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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic. 

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
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9
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
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6
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
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10
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 3

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 3

Part 1 showed us the value of focusing on the long term. Part 2 gave us the game plan. But what if a child’s behavior is not what it appears to be? Not What It Seems. The immediate disobedience of a child may not be what it appears, and the “obedience” of another child may not be what it seems.

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 3
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Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 2

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 2

In Part 1 of this series, we realized there are holy and unholy means to correcting a child’s behavior. As parents we must do what God called parents to do. For this, I use the acronym “G.U.I.D.E.S.” Let me explain. In football, the coaches develop a game plan. Even if they get behind by 21 points in the first quarter, quality teams stick to the game plan. There are three quarters left, and time and again we see football teams come from behind to win the game.

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 2
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Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 1

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 1

Should a parent focus on a child’s behavior? Absolutely, but not solely. A parent must keep his own actions in sight, not just the outcomes in his child. Those parents who see the two sides of the parenting coin – their own behavior and the behavior of their children – increase their chances of being more effective with the outcomes in their children.

Two Sides Of A Parenting Coin - Part 1
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God Joined You Together, But Will He Keep You Together? [Video]

God Joined You Together, But Will He Keep You Together? [Video]

Matthew 19:6 says, “So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” We are all familiar with the phrase “until death do you part” in the wedding vows. The Christian view is that marriage is for keeps--a value that is under constant attack in our present-day culture. Jesus’ words are a powerful reminder that God--not some human legal requirement--has joined you together.

God Joined You Together, But Will He Keep You Together? [Video]
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The 80:20 Ratio: The Secret to Appreciating Your Marriage [Video]

The 80:20 Ratio: The Secret to Appreciating Your Marriage [Video]

1 Corinthians 7:28 says, “But those who marry will have trouble in this life” (NCV). In the book of Corinthians, Paul warns us of the responsibilities, involvements and, yes, the troubles that come with marriage. When I quote 1 Corinthians 7:28 at our conferences, many in the audience chuckle as if they understand perfectly what Paul is saying.

The 80:20 Ratio: The Secret to Appreciating Your Marriage [Video]
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Do You Have A Goodwilled Marriage? [Video]

Do You Have A Goodwilled Marriage? [Video]

Proverbs 11:27 says, “He who seeks good finds goodwill, but evil comes to him who searches for it” (NIV). I am sometimes asked what I think is the most important principle we teach. Pink and Blue (not wrong, just different) comes to mind, but so does one simple word: goodwill. When you and your spouse see each other as good-willed, good things are in store for your marriage.

Do You Have A Goodwilled Marriage? [Video]
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Pink and Blue: Not Wrong, Just Different! [Video]

Pink and Blue: Not Wrong, Just Different! [Video]

One of the most powerful and eye-opening concepts in the Love and Respect approach to marriage is the difference between pink and blue. We aren’t talking about how to decorate a nursery here. We are simply pointing out how God made men and women as different as the colors pink and blue.

Pink and Blue: Not Wrong, Just Different! [Video]
Marriage
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What Do Parents And Children Need?

What Do Parents And Children Need?

Parents need to be treated with honor and respect. Exodus 20:12--“Honor your father and your mother.” Leviticus 19:3 --“Each of you must respect your mother and father.” Matthew 15:4 --“Honor your father and your mother.” Hebrews 12:9 --“We had earthly fathers to discipline us, and we respected them.”

What Do Parents And Children Need?
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