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Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

Our Pink and Blue Designs Even Have Us Solving Problems Differently!

I have spoken often about the need to understand and appreciate God’s pink and blue design of women and men, respectively, because our differences undoubtedly go well beyond the biological.

Do You Believe in Miracles? Why the Christian Must Say “Yes!”

Do You Believe in Miracles? Why the Christian Must Say “Yes!”

On February 22, 1980, hall-of-fame sports broadcaster Al Michaels gave us perhaps the most iconic call ever in a sporting event.

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

We’ve all thought that before, right? Many times, in fact. After all, we are a selfish people. It’s only natural for us to get caught up in thinking about what I need, and what you can do for me.

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

The #1 Reason a Person Declares, “I Want to Do This Love and Respect Thing But Can't!" [Video]

The #1 Reason a Person Declares, “I Want to Do This Love and Respect Thing But Can't!" [Video]

Over the years, I have heard spouses complain, “I cannot do this love and respect thing.” They refer to God’s command in Ephesians 5:33. Husbands are to love and wives respect.My heart goes out to them. Sarah and I fall short as well.

Is My Spouse Good or Evil?

Is My Spouse Good or Evil?

Q: I have heard you refer to “good will” a lot. What does that really mean and how do I know if my spouse has good will or evil will toward me? Dr. E says: Good question! The line between good and evil will can certainly get blurred when couples are spinning on the Crazy Cycle!Let me try to unpack this in less than 1,000 words. Good intentions, poor delivery.

I Wanted to Quit My Marriage

I Wanted to Quit My Marriage

Have you ever tried to apply Love and Respect to your marriage and then wanted to throw in the towel? Galatians 6:9 says, “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Let’s hear how one weary wife made the decision to not give up. At first, I radically changed. Something radically changed in me through applying.

What Will Your Children Say At Your Funeral?

What Will Your Children Say At Your Funeral?

As our children were growing up, we often stopped at cemeteries on a long road trip to let the kids get some exercise or to deal with sibling conflict. That may sound like a morbid place to do such earthly things, but the kids enjoyed reading the epitaphs, names and dates. It made for some great conversations and teaching moments.It’s so interesting that to this day our daughter Joy has a love of cemeteries. In fact, she lives a block away from her favorite one and almost daily walks through it to talk to God and think about life ….and the reality of death.

Are We Blowing Smoke About Love and Respect? [Video]

Are We Blowing Smoke About Love and Respect? [Video]

In the military, smoke screening is a tactic to disguise one’s intentions and activities by spraying smoke. The smoke acts as a ploy to prevent others from knowing one’s real purpose and condition. But smoke screening can happen in relationships too. Perhaps nothing exposes our human imperfections as much as marriage. And when a spouse points out an imperfection in their mate, what might that person do?

Does Respect Mean No Questions Asked?

Does Respect Mean No Questions Asked?

Q: My husband has given me reasons to not trust him. Am I now being called to trust without question, because my questions show him a lack of respect? Dr. E says: To answer this, let me clarify the meaning of respect. In the book Love & Respectwe address the importance of respectfully confronting issues. We never say you have to ignore or feel respect for the bad behavior of your husband. No, asking questions does not show a lack of respect.

Pastor Shares Love & Respect in Church and Prison

Pastor Shares Love & Respect in Church and Prison

Whether you are in a church small group or your marriage is affected by imprisonment, your marriage can change for the better! We appreciate how this pastor discovered that applying the Love and Respect principles toward inmates was just as impactful as applying them in church. Let’s hear from Pastor Jerry! Dr. Eggerichs,I first learned of your work watching Focus on the Family a number of years ago. I was pastoring a small church at the time. Your subject matter peaked my interest and materials were ordered to use in an evening class at the church.

One of the Most Important Parenting Tools I Discovered

One of the Most Important Parenting Tools I Discovered

I heard the break. It sounded like a tree limb cracking from the weight of a storm. But there was no rain, no thunder, and no lightning. I saw everyone rush to our son’s side. David was really hurting…writhing in pain. Excruciating pain!!! The umpire called “timeout” and the ambulance soon arrived. Every parent’s nightmare.A life long discipline.

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