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When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

A minor unannounced U-turn after church escalates into hours of tears and despair for one wife, revealing how everyday preferences quickly spiral into the Crazy Cycle of missing love and respect.

Since God Wants Me to Believe in Him, Why Doesn’t He Just Appear to Me?

Since God Wants Me to Believe in Him, Why Doesn’t He Just Appear to Me?

As a new believer in Christ at age sixteen, I recall one night going outside my home in Peoria, Illinois, and crying out to God to show Himself to me to confirm that what I believed about Him was true. “Just appear to me!” I begged of God.

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

Most of us long for a better marriage, and that longing is to be applauded. However, how might some go about improving the relationship?

When God’s Plan Does Not Match Your Expectations: The Untold Story Of Joseph Barsabbas

When God’s Plan Does Not Match Your Expectations: The Untold Story Of Joseph Barsabbas

When I went off to military school in eighth grade, where I stayed for the next five years, there was another cadet who entered eighth grade with me.

When There’s Something Else Going On Behind the Conflict

Since God Wants Me to Believe in Him, Why Doesn’t He Just Appear to Me?

Profiling a Spouse: The Invitation to Unearth New Insights Explaining Their Behaviors

When God’s Plan Does Not Match Your Expectations: The Untold Story Of Joseph Barsabbas

What is The Love and Respect System? Part III [Video]

What is The Love and Respect System? Part III [Video]

Did you miss Part I and Part II of this three-part series? I recommend checking them out first, and then moving on to Part III below. This overview will teach you the basic Love and Respect principles and show you how applying them can improve your marriage as you understand the 3 cycles: The Crazy Cycle; The Energizing Cycle; The Rewarded Cycle.

What is The Love and Respect System? Part II [Video]

What is The Love and Respect System? Part II [Video]

Did you miss Part I of this three-part series? I recommend checking it out HERE first, and then moving on to Part II below. This week, I’m giving you an overview of the Love and Respect system. In this series, you’ll learn about the three cycles, the basic principles of Love and Respect and how applying them can improve your marriage.

What is The Love and Respect System? Part I [Video]

What is The Love and Respect System? Part I [Video]

Over the next few days, I’m going to provide you with an overview of the Love and Respect system. This overview will teach you its basic principles and show you how applying them can improve your marriage as you understand the 3 cycles: The Crazy Cycle; The Energizing Cycle; The Rewarded Cycle

Is the Book Love & Respect in the Family a Spin-Off of Love & Respect in Marriage?

Is the Book Love & Respect in the Family a Spin-Off of Love & Respect in Marriage?

What do we say to those who suggest Emerson applies the principles of Love and Respect to parenting as though he simply had to come up with something to say to parents and so used the same message? For example, one gal commented on Facebook in response to this post about the Family Crazy Cycle, which says: Without love a child reacts without respect, and without respect a parent reacts without love.

Parenting

If a Husband Is Unrespectable Should a Wife Show Him Contempt and Disrespect? [Video]

If a Husband Is Unrespectable Should a Wife Show Him Contempt and Disrespect? [Video]

A woman asks, “How do you respect a man who has a habit of lying and going against everything the Word says. How does this work in an unequally yoked marriage? I have no respect for willful sin. I can respect free will choice, but not the sin and choices he makes to lead his family away from God.” The question you ask is a common one and I urge anyone who feels this way to read through what we have written in articles and in the book Love & Respect. They will discover that we never tell a wife to respect bad behavior.

Responding To A Child's Disrespect [Video]

Responding To A Child's Disrespect [Video]

An unloved child reacts negatively in a way that feels disrespectful to a parent. A disrespected parent reacts negatively in a way that feels unloving to the child. We might say that every negative action in the family has an equal and opposite negative reaction.

Parenting

What Are the First Two Questions Parents Should Ask When A Family Conflict Ignites?

What Are the First Two Questions Parents Should Ask When A Family Conflict Ignites?

Incidents that can deflate or provoke our kids happen all the time. They wind up feeling unloved; we wind up feeling disrespected and like failures because we blew it again. Disappointingly, a small issue seems to grow into something much larger. When the Family Crazy Cycle begins to spin, the issue—whatever you are disagreeing about—is becoming The Issue. Remember, the first step in decoding is to discern what is happening at two levels:

Parenting

Who Does He Think He Is? God? [Video]

Who Does He Think He Is? God? [Video]

Jesus makes an extraordinary statement in the Gospel of John, 14:9. He says, “He who has seen Me has seen the Father.” I remember reading that and thinking, “Who does He think He is? God?” Yes.