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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic. 

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
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9
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
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6
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
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10
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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How To Get Off The Crazy Cycle: The Importance Of Assuming Goodwill

How To Get Off The Crazy Cycle: The Importance Of Assuming Goodwill

One way to get off the Crazy Cycle is to believe your spouse has goodwill. In other words, your wife isn't trying to be disrespectful, but is crying out for your love, and your husband is not trying to be unloving, but is crying out for respect. In believing your spouse has goodwill, you are to trust that your spouse means no harm, but wants only good things to happen between you.

How To Get Off The Crazy Cycle: The Importance Of Assuming Goodwill
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Should You Divorce For The Sake Of The Kids? Part 2 [Video]

Should You Divorce For The Sake Of The Kids? Part 2 [Video]

Over the next two days we will be examining a challenging question. We ask that you are kind and considerate in your responses and read both Part 1 and Part 2 before commenting. If the reason you’re considering divorce is for the sake of the kids, consider this: if this really is about the kids, parents would do everything in their power to face the issues and not leave the marriage for the children’s sake.

Should You Divorce For The Sake Of The Kids? Part 2 [Video]
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Should You Divorce for the Sake of the Kids? Part 1 [Video]

Should You Divorce for the Sake of the Kids? Part 1 [Video]

I cannot count the number of times I have heard people say, “We are divorcing for the sake of the kids. You know how it is, we fight and argue way too much, and it is not good for the kids. There’s no physical abuse, we just don’t get along. We are tired of constantly bickering with each other. It is taking a toll on the kids that isn’t worth it anymore. We need to end this marriage so the kids don’t suffer. "I want to reply,...

Should You Divorce for the Sake of the Kids? Part 1 [Video]
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3 Basic Biblical Truths About Marriage [Video]

3 Basic Biblical Truths About Marriage [Video]

Three biblical truths about marriage opened up to me around 1999 and I have been sharing them since. Though I had known these truths, I knew them vaguely. I really didn’t grasp and articulate them very well. What are the 3 truths? Watch the video or read the post. 1. I am not married in heaven.

3 Basic Biblical Truths About Marriage [Video]
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I Want to Tell My Spouse They’re Wrong, But How? Part 2

I Want to Tell My Spouse They’re Wrong, But How? Part 2

As we discussed in Part 1, the Bible says, “Speak truth each one of you with his neighbor, for we are members of one another” (Ephesians 4:25). So how should you approach your spouse with the truth about something you believe they need to hear? Always see your mate as an ally. Feedback is of little use if you see your spouse as an enemy.

I Want to Tell My Spouse They’re Wrong, But How? Part 2
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I Want to Tell My Spouse They’re Wrong, But How? Part 1

I Want to Tell My Spouse They’re Wrong, But How? Part 1

The Bible says in Ephesians 4:25, “Speak truth each one of you with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.” Obviously, Paul intended the married to apply this, as well. A few verses later he talks to husbands and wives. He expected couples to heed his counsel. So what does it mean to speak the truth to a spouse?

I Want to Tell My Spouse They’re Wrong, But How? Part 1
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How To Have Fewer Arguments With Your Spouse: Not Wrong, Just Different!

How To Have Fewer Arguments With Your Spouse: Not Wrong, Just Different!

One of the most popular analogies we use at our Love and Respect Marriage Conferences describes the differences between men and women in terms of pink and blue. Women look at the world through pink sunglasses, while men look at that same world through blue sunglasses.

How To Have Fewer Arguments With Your Spouse: Not Wrong, Just Different!
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What If My Spouse Doesn't Respond To My Efforts?

What If My Spouse Doesn't Respond To My Efforts?

In Ephesians 5:33, the husband is commanded to love his wife and the wife is commanded to respect her husband. But what if your husband doesn't show you love when you show him respect? And what if your wife doesn't show you respect as you show her love?If you get no results from practicing the principles of Love and Respect, why bother?

What If My Spouse Doesn't Respond To My Efforts?
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