, to keep yourselves on the Energizing Cycle.
Self-interest should never come ahead of your spouse’s interests.
Every marriage includes trouble some of the time. Do not let the 20% leaven all the rest.
She’ll feel at peace with you when you let her vent your frustrations and hurts and don’t get angry and close her off.
We have discovered that as women motivate their man God’s way, men are energized to love them better. It doesn’t matter if your marriage is good or seems like there is no hope. We have seen God move in powerful ways even when things looked hopeless.
Being a person who communicates what is true frequently demands tact, and at times it can feel like sidestepping land mines. It takes work to be both truthful and tactful.
[Husbands] as the church places her burdens on Christ, so a woman needs to place her burdens on her husband. When she shares with you, don’t assume she is asking you to solve the problem. Ask your wife, “Do you want a solution or a listening ear?”
When Jesus said “turn the other cheek,” He wasn’t saying to be passive wimps. He was teaching that physically people can control you but if you turn and give the other cheek, suddenly you’re in control and you’re making the choices.
It’s hard to realize that we would never act around our business associates the way we act around our spouse.
We can communicate the truth in the best of manners, but the person may be so insecure he or she can only react and attack like a wounded bear.
Optimism or pessimism? It is always a choice, no matter what your natural temperament.
Will we decide how we see God based on our circumstances, or will we see our circumstances in light of how we view God?
It is so easy to draw wrong conclusions about a spouse’s character and motives due to an occasional flare-up or silly comment.
A wife has one driving need: to feel loved. When that need is met, she is happy. A husband has one driving need: to feel respected. When that need is met, he is happy. When either of these needs isn’t met, things get crazy with conflict.
As a husband, if you can grasp that you don’t always have to solve your wife’s problems, you will take a giant step toward showing her empathy and understanding.
Unconditional respect is as powerful to him as unconditional love is to her.
Focus on the positive in the midst of the negative, and the Energizing Cycle will keep right on humming.
Since it is easy to focus on the negative, focus on your mate’s good qualities and express thanks with positive words of Love or Respect.
Thank the Lord that in the very beginning He created them male and female – Blue and Pink. Ask Him for patience and ever-growing understanding of how men and women see and hear differently. “He created them male and female, and He blessed them.” (Genesis 5:2)
Mutual understanding, not communication, is the key to a healthy marriage relationship.

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