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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
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A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach

If I ranked comments from wives to me, this one comes in close to the top: “My husband hurts my feelings.”

A Wife’s Hurt Feelings: Beyond a Husband’s Apology, Rethinking a Fresh Approach
Marriage
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Countless divorcees have told us over the years that had they known the Love and Respect truth underlying the negative cycle they found themselves constantly on (which we refer to as the Crazy Cycle), they would never have divorced.

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

Husbands and wives are going to disagree . . . many times. They’re going to have arguments . . . many times. On top of that, husbands will disappoint wives, and wives will disappoint husbands, bringing reason for the offended or hurt spouse to broach a possibly sensitive or tough topic. 

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

There is an axiom that I have used in my teachings for as long as I can remember that, to this day, I still fully believe in its simple but life-changing truth: “My response is my responsibility.”

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

When I was on staff at a church in the 1970s, we sought to serve widows and orphans. Though they were not all widows, we decided to lean into assisting single parents specifically.

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce

Seek Mutual Understanding, Not Divorce
Marriage
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9
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When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?

When Disappointed in Our Spouse, Do We Address Their Conduct or Attack Their Character?
Marriage
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6
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“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits

“My Response Is My Responsibility”—7 Fears and 7 Benefits
Marriage
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10
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According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...

According To Jesus, All We Need To Be Content Is Food, Covering, And One More Thing...
Christian Life
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Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 3: Three Important Areas To Consider

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 3: Three Important Areas To Consider

Part 1 and Part 2 discussed and showed you that: - A wife must guard against judging her husband because he does not respond like she would respond. - A husband must guard against judging his wife because she does not respond like he would respond. So how do you apply this in healing your marriage?

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 3: Three Important Areas To Consider
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Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 2: Moving Forward

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 2: Moving Forward

Part 1 showed us how blaming the spouse and negative profiling do not heal a marriage. It does not solve the problem. What should you do with a disrespectful wife? How do you handle an unloving husband? I have learned that spouses who move forward to heal the marriage do not habitually and negatively profile.

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 2: Moving Forward
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Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 1: Naming and Blaming

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 1: Naming and Blaming

What if a wife thinks she is respectful, but her husband says she is disrespectful? What if a husband thinks he is loving, but his wife says he isn’t loving? What then? What should a wife do when she sees herself holding up her end of the bargain, but he feels she’s mistaken? What should a husband do when he sees himself as doing his part, but she feels he is misguided?

Understanding Your Motivation in Your Marriage, Part 1: Naming and Blaming
Marriage
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Why Does God Not Answer Your Question, “Why God?” [Video]

Why Does God Not Answer Your Question, “Why God?” [Video]

We will always have unanswered questions in this life and they can cause us to shut down on God, at which point we block the Lord from working in our lives. We all have our box labeled, “Why, God?” and in that box are the things that haunt, goad or discourage us.

Why Does God Not Answer Your Question, “Why God?” [Video]
Christian Life
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The Crazy Cycle: Why We Negatively React

The Crazy Cycle: Why We Negatively React

As I have shared in my book, Love & Respect, my wife, Sarah, and I learned that we speak different languages. While we had a good marriage, we still struggled with irritation, anger, and plenty of hurt feelings. Often we just couldn’t communicate, but we didn’t know why. A lot of the time it seemed that indeed we were speaking different languages, but we had no idea what to do about it. It was frustrating—and embarrassing. After all, I was a pastor and should have had the answer to something like this!

The Crazy Cycle: Why We Negatively React
Marriage
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A Beginner’s Guide To Understanding Your Spouse’s Needs [Video]

A Beginner’s Guide To Understanding Your Spouse’s Needs [Video]

A wife complains to her husband saying, "I feel fat and ugly, and I have nothing to wear!” The next day at the Christian bookstore, his eyes catch the book, Dieting for the Christian Woman. The subtitle is, “Post-holiday Menus.” Viewing the diet book more as a cookbook, he buys it. When he gives her the book at home, she goes ballistic. He thinks he’s just witnessed a rocket launch at Cape Canaveral.

A Beginner’s Guide To Understanding Your Spouse’s Needs [Video]
Marriage
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Do You Defuse Conflict Before It Gets Out of Control?

Do You Defuse Conflict Before It Gets Out of Control?

Strife in a family can destroy it.We know what Solomon penned, “Better is a dry morsel and quietness with it than a house full of feasting with strife” (Proverbs 17:1). For this reason, as Solomon comments, “Better is a dish of vegetables where love is than a fattened ox served with hatred” (Proverbs 15:17). God calls us to defuse strife:

Do You Defuse Conflict Before It Gets Out of Control?
Parenting
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Your Humor: Disguised Cruelty or Good-Hearted Wit? [VIDEO]

Your Humor: Disguised Cruelty or Good-Hearted Wit? [VIDEO]

My sister has a hilarious funny bone and sent this to me. Though she said, “You might not be able to use it since it is an ad from a beer company,” I am using it: "My wife told me we couldn't afford beer anymore and I'd have to quit. Then I caught her spending $65 on makeup. And I asked how come I had to give up stuff and she didn’t. She said she needed the makeup to look pretty for me. I told her that was what the beer was for."

Your Humor: Disguised Cruelty or Good-Hearted Wit? [VIDEO]
Marriage
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5
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