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Do You Believe in Miracles? Why the Christian Must Say “Yes!”

Do You Believe in Miracles? Why the Christian Must Say “Yes!”

On February 22, 1980, hall-of-fame sports broadcaster Al Michaels gave us perhaps the most iconic call ever in a sporting event.

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She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

She Asks, "What About My Needs?"

We’ve all thought that before, right? Many times, in fact. After all, we are a selfish people. It’s only natural for us to get caught up in thinking about what I need, and what you can do for me.

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Am I Responsible for My Spouse’s Reactions?

Am I Responsible for My Spouse’s Reactions?

Have you ever experienced a conflict with your spouse like this one I described in my book Love & Respect? The husband is gone for a week on a business trip. As his plane lands, he starts envisioning a romantic evening with his wife, so he hurries home as quickly as he can.

Are You Manipulating Him or Motivating Him?

Are You Manipulating Him or Motivating Him?

Have you ever gotten the results you wanted but not in the way you wanted them, and as a result you were not as satisfied as you had hoped you’d be at that point? For example, your goal was for your son to clean up his messy room, which he did.

What Does It Mean for You if You Do Not Have the Gift of Celibacy?

What Does It Mean for You if You Do Not Have the Gift of Celibacy?

In 1 Corinthians 7:7, Paul wrote, “I wish that all men were even as I myself am. However, each has his own gift from God, one in this way, and another in that.”

In Marriage, a Misdiagnosis Can Lead to the Crazy Cycle

In Marriage, a Misdiagnosis Can Lead to the Crazy Cycle

Anyone who has visited the emergency room or urgent care with a mystery pain or illness knows how important it is to receive an accurate diagnosis from the doctor.

Who’s to Blame When Pinocchio or Mr. Magoo Reads Love & Respect?

Who’s to Blame When Pinocchio or Mr. Magoo Reads Love & Respect?

One person said about my book Love & Respect: This was one of my chief concerns with the book when I read it 10 years ago. Wives are portrayed as being actually disrespectful, while a husband is portrayed as simply being misunderstood. The problem was always ultimately the wife, either her own actions, or her perception.

When You Can Be Right but Wrong with the Choice of Your Words

When You Can Be Right but Wrong with the Choice of Your Words

For many years I’ve shared the sentiment that “you can be right but wrong at the top of your voice.” This stemmed from a conversation I had with my wife, Sarah, one night as we were driving home from a small group meeting I was leading.

Do Wives Only Need Love and Husbands Only Need Respect?

Do Wives Only Need Love and Husbands Only Need Respect?

In my book Love & Respect, I wrote, "I sometimes get the question, ‘You say women need love and men need respect. Isn’t the opposite just as true? Don’t gals need respect and guys need love?’ My answer is, of course, women need respect and guys need love" (page 47).

Is He Making Innocent Suggestions or Unloving Criticisms?

Is He Making Innocent Suggestions or Unloving Criticisms?

A wife who wrote to me recognized that her husband’s suggestion to do something in a different way was rooted in his goodwill. As a result, she sought to apply a respectful demeanor in response to his suggestion, which motivated him to be more loving. Great news, right?